falling for a bestfriend

LegacyUser

Ok-i'm mad about my unattached best friend,who loves me to bits but not in that way:(
I get butterflies whenever we're together, which is as often as possible.
It killing me and I have told my bestfriend as we are close enough to tell each other things like this.
Unfortunately nothing can ever happen and soon my popular best friend will be going out with someone,thats only a matter of time.

Anyone got some advice/emotional support for me - thanks

kaimera

Who sez nothing can happen??
If you *really* want something to happen, DO IT YORE SELF.
Take a chance cos seeing as how you two are bestest friends anyway, things wont be *that* weird if it goes pear-shaped.

Besides your friend may think the same of you and is prolly thinking the exact same thing you are.

Bestfriends make the best partners anyhow.
There's no "getting to know one another" period cos you both are best buds.

Just make a move.

LegacyUser

As far as I can see, the initial poster was fairly clear that he/she had told their best friend, and got the thumbs down.

"who loves me to bits but not in that way"

"I have told my bestfriend as we are close enough to tell each other things like this".

Sounds like things have been made clear enough between you too. As you probably know, there isn't anything you can do really, except struggle on. In time you'll get over it, at least partly. I say that because I was once rejected by a girl who I consider a friend. I can't say I'm completely over it, I still feel a bit suspect when thinking about her/or meet her. i think I'll always feel that way. You don't get over some things, you just learn to live with them. Don't stick to them like a fly on shíte if it's because of a desire to be something to them you can never be. The friendship may change, it happens.

LegacyUser

initial poster here
the last post has sorta hit the nail on the head.
it helps to have read that and the others thanks.
This is the strongest feelin i've ever had, and i really do care for my friend .
Caring is the best thing, but knowing that someone else will soon be the one for my friend kills me:(
I know thats not fair, but i can see soon us drifting and spendin less time together on account of that, yet i'll have to watch it all and bear the hurt,
i'm half thinkin of cutting all contact now-but thats not easy as the carin part won't let me do that and anyhow, we live closeby and know a lot of the same crew and all that.
feels like a mess that i wish i was never in:(

frood4t2

Hey if you figure something out, let me know on my thread

WhiteWashMan

all good things......

i know its hard, but try to find someone else to moon over.
it puts a great deal of strain ion a relationship where one person knows the other person fancies them, but doesnt recipricate the feeling.
just get used to it. it will happen again, and you will be in the opposite side as well from time to time.
its life.
you will get over it.
you will find the feeling goes away sooner rather than later.
you just have to occupy your time with other things, and when you get that little pang of hurt, then you just have to learn to deal with it.

LegacyUser

i had that very same problem but you have to move on!!! which would be worse going out with him/her, breaking up and things fall apart between ye or just staying very good friends? girl/boy friends will come and go but friends will be there for life!!!!!

LegacyUser

yeah, thats what its lookin like....
I'll have to end this for my sanity is going to go...
Went out with my friend last night and we were having a laff ... but then someone else is very keen on my friend and is getting in there.
Time for a break and time to try and move on...it's such a pity
while I always fancied my friend, that just grew very strong in the last year and some brilliant times.

I hope i can do this as it feels very painfull...
will probably text in a week with the howsitgoing stuff
aaaagh! and off it goes again think someone new will have to come along, that will help.
thanks again all