boyfriends friend.

LegacyUser

my boyfriend and i have been going out now for nearly 11 months and its going great. the only thing is one of his freinds really bugs me. well every night we meet him out he totally blanks me as in walks past me and starts speaking to my boyfriend. this has happened on several occasions and its really annoying.
s not as if i havent tried to get along with him i invited him to my birthday to be friendly and he blanked me then too.i tried pointing this out to my boyfriend who has started to notice it and he has pointed this out to him but to no avail.
i would consider myself i fairly easy going girl and it would take a lot to offend/or bother me but this does get to me.im not looking to be best friends or anything with this guy but a hello when i/we bump into him on the street would be nice.
i dont know if im just taking the situation too seriously or what but if anyone out there has had a similar exp. or advice it would be greatly appreciated.

thanks!

g'em

he might be jealous, wants to be with you or hates the fact that his best buddy is spending more time with a girl instead of him. He sounds a bit immature tbh, and even if he's being a bit of a twat I'd try not to let it upset you too much.

If you've spoken to your bf and he agrees, then he'll start watching out for any bad behaviour too, and if it goes too far hoepfully he'll have a word.

Honestly, the best way to approach it is just to be as nice as pie towards him. No matter how much he may pi$$ you off, smile and say nothing. Getting a reaction from you is playing into his hands, so instead be polite and walk away. Much better to be the bigger person and let him be a child- people will see through it pretty quick.

audge

Seriously, I bet you nearly everyone has a boyfriends/girlfriends friend that they cant stand. I cannot stand one of my boyfriends friends, he does my head in, thinks he is so clever and so smart, I just want to punch him in the mouth. (MAYBE ONE DAY I WILL)

Don't know what advice to give you, once, when drunk, we made friends, it lasted about a week.
When people clash, they clash, I know some people will tell you maybe the mate is threatened by you, or feels your stealing away his friends, and that could be the case.... or.... maybe he just doesn't like you and you just don't like him. Ignore him, your with your lad a while know, if he's not gonna say anything to his mate about the way he acts then why should you?

Seriously, I just ignore him, its amazing how much less stressfull the evening is when I don't bother entering into a slanging match with the ginger tosser:D
(ha, had to put that in there!)

Beruthiel

miffed wrote:

he totally blanks me as in walks past me and starts speaking to my boyfriend. this has happened on several occasions and its really annoying.

you don't say what age you are, but this sounds like very childish behaviour.
Just because you don't like someone doesn't mean you cannot behave in a civil manner when in their company, especially for the sake of your friend.

Le Rack

Friend of mine was in a similar situation, and the threee of them were three of my best friends. I dunno but I think it could be jealousy, cuz I know that the couple had broken up and we were all out together one night and the guy leaned over to me and said "Is is wrong for me to really like ___ when she's my best friends ex?" I said it wasn't wrong but to leave it, cuz friendship was more important, no sooner had I spoke than the other two walked back having got back together.
Just talk to your boyf about it, if you're together that long you should be able to talk about pretty much anything.

Khannie

One of my wifes friends is like this with me. It FOOKIN' FREAKS ME OUT. Spoke with my wife about it shortly after we started going out and she acknowledged that it was there.

Another one of her friends said that it wasn't just me, that she's not really open to enlarging her (small) circle of friends. The others in this small group are more open, but still relatively closed. It took some time, but I actually accept that now (their body language at parties is nothing short of hillarious....real "stay away" stuff).

Does it happen with other people? Does he talk to you if you ask a direct question? (like "any plans for the weekend joe?")

He may just dislike you too. That's ok too.

My advice is to just try to ignore it. You've tried to rectify the situation, but the guy's obviously not going to change.

RE*AC*TOR

maybe he's intentionally being mean - to draw attention away from the fact that he secretly loves you and fantasises about doing things to you...


...its possible.

LegacyUser

im 19 and the friend is 22. and he is also a ginger tosser

audge

miffed wrote:

im 19 and the friend is 22. and he is also a ginger tosser

Ha ha ha! Maybe its the same guy??:D

LegacyUser

maybe maybe imagine if it was we could get revrnge together. it does make me uncomfortable though when hes out and just ignores me. he had a party on sun night invited mty boyf out infront of my face and just walked away from me. im guessing he just assumed id be there but it wuda been nice to be aknowledged. you know yourself.

DAEDULUS

he doesnt like you

OrlaOrla

I think you just be yourself and be pleasant but dont go out of your way to get him to speak to you. He sounds like an ignorant prick who has a jealousy problem so why would you want to speak to him anyway!?doesnt sound worth the hassle!

DrummerBoy

For the silver screen answer watch "Love Actually"! For the real life answer, who knows. Could be anything from him just being an assh*le to the guy being intimidated by you? Or just has no idea how to relate to you.

But at least your bf can see whats going on now and is on your side.

Big Nelly

Strange idea!! not everyone in this World gets on with each other!! my brother doesnt get on with my GF at all.....according to him they have a personality clash ....anyway it doesnt really matter to me...everyone else in my family gets on with her.....I hate one of her mates but I would be polite to her!!! never like rude people!!! it just happens that some people no matter what will never get on with each other!!

Slydice

miffed wrote:

maybe maybe imagine if it was we could get revrnge together. it does make me uncomfortable though when hes out and just ignores me. he had a party on sun night invited mty boyf out infront of my face and just walked away from me. im guessing he just assumed id be there but it wuda been nice to be aknowledged. you know yourself.

He probably finds you attractive but doesn't want to do anything that could harm his friendship with your boyfriend. As such, he keeps you at arms length in case you could possibly like him even if that comes off as him ignoring you.

audge

Listen lady, your too good to be even worrying about this, it's his problem, don't make it yours. He probably feeds off it, cos he knows you want him to be nice to you... what a looser.
Ya sound like a good, fun, witty girl, just keep having the craic with your boyfriend and the rest of his mates, ginger tosser will soon feel left out, and the only way he can be included is by dropping the hostile act!

ApeXaviour

miffed wrote:

im 19 and the friend is 22. and he is also a ginger tosser

I hear you're a racist now father..

Don't have time for the ol' racism meself, the shop keeps me busy.



Seriously, enough slagging people with red hair. It's not a crime

ninebeanrows

It's the racialists I've a real problem with.

boy1er1990

Maybe He IS Gay, And IS jealous!:) lol

besty

ApeXaviour wrote:

I hear you're a racist now father..

Don't have time for the ol' racism meself, the shop keeps me busy.

To the OP, I bet his friend secretly likes you

LegacyUser

tbh i doubt that he likes me anyway. i think i like the gay thing though. i have no prob with ginger ppl.

melekalikimaka

i do this to a mates gf, i have no respect for the girl and cant stand her for reasons, a number of us feel the same, shes oblivious to it tho

GrumPy

ApeXaviour wrote:

I hear you're a racist now father..

Don't have time for the ol' racism meself, the shop keeps me busy.



Seriously, enough slagging people with red hair. It's not a crime

Yeah! jesus, im sure your pefect too Ms. i think gingers are tossers

dundalk cailin

if you havent done anything to offend him, then its his problem that he cant even be civil, nothing you can do, except try and not let it bother you too much. has your b/f noticed this?