After the row... sulk or sorry?

The Sweeper

Okay you have a major row with someone over something relatively unimportant - one of those stupid 'colour of the curtains' rows brought on by the weather, or hormones, or a bad day at work, or whatever.

However, they get stuck in just as well as you do (who knows, perhaps they've been waiting for a chance to roar at you for some time).

Once the row's over, what are you more likely to be, the sulker or the apologiser?

WhiteWashMan

make love, not war.

brief sulk if im in the wrong.
the only thing that will make me go ballistic is if i admit im wrong (no problem with that) but they then continue to rub salt in the wound and start on other things.
then i sulk.....
and then i get the pot of boiling water and hit.....er..., no, no, im fine.
really.
/me looks for meds

alb

I don't argue and fall out with ppl over stupid things, whats the point? Usually if I fall out with someone its for good, and then i'll generally have nothing to do with them indefinitly

OLDYELLAR

more than likely , i l go completely off the wall about the slightest thing , unless i am completely 100 % in the wrong i will apologise (which takes a lot of effort ) otherwise i take me oportunity and go completely crazy and keep screaming for about 20 minutes , then sulk and make snide remarks and well then start screaming again .yeah i might want to calm the ould temper down a bit alright .

Saruman

If someone has a dissagreement with me (very rare) then i make sure my argument is in a light hearted off hand sort of way.. that way when it s over i can laugh it off and there is no permanent damage... Cant remember the last time i had a real row.. apart from making my point to supervisors in work.. i can be very eh.. adamant in those cases hehe

Ser

use to have thos silly rows with the ex, always somthing meaninless too, i would always apologise though if i started it,then some of that make-up sex to make it all better.

Kolodny

I'm much better at admitting I'm wrong than I used to be but it really depends on who I'm fighting with. I'd be in more of a hurry to sort things out with a partner, family member or friend than a stranger or someone I don't think much of.

Dustaz

Im usually weak and apologise first.. grr. I just hate those extended cold wars you get if noone apologises.

smiles

Well, depends.

I used to always cave and appoligise.

Now? Well I'll make an offer of discussing it reasonably, but if they dont take take that up then i wont appoligise and i will sulk when needed. (did it for 6/7 months before.. :P )

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meglome

I usually get bored sulking after about 20-30 seconds, then try and sort it. ...the after fight sex...:cool:

Mills

Over something relatively unimportant? I never really have rows over unimportant stuff, if someone else is in a bad mood or whatever I'll tend to just avoid having an argument with them at all. If I'm in a bad mood, well I tend not to get like that when I'm in a bad mood, I usually just go quiet for a while, doesn't usually last long.

If I do have an argument and I think afterwards that I was not necessarily in the wrong but got a bit annoyed I'll not usually leave it long before clearing the air.

Actually I think the only people that I've had a proper argument with for as long as I can remember are my parents, and only about once or twice. If there's a difference of opinion that's not likely to change and could result in a row, I just state my opinion and leave it at that, but with your parents that's not always possible because they have a certain degree of control over you up to a point.

I'm probably a bit of a doormat but I prefer to think of it as having "The ability to let that which does not matter, truly slide"... I watched Fight Club there again yesterday, that quote seemed apt .

amp

Wow, me too Mills, I forget what a truly excellent piece of film making it was. Very powerful with a lot of inner truths.

Mossy Monk

i will very rarely apologise. i only do when i know i am 100% wrong. other than that people are waiting a while
i've been told i'm very stubborn

Mercury_Tilt

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kitton

i can't remember the last time i said sorry to someone after an argument!i'm the most stubborn person i know and always refuse to apolagise,not a good thing but i just don't wanna back down.its stupid actually because i get into loads of stupid arguments over little things and big things too.
but i'd prefer to be like this then to let people treat me like a doormat,it annoys me when people back down and let people walk all over them,its showing weakness.
(i realise im the weak one for caring etc.)

Static M.e.

Im very stubborn , so although i wont apologise first , I do just
forget about after half an hour or so and then I just act like nothings happened , I dunno I suppose its kinda a wall ive thrown up over the years , I tend not to remember arguments ,
fights etc unless I really think about it but thats only with people i like , anyone else I remember everything .
I like the way I think , I only remember good things and block out the bad, (just like in happy gilmore ) although the girlfriend hates it cus she doesnt forget
anything and sometimes brings up stuff from the past to which
I reply with a simple " HUH ? "

yellum

It depends on the person really. Sometimes I get really pissed off and blow my lid if someone gets ratty with me over nothing. I'm not a nice person to have an argument with, but generally hold back on telling the really nasty home truths. I save them for later and use them when they're least suspecting it.

For people I have to deal with at home or on a daily basis I'll apologise mostly after an argument, but really I don't mean it (the people can't tell ) and just bide my time to get my own back.

For others that I don't deal with daily, I'll just not bother with them again, unless they can be of help to me in the future.