A question

Kell

Someones moan about how to ask her out got me thinking about this.

Have any of you ever walked up to male or female of choice and simply said something along the lines of: "I think you look amazing and I would love to get into your knickers if thats OK with you"?

As a male, I have been on the receiving end of "If we werent in a crowded bar, I'd have your pants off like a light" and fair play she went through with it, and a mate got "I would like to take you home and f*ck your brains out" from a lady who winded up being his wife, then ex-wife but thats a whole other story.

Is it easier for girls to say such a thing as I reckon most blokes reactions would be "Cool, I'll just get my jacket", or can blokes get away with it too or are they definitely going to get a smack in the face or removed by an unfriendly security guard?

scojones

Most definately a smack in the face by her and the security guard It all depends on the person, however it is a form of sexual harassment isn't it? Some people would see it that way anyway.

Kell

I think to rate as harrassment it has to happen more than once- i.e. if you say it to a person, they take offense, you take hint then it isnt harrassment. It's only harassment if they tell you were to go and you ignore their complaint.

Miguel_Sanchez

Well you know I was on the receiving end of this line one night in a galway night club:

"Will you have sex with me tonight?"

I had spoken (briefly) to this girl earlier in the night - I hadn't flirted with her or given her any encouragement as I was after someone else at the time and this girl I think wasn't even 18 at the time.

Well I wasn't offended but I was far from enticed too. Her approach had all the charm of a wet fish being slapped across my face and to be honest I think that the old 'chatting up' still has a whole load of charm for both sexes.

G'wan folks - ask her/him if they come here often.

ballooba

It has only happened to me twice and both times it was in the last few weeks. Both times I nearly fell over with shock (well half shock, half delight)!!

Mewzel

i really dont think that a guy could get away with being that blunt with a girl, cant think of any of my girl friends being impressed in any case!

Kell

Originally posted by Mewzel
i really dont think that a guy could get away with being that blunt with a girl

There's the rub. Why on earth not? Why is it OK to work one way but not the other? To be honest I am sick of the political correctness of society that just serves to get in the way of everything you are trying to say.

Why the f*ck should some guy be branded a freak and risk ejection if he walks up to some bird in a club and says he'd really like to fúck her brains out when it's quite alright for said female to do opposite with male with no fear of reprisals.

More thoughts please.

sceptre

Had a 10 min conversation with some American chick who I'd never met before in a London nightclub that finished with me saying something along the lines of what Kell posted above.

Worked a treat

Typedef

goal!

It's coming home, it's coming home, it's coming

FOOTBALL's coming home.

Caesar_Bojangle

I'll try it tomorrow night and see if it works. "Hey, i was just wondering do you take it up the ass? aaowwwwwwwwwww why the f*** did you smash a glass in to my groin, i was just asking a simple question"

OSiriS

It has absolutely nothing to do with political correctness. The fact of the matter is the attitudes of men and women are different. Generally girls are used to being ogled by men and many can afford to be choosy about who they go off with. Alot of men are up for a shag anytime, and the idea of a good looking girl asking them for a shag is very appealing. Just because you would like a girl to ask you to sleep with her doesn't automatically make it ok to do the same with any girl you see.

The Corinthian

Your average woman out on the town will get chatted up, propositioned and groped a dozen times, in a night. As such walking over to a woman blind drunk and, while drooling from the corner of your mouth, asking “Wush s’u lik to fusk..?” is not really going to make her wet herself (well, perhaps in fear).

On the other hand, the only person likely to proposition a man on a night out is a gypsy trying to flog him a rose.

Men will pursue, cajole, manipulate and deceive women into sex (a.k.a. seduction), while women will, in turn, weigh up the pros and cons (during a 10 minute conversation/chat-up, a woman’s likely to change her mind about sleeping with a man two or three times) and decide wither they’re going to play hide the salami with the man or not. This more passive approach (given they are the deciding party) by women comes down to the fact that women have the babies, and men don’t.

But retuning to the original point, I remember a chap I knew ten years ago, who’s party trick in nightclubs was going up to a seemingly random woman, physically grabbing her, and informing her that she was “kidnapped”.

And it actually used to work.

So ironically, it might just come down to whether you have the balls or not to do so.

Mewzel

i do think its wrong that it doesnt work the other way round, im just saying that in general it doesnt. i find that in general girls are alot more uptight about the whole sex issue, therefore i couldnt imagine a guy being that straightfoward, actually working.

Caesar_Bojangle

Unfortunately i'm sick so couldnt put your theory into practice. All i know about women comes from reading the secret garden and watching open house but still as a whole we tend to be more frank in general conversation about sex whereas women are very discreet, or appear to be at least, on the topic of sex in casual terminology. Argue that if you must as if i was to be curt i could not give two poops.

yellum

works for some guys Its all in the attitude