How do I ask her out?

LegacyUser · 22-01-2003 11:14pm #1

Ok, I've known this girl for about a month. She works in this deli/cafe where I eat a few times a week. I like her, she's physicly atractive and seems to be a genuinly nice person with a brain (rare to get all 3). And it seems to work the other way too, any time I stop in for a sandwidge, she seems to make some exscuse to drop by my table for a chat. Often, it feels a bit awkward with (I think) both of us wanting to say a bith more, but not being able to, as we don't know each other well enough to pass coments or ask questions. And it can be awkward in front of other people in the deli also. I have some questions.

Is she just being nice to get a tip?

How do I find out if she is single.

How do I ask her out.

seamus · 22-01-2003 11:30pm

If she's not single, it's highly unlikely she'd drop by your table. You're well in.

Two simple lines:

What time do you finish work today?

Do you fancy meeting up for dinner/drink?

And away you go.......

OSiriS · 23-01-2003 12:03am

Agreed best jump right in, decide before hand how you who will ask her and pop the question so to speak.

Mr.Applepie · 23-01-2003 12:38am

How do I find out if she is single.

So hows the love life? Its gets the point across

Miguel_Sanchez · 23-01-2003 1:14am

You could always try turning the conversation to cinema or films or somewhat. Ask her has she seen , Y or Z film that's showing in the cinema. If she hasn't then say you were thinking of checking it out soon - would she like to go with you?

And sure if you make a fool of yourself all you have to do is change where you buy your sandwiches.

Beruthiel · 23-01-2003 8:45am

I believe your question has been answered by all of the above! go for it, you've absolutely nothing to loose!!

Mercury_Tilt · 23-01-2003 8:54am

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Kell · 23-01-2003 9:14am

Does anyone ever wonder how many terse "How do I ask X out" questions can be asked on this forum until every possible angle of the human dating psyche are covered? Pretty soon people from Limerick will know the exact nuances of asking out the babe of their dreams from Blackrock in Cork and for the extra-terrestrials that tune in Vogons will no longer find that their poetry is lost on Vulcan generals.

Bottom line- does no one read the older threads for advice?

Tazz T · 23-01-2003 9:25am

Yeah. But I think a lot of ppl just like a bit of personal advice and a bit of encouragement too.

hussey · 23-01-2003 9:49am

ask her to cineama,
personally I think its a good place, you can have small talk before film, if you've nothing to talk about after you can talk about the film
if your getting good vibes, then say something like

'Do ya wanna have a quite drink' or Do ya wanna do this again sometime etc

PH01 · 23-01-2003 10:54am

The cinema option sounds like the best bet. Or take her ro a play in a theatre.
Or better still try flirting with her a wee bit (just a little - don't over do it). See what kind reaction you get - see if she's interested. Then pop the 'ask her out question'.

Kell · 23-01-2003 12:24pm

You could just ask to see her cotton panties in the jax out back during your coffee and sandwich.

po0k · 23-01-2003 3:43pm

Direct, to the point, and above all smoooooooth.

Go with Kell's advice

Beruthiel · 23-01-2003 4:16pm

Originally posted by Kell
You could just ask to see her cotton panties in the jax out back during your coffee and sandwich.

still single then Kell??????

Kell · 23-01-2003 4:20pm

Originally posted by seamus
If she's not single, it's highly unlikely she'd drop by your table. You're well in.

Have to disagree. There is a little coffee place beside where I used to work in town that myself and work colleagues went to every day for lunch, and where the most outrageously good looking talent worked. All of them spent a huge amount of time talking to and flirting with us all (we are outrageously handsome blokes though (Kidding) ). 98% of them were attached, they were just really nice people thus disproving the theory of not dropping by if she was attached.

If the same girl came into my shop three days a week, wasnt a twat and wasnt necessarily stunning, I'd make time to go and chat to her. Having worked in the catering trade, regular customers used to come in and specifically ask for particular staff to look after them and vice-versa. There were certain customers I used to love to see and chat to purely on the basis that they were nice people. Maybe the same applies here.

Kell · 23-01-2003 4:32pm

Originally posted by Beruthiel
still single then Kell??????

