Ah well

Squirrel

I've posted threads about a girl in my club, basically, about 2 and a half months ago we got together and she dumped me tonight.

She dumped me because we both live in different parts of Dublin, so time seeing each-other other than at training was fairly limited, not totally limited though. Mostly my fault due to time constraints on me.

Also she was well out of my league, I mean properly, I'm fairly tall, but very thin so I look lanky and awkward, and am very shy, and she's gorgeous, there's no doubt about that, and she's a total legend, one of the soundest people I know.

So pretty much I'm just really, really pissed off at myself, it just doesn't feel right. :mad:

Just wanted to get that off my chest, cheers if you read it, and no, you can't have the few seconds of your life back that reading took off you

Enter

well i suck at this stuff
cus im even more shy than you bro
id say thats bad well better luck next time find a local girl

Mr.Nice Guy

Squirrel wrote:

Also she was well out of my league, I mean properly, I'm fairly tall, but very thin so I look lanky and awkward, and am very shy, and she's gorgeous, there's no doubt about that, and she's a total legend, one of the soundest people I know.

Well out of your league? Bullsh*t. If that was the case you wouldn't have been with her for over 2 months. I know you probably feel very low but don't start beating up on yourself.

I hate all this putting women on pedestals crap. If she seems out of your league, you take her down a peg or two with a few neghits.

You'll get over it and you should aim for someone just as gorgeous...but with better taste.;)

0utshined

Squirrel wrote:

Also she was well out of my league, I mean properly, I'm fairly tall, but very thin so I look lanky and awkward, and am very shy, and she's gorgeous, there's no doubt about that, and she's a total legend, one of the soundest people I know.

You're better off learning this while you're younger : No-one is out of your league. They may be a great person and everything you want but the idea of 'leagues' is bullshít.

***Edit: Damn you Mr. Nice Guy, you got in ahead of me

Squirrel

0utshined wrote:

You're better off learning this while you're younger : No-one is out of your league. They may be a great person and everything you want but the idea of 'leagues' is bullshít.

***Edit: Damn you Mr. Nice Guy, you got in ahead of me

I know what you and Mr. Nice Guy mean, but she really was a stunner, and even my friends were saying it. There' not much I can really do about it though. Dammit!!!

MojoMaker

What does being a stunner have to do with her personality, her aspirations, her background, her prospects, her desires, her sense of humour etc?

Gordon

Sorry to hear that Squirrel. Chalk up the experience.

An aquaintance of an aquaintance used to say that you should always go up to the most beautiful woman in a party or in a bar because all the other guys wouldn't have the gall to. Not sure if that helps even in the slightest, chin up anyhoo.

Laguna

Yeah I agree, this "out of my league" **** is really tiresome, you never hear women saying any man, good looking or not, is out of her league. Good looking women are indeed placed on a pedestal and are deemed excellent just because of their looks regardless of their personality or lack thereof.

I've found the good looking girls I've known in my life are no different from the good looking guys, you meet the odd nice & intelligent one, but the majority of good looking people have ****/nasty personalities as they've never had to make an effort with anyone as people want to associate with them because of their looks, them being a bastard or not doesn't matter.

Here's to personality!

Khannie

*chimes in on out of league malarky*

Sorry to hear about the break up Squirrel.

[Jackass]

Meh, no big deal mate, you'll get over her in time and find someone new.

Just on the confidence thing though...If you don't think you're good enough for a girl, you'll find that your not. If you raise the bar, and expect sucsess with a high calaber girl, than you'll be suprised what that confidence will do for you.

Forget looks, because girls go for all types, and I've seen plenty, and i know you have, freaks walking down town with an absolute minter on his arm!! He gets the beauty because he believes he can...and girls go for confidence.

Also, ask yourself, what type of guy gets these girls, what are the personality traits of a guy who can get any girl he wants? Funny, positive, energetic, encouraging, confident, secure in himself, flattering, charming, respectful, loyal etc. etc. etc. and just develop those sides of your personality. Life's a process, keep developing yourself, and every bit of sucsess you get in each area build on it and congradulate yourself and believe in yourself.

Whoa...way to early in the day for getting that deep...meh, what are you gonna do?

Good luck mate

ando

ah dont worry about it man, 'out of your league'.. ye right m8, no girl is out of anyone's league, it just takes more effort.

if you follow these simple rules you'll be laughing:

Be:

1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organiser
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

44. give her compliments regularly
45. love shopping
46. be honest
47. be very rich
48. not stress her out
49. not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

50. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
51. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
52. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT NEVER TO FORGET:

* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes


simple eh? If you follow these 50 odd rules she wont care what you look like

ferdi

women dont ask alot do they? :rolleyes:

galwaydude18

o god not really! That's some list there! Sorry to hear about your breakup!

styer

I always hear that some girl is out of a person's league from one friend or another, but I honestly think it's down to confidence.... have any ladies here any opinions on this

kmart6

Hard luck on the break up Squirrel!!!

