feeling depressed

LegacyUser

rite now im feeling very low.

the guy i fell in love with has recently found himself his perfect girl.
he never loved me so this is a lovely case of unrequited love.

we had gotten really close over the last few months and it has all
fallen apart. the last 2mnths has seen us going from one
arguement to another. generally because i learnt about thsi girl
and i didnt know how to cope with it. i miss him so much.
we were having a laugh toher and now its a disaster.
he played alot on my feelings over the last while and this has left
me very angry and hurt.

i feel completely worthless, useless, stupid, ugly and a failure to
myself. i havnt eaten much in the last four days and have lost a
good bit of weight.
my body and head feel like a mess and i just dont know how to
compe with any of this anymore.

i suffer from really bad depression every so often so this isnt
helping.

i know this guy isnt worth all this, its just bringing alot of self
hate to the fore.

rite now all i want is to feel watned and loved and cared for, but
i dont. my life seems utterly pointless and meaningless.

this is the only place i can bring myself to admit how im feeling.

Repli

Youll get over it only takes time.. of course your life cant become meaningless over 1 person what was it like before you met him?

Keno2

Well admitting how you feel here means you are admitting it to yourself I suppose. And thats the most important step towards any emotional recovery. You're certainly not a failure to yourself, not at all. I'm a guy and this has happened to me. Fall in love with the wrong girl and you're opening the door on a world of hurt. But still, we all get over it, time heals all wounds. Somebody else will appreciate what you have to give. But dont damage yourself over it. At the end of the day you're going to come out of this stronger than ever...

Ruaidhri

it seems like a world of pain?
the only advice anyone can give you really it that time will heal. and i know that sounds like ****e adive(cause i was given that before )but the hurt will eventually go away. right now what you really need is your friends.

best thing to do is just hang around with your best friend for a while(DO NOT go out and get pissed,that will make you feel a whole lot worse)

well i hope the hurting will go away

Saruman

Since i have never been in this situation i cant offer any advice other than dont make yourself even more depressed by dwelling on it!! and dont use depressent drugs like Alcohol etc... Not if you can avoid it... Chocolate is a good one though.. might make you feel better (not too much though!!)

Pathetic advice i know but hope it helps in some small way.
By the way you said it best when you said he is not worth all this.. remember your OWN advice as its better than mine!!

Venom

Sounds like this guy was a complete sucmbag so your probley better off with out him.It may take a while but your will realise this.

Jak

Originally posted by Unregistered
rite now im feeling very low.
the guy i fell in love with has recently found himself his perfect girl.
he never loved me so this is a lovely case of unrequited love.

In fairness now Venom, the guy has done nought wrong here.

It is very often that relationships are off balance with regard to how much one feels for the other, and if he has found his perfect girl as you say, Good luck to him. If you felt so much for the guy surely there is enough likeable attributes there for you to maintain friendly contact with him - and do try to avoid demonising the new girl, she may be quite likeable as well - and resenting the two of them hooking up will only mean you have to sever all contact - which is always a shame. You can make great friends in the world without having to be 'in love'. I've seen people take the 'all or nothing' approach, and i really think they lose out because of it.

As everyone has said, time and the perspective it brings will bring you out of it.