Break between Dating

joeyrat

How long after breaking up from a serious long term relationship(4yrs +) is acceptable to wait before beginning another?

Shabadu

In my opinion, as soon as you like, as long as you are careful not to let your ex find out for a respectable amount of time. A rebound fling can be just the thing after a bad breakup.

joeyrat

Shabadu wrote:

not to let your ex find out for a respectable amount of time.

I guess it's this 'Respectable' amount of time is what I'm really asking!

What is a respectable amount of time?

I think a person know's themself when they're ready to move on, but how long is acceptable for everyone else to know / think they've waited before moving on????

Green_Martian

I would probably say give it a few weeks before going out and having 1 night stands. Then after that just try and enjoy yourself.

But i would leave it for about 6 months to a year before getting into another serious relationship

LegacyUser

27 days

joeyrat

paperclip wrote:

27 days

Does that include the day you broke up, or does it start from the day after?????:D

LegacyUser

joeyrat wrote:

Does that include the day you broke up, or does it start from the day after?????:D

the day after :rolleyes:

Shabadu

joeyrat wrote:

I guess it's this 'Respectable' amount of time is what I'm really asking!

What is a respectable amount of time?

I think a person know's themself when they're ready to move on, but how long is acceptable for everyone else to know / think they've waited before moving on????

It really depends on the person, but after a serious long term relationship, i'd give it a good 6 months until you made reference to bonking someone new if you are still in contact.

However, you shouldn't have to hide it if you're just out and about.

ven0m

joeyrat wrote:

How long after breaking up from a serious long term relationship(4yrs +) is acceptable to wait before beginning another?

I'd say 2-3 months for every year you were together....


::: ven0mous :::

nesf

Moved to PI.

I'd say there is no golden rule personally.

Airblazer

who cares? the next girl you meet could be the one..are u gonna miss the chance because of some stupid rule???
and it doesn't matter what your ex thinks...it's over,done with, finito..
if she can't handle it tough luck

TheBurningMan

A friend of mine once told me "the fastest way to get over someone is to get under someone else". It's true. The killer of this is that since you went out with someone for 4+ years like it or not it's going to colour your future life. There's a big danger of rebound/desperation/trying too hard syndrome. take it easy, don't worry about things and if you meet someone you like, go for it, you're a free agent now.

kittenz

it depends on the individual, i went through it myself recently, broke up with my ex (5 yr relationship) a few months ago. i started seeing someone else within weeks of the break up and have been seeing him since,things are going really well.... there is no allocated time period you should wait. if you have met someone else and have feelings for this person, then you should go for it.... you will soon realise if the decision was right or not for you.... good luck

WhiteWashMan

joeyrat wrote:

How long after breaking up from a serious long term relationship(4yrs +) is acceptable to wait before beginning another?

as long as neccessary.

and how long is a piece of string?

CathyMoran

I do not think that there should be any particular set time - when you meet the right person then you should go out with them.

bp

you get with someone else when you can face kissing someone else! thats it really.....there is no time limit, only you know and f*ck what your x thinks - they are an x and no longer get to dictate you seeing other people! if you want a time limit 6months seems to be the general thing