Would (is) having kids be the best thing that could happen to you?

Slutmonkey57b

Insert tedious poll here: <Poll>

Ok - this is not restricted to parents (given the youngish profile of boards members it'd be a waste of time) but I'm interested in what people really think of having kids and the impact this has on their likely interest in wireless broadband internet deploying soon in rural areas around the back of the donkey pens.

Oh wait I got caught up in a viral marketing scam there. Just the bit about the kids then.

Beruthiel

as someone who was never very maternal, I have to say having a daughter completely changed my life, of course it is a hugh responsibility and I always had to put her first, no decision could be made without factoring her in, it's a lot of hard work, but in saying that, I would be lost without her, she roots me, keeps me on the straight and narrow and my life has meaning in a way that could not be found otherwise. It's wonderful to see her grow into the girl she is now, I highly recommend parenthood, though it's not for the fainthearted!!

BuffyBot

Well, as I'm never gonna have any it's hard to say - but if I did, I think it would be a very good thing.

JustHalf

I don't think it would be the absolute *best* thing that could happen to me - as I think finding God would have to be. It would be great though, and one of my hopes for the future is to have a child.

I'd need a wife for that though, and before *that* a girlfriend, so I'll concentrate on that first

seamus

Originally posted by BuffyBot
Well, as I'm never gonna have any it's hard to say - but if I did, I think it would be a very good thing.

Forgive me if I'm confusing you with someone else, but if you're gay, would you never consider adoption?

Blitzkrieger

After that Soham business I'd think twice......

phaxx

Not sure what my opinion on kids is, I think I'd like some one day, but certainly not soon. Give it at least ten years and I'll see how I feel then.

The Gopher

The state of the world wouldnt put me off Blitzkreiger.Children were alot more in danger when they risked getting shot by the black ad tans,or starving to death in the famine.Despite what we see in the papers every day its probably never been safer to have kids.Practically all diseases once commonplace such as polio have been eradicated.The world is the safest for kids in centuries.Obviously at my age i dont need any but 10 years down the road i wouldnt at all mind.

Kalina

Children are such a huge responsibility as Beruthiel so well pointed out and I'd like to be able to give a child the very best life possible so maybe in 10 years or so I'd like to be a parent. At that stage of my life having a child would be a wonderful thing.

BuffyBot

Originally posted by seamus


Forgive me if I'm confusing you with someone else, but if you're gay, would you never consider adoption?

a bit OT, but just to answer seamus' point

LOL your not, I don't think

I suppose I would consider it but, and probably would like to. I think gay adoption is cool, lots of other narrow minded gimps don't.

And then there is the kids - kids are a cruel bunch of feckers at the best of time, without giving them that whole field day to slag your kid about.

Just my thoughts

Thanx 4 The Fish

Am having a baby, well gf is and I am over the moon.....



In case ya haven't seen it, that's it there down the bottom...

Bard

Whether they be my kids, a partners kids from previous relationships, adopted... whatever!... having kids would definitely be one of the best things that could happen in my life... so YES. Absolutely.

You haven't seen the world at all until you've seen it again ... through childrens' eyes.

Nevyn

yes it is cant say The best but deffo two of the best things ever
I have one of each one boy one girl and thats my quota.

Yes the responsibily it huge and the whole thing is the most daunting, scarey freaking depressing wonderfull thing in the world. you learn so much more about yourself and what you can cope with when push comes to shove and hell that is only giving birth to the lil brats lol.

I think the hardest thing is keeping a straight face when they have sone something that wrong but also happens to be a riot .

phobos

Is your question, asking me if I would like kids Now, or Ever?

Now
Then my answer would be no. I have a lot more to learn in life myself before I feel capeable of teaching a child. I'm 22, starting a masters degree in college, and pretty much have my whole life ahead of me. I am a person that likes to be one step ahead of myself. I always like to have a plan. I hate when things don't go according to plan. For the next couple of years my plan doesn't involve kids. Right now I can never see myself having kids or even getting married. I'm too career orientated for that kind of thing. But then again I've changed so much over the past few years, got only knows what I will be looking for in life, in a few more.

Ever
Well if you read the last paragraph you would know I cannot answer this question. I like kids, but I've often sat down and thought to myself how would I deal with various situations that are bound to arise during my child's life. I don't think there is something as a perfect parent, but I would probably fúck up the poor child, trying too hard. The notion of raising a child incorrectly makes me nervous. I want to be a good father to my child, not make a half assed attempt. My parents split when I was 7 and my father made a balls of my upbringing when he was around. My mother on the otherhand has done a great job of raising me and my brother, and I often have talks with her about things in life. They turn out to be great discussions, and I love the relationship that I have with her, where I feel comfortable talking about anything. I don't want to have kids until I know I can do the same or better for my child.

BTW, Congratulations Thanx 4 The Fish

;-phobos-)

Sposs

Definitely not,I do Not like kids never had never will,i suppose you could call me selfish but i like things the way they are,i like the silence to read a book or watch a movie,i like the freedom to go anywhere i want,i like my house clean and organised.

Even seeing friends have children has stirred no emotion in me,i feel relieved to hand the child back and go home.

Luckily my Gf feels the same so he has never been a discussion,maybe some ppl are just not meant to have children are is there something not normal about me?

Nevyn

No you not that odd at all , I have two close firends and a sister that have less maternal insticts then a toad. All three are old enough to know thier own minds . Just cos you have a womb doesnt mean you have to use it is their motto

needless to say none of them are on the babysitting list , ( at thier request)

Slutmonkey57b

For those non-parent types out there and potentially squemish parents, piece of advice:
Never watch an ultrasound.
They're facinating, but they never warn you that you can see bones on an ultrasound. I for one could have done with a bit of warning.

Nevyn

lol you think that is bad lol
well some day if you are luck you'll find out the rest of the whole gorey story

Slutmonkey57b

Seen it all my dear.