A funny story surrounds my meeting my Fiancée Ruthie, but no I am not single and I havent been for some time. My fiancée saved me from writing the whole female race of as a shower of f*ckers. She decided what she wanted i.e. moi and went about getting me in the most direct way. Incidentally, she's Scottish and she hates Irish women. So do I for that matter.

On the other hand, I seem to remember a post some months ago Ruthie where someone referred to me lacking a sense of humour and I think you agreed with them. If your barb was in jest, I withdraw the above and laugh. If not the above still applies.

X

ballooba · 23-01-2003 5:10pm

Just be direct!!

Tell her you want to be buried with her people.

Gordon · 23-01-2003 5:15pm

Originally posted by Kell
All of them spent a huge amount of time talking to and flirting with us all

I think that should read

All of them spent a huge amount of time trying to butter us up so that we would give them tips

Kell · 23-01-2003 5:19pm

Originally posted by Gordon
I think that should read

"All of them spent a huge amount of time trying to butter us up so that we would give them tips"

I have just returned to earth so fast that I am now tuning in from Oz. F*ck my head hurts.

Typedef · 23-01-2003 5:19pm

"All of them spent a huge amount of time trying to butter us up so that we would give them tips"

Just pay your 13.5% Mr Pink.

Less of the wisecracks.

Kell · 23-01-2003 5:22pm

"I dont want to be called Mr. Fu*kin Pink. Why cant I be called Mr. fúckin black or something".

Gordon · 23-01-2003 5:28pm

13.5%! Wow, if I give a tip it is usually 10% unless of course very exceptional service is given and she is lahvely.

Anyway original poster, in your conversation surely you speak about stuff like "I went to a concert the other day, it was great" or as pointed out "I am going to the cinema to see a film I heard which was great". Replace these with

I went to a concert the other day and it was great, I think you would have liked it. Maybe you would like to come to their next one?"

or

I am going to the cinema to watch "blah blah", would you like to join me?"

Mewzel · 23-01-2003 7:34pm

as has been said already, just be direct. after all what do you really have to lose?
and good luck

Jim · 23-01-2003 9:40pm

Originally posted by Mewzel
as has been said already, just be direct. after all what do you really have to lose?
and good luck

what if her sandwichs are REALLY REALLY good? if she said no and your too embarrased to go in there again, you wud lose the sandwichs, possibly forever

Kell · 24-01-2003 9:35am

Originally posted by Jimeatsmenu
what if her sandwichs are REALLY REALLY good? if she said no and your too embarrased to go in there again, you wud lose the sandwichs, possibly forever

LOL. Spoken by a voice that really knows the value of a good sandwich and knows that they are in ever decreasing supply.

logic1 · 24-01-2003 10:58am

Originally posted by Jimeatsmenu
what if her sandwichs are REALLY REALLY good? if she said no and your too embarrased to go in there again, you wud lose the sandwichs, possibly forever

Depends on if her sandwiches are as nice as her baps.

.logic.

thedrowner · 24-01-2003 11:02am

Originally posted by seamus
If she's not single, it's highly unlikely she'd drop by your table. You're well in.

it's a high possibility that she's trying for tips. i work in a similar job and i am always being more friendly and hapy and jokey than i should be, just in the hope of earning a few more quid. all the better if it's a cute guy and you can flirt into the bargain.

you're only gonna know if you ask her out though, why not write a message to her on the back of a ten euro note (i've seen it happen before...it's very endearing) she'll be so charmed if she does fancy you. (if not...find a new place to ahve your sambo's)

Kell · 24-01-2003 11:09am

Originally posted by logic1
Depends on if her sandwiches are as nice as her baps.

LOL

Caesar_Bojangle · 25-01-2003 1:10am

Is she just being nice to get a tip?

I'm not trying to piss into the wind but when i was working in a bar during the summer if a familiar face came in, i'd immediately go over and start a conversation to kill some of the melancholic day and avoid my obligations to the man. Perhaps shes doing likewise, regardless of my pessimism just ask fo her mobile number and sample her baps.

DriftingRain · 29-01-2003 4:48am

If there is one thing a girl likes it is for a chap to take the first move. Take the advice from above and go in smooth and confident. Take a grasp on the situation at hand, and don't act like a dolt.! You'll do great!;)

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