Was this the same girl who's mother did'nt want ye goin out???

bp

ando wrote:

ah dont worry about it man, 'out of your league'.. ye right m8, no girl is out of anyone's league, it just takes more effort.

if you follow these simple rules you'll be laughing:

Be:

1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organiser
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

44. give her compliments regularly
45. love shopping
46. be honest
47. be very rich
48. not stress her out
49. not look at other girls

AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

50. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
51. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
52. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes

IT IS VERY IMPORTANT NEVER TO FORGET:

* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes


simple eh? If you follow these 50 odd rules she wont care what you look like

brilliant!!! you must have women eating out of your hands!

bp

and yeah....women never say a guy is out of their league....you should see the guy i'm going out with!!!!

dont be too hard on yourself, you will find someone else who lives closer by....if you put a woman on a pedestal she will think she belongs there and get demanding!

Chucky the tree

that list belongs in the humour forum.

ven0m

That sucks man - but no woman, NO WOMAN is out of ANY mans league...

As for her - she obviously had her reasons - but I do think she was kinda "lazy" to dump you cos of that..

I been seein my girl for a long time now & she's 350 miles away from me & we're getting engaged, & I'm moving to live near her very soon - so we can start a life with each other....

All woman are NOT like her man, just wasn;t meant to be & sometimes that happens. Don;t spend time dwlling on the why or what-ifs, when **** works with two people it will rock... hang in there man!!!


::: ven0mous :::

mr.sparkle

Dont worry about it.
Seriously life is about being able to cope with your dissapointment and anger at yourself which you feel now as a result of the rejection period.

I think you should forget about it and learn to become more tolerant to this type of scenario. LEARN!

I think humans are just like animals its all about getting the proper mate etc.
If we are lucky, we wont have to receive this rejection and we'll just die or something.

DAEDULUS

women dont say that,but they know it..an ugly chick knows brad pitt wouldnt go out with them why do you think in groups of girls+guys the ugliest girls usually fancy the less attractive guys of the group,because she knows if she let it out to her friends that she wants to score the hot guy, if he found out he'd probably laugh in her face ,so that comparison is silly

Squirrel

kmart6 wrote:

Hard luck on the break up Squirrel!!!

Was this the same girl who's mother did'nt want ye goin out???

Yup, same one

Cheers for all the replies, and considering the predicament I had to help a mate out of last night it's nothing

kmart6

Squirrel wrote:

Cheers for all the replies, and considering the predicament I had to help a mate out of last night it's nothing

Your just waiting for someone to ask you what the prediciment was!!!

Squirrel

kmart6 wrote:

Your just waiting for someone to ask you what the prediciment was!!!

I slept in said mates house last night and had only returned home when I wrote that, so tired I couldn't think too well, and I only realised later what I had wrote, and how I didn't want anyone to comment on it. So to answer your question, no I'm not.

Squirrel

All things were going grand, I had kept myself busy, keeping my mind off her, when I saw her in town today, walking along with some guy, not holding hands or anything, but walking very, very close together.

I know this could've been some friend but it still really hurt when I saw them

Call Me Jimmy

ven0m wrote:

That sucks man - but no woman, NO WOMAN is out of ANY mans league...

Ok c'mon, ye's are all jumping on the bandwagon a bit with this stuff, you know it's not true. To an extent a less attractive guy can get with a stunner, but keep it real.

Sarky

ando wrote:

if you follow these simple rules you'll be laughing:

Be:
[50+ rules]

Didn't God have 10?

Enough said, tbh...

faceman

Hey OP, this is probably the wrong place to look for advise and sympathy cos lots of chancers out there. Most of us have been there dude and theres no easy way to get over it. Its true what some posters have said, no one is out of anyones league. My missus is a stunner but i didnt win her heart with me good looks unfortunately!!!

The problem with most blokes when we go out with aot ladies is we become more concious of our actions. They get bored then. (Sorry lady readers for generalising!!)

My advise, keep at it, the more experience you have dating different women the more you will be able to identify what u go for in a woman!

My final point for helping get over her is this. Get in contact with a friend you havent seen in years - it will help take your mind off things. :-)

Best of luck dude!

Zebra3

DubGuy wrote:

He gets the beauty because he believes he can...and girls go for confidence.

Nail on head.

From my experiences anyway....

spiceoflife

squirrel, dude......
listen u feel really **** but imagine you guys had gone out longer and you cared about her even more and then you guys broke up. you should be happy with what you had and not worry about her antics at the moment!!!!
as far as the whole out of your league thing, thats rediculous, really and truly, we are all lovely, looks is nothing to do with it, she didnt break up with u cos of that,if so why would she have stuck with you!!!!! chin up my furry friend!