The best ways to heal a broken heart?

lazydaisy

Any ideas?

Asok

Time.

jcoote

coming to terms that it wasn't u gave u the broken heart in the 1st place

making sense of the situation

realising the reason the break up happened and accepting it

eat loads

Red Alert

pizza tends to go down well.

just use the time to do things you enjoy and in time you'll stop thinking about them all the time.

LegacyUser

jcoote wrote:

coming to terms that it wasn't u gave u the broken heart in the 1st place

making sense of the situation

realising the reason the break up happened and accepting it

eat loads

good advice, espc the first line

Zebra3

Avoid any contact with the person you broke up with.

Can be so much more painful if you keep bumping into them.

The_Goose

Zebra3 wrote:

Avoid any contact with the person you broke up with.

Can be so much more painful if you keep bumping into them.

Now thats a fact.
All of the above and just realise it had to happen for one reason or another and that the pain will stop.

Zombrex

lazydaisy wrote:

Any ideas?

My place, 7 o'clock, bring some wine ...

Seriously, golden rules

1 - Retain dignity. Do not contact your ex, no matter how tempted you are. When you are eventually over it all you will kick yourself for being and looking so stupid

2 - Give it time. Just remind yourself, just like the dentist it won't last forever, you will feel better

3 - Try not to get angry. Even if you ex was a prick/bitch, getting angry all the time at them just makes you feel worse

4 - Focus on the things you didn't like about them. There must have been some things that just drove you mad. We tend to view our ex-partners (especially ones who broke up with us) with rose tinted glasses, "they were the love of my life" kinda thing, even if while in the relationship they used bug the cr*p out of you. Focus on these things, not in an angry or nasty way, but more in a oh-yeah-forgot-how-annoying-she-was-at-the-cinema way

5 - Don't rush out the first club trying to score the first bloke/bird you find. In my experience this only upsets us more. We either can't pull someone and feel like a right failure (just got dumb and now can't even get a shift in a club, kinda thing) or we have a shift/score/one-night stand and then feel really cheap afterward.

6 - Prepare yourself for realtiy. It might be helpful to imagine your ex on a desert island surrounded by monks, but in reality they probably will have someone new quicker than you. Prepare yourself for this so it isn't a huge upsetting shock when it actually happens.

7 - Don't take it personal. Easier said than done, I know, but in reality people break up all the time for the stupidest reasons, or just because they have grown a bit apart. Don't obsess of what you didn't wrong, or what you could have done better. There is nothign wrong with you, things just happen.

akom

Time is definitely the best healer and make sure to meet up with your friends as much as you possibly can, go out..have drinks and dance the night away. Even if you forget your situation for a little while during that night it will have been worth it.

eskimo

Don't text or talk to the ex for the forseeable future.

If you get drunk do NOT text or ring the ex! This will only create problems and prolong your pain!

Get rid of things that remind you of the ex.

Don't try to work out a way to get back with them. And don't spend your time wondering if you could remain friends...

Spend lotsa time with your friends. Talk about your problems. Go out & have fun. There ARE plenty of fish in the sea - lots of them will fancy you and you'll have more great relationships in the future so keep this in mind!

Don't drink too much, and don't take up smoking!

Even if you lose your appetite, don't stop eating. You need it to be healthy and strong and to get through this...

Think about your future and all the good things you want to happen (none of them are allowed to involve your ex though!).

Know that lovers come & go all the time but the people who really matter are your friends, family, and whatever lover you actually end up with.

Don't think that your ex is out scoring people or will find another partner really quickly, coz that's just bull****. We all think like that after the end of a relationship but it's not the case.

Get more involved in your job, or your college work, and your social life.

Take good care of yourself!

AllMessedUp

Wicknight wrote:

1 - Retain dignity. Do not contact your ex, no matter how tempted you are. When you are eventually over it all you will kick yourself for being and looking so stupid

3 - Try not to get angry. Even if you ex was a prick/bitch, getting angry all the time at them just makes you feel worse

5 - Don't rush out the first club trying to score the first bloke/bird you find. In my experience this only upsets us more. We either can't pull someone and feel like a right failure (just got dumb and now can't even get a shift in a club, kinda thing) or we have a shift/score/one-night stand and then feel really cheap afterward.


7 - Don't take it personal. Easier said than done, I know, but in reality people break up all the time for the stupidest reasons, or just because they have grown a bit apart. Don't obsess of what you didn't wrong, or what you could have done better. There is nothign wrong with you, things just happen.

true,very true. I broke all these rules.

for a whole month i rang and texted her asking for a reason as to why it ended, there goes rule 1.

punched alot of walls and took it out on others, there goes rule 3.

broke rule 5 and it seriously upsetted me. got with 2 girls one nite and ended up leaving a very stupid and kinda physco-ish message on my ex's phone.

and finally rule 7 - its the most important one of all. if ya did nothing wrong and you gave it your best shot, then its there fault/loss. sh!t happens

The Corinthian

Best way to get over someone is under someone else, TBH.

Kiera

The Corinthian wrote:

Best way to get over someone is under someone else, TBH.

No its not! Grow up!

scribs

Fall in love with somone else

Tar.Aldarion

The Corinthian wrote:

Best way to get over someone is under someone else, TBH.

Urgh that is the worst way ever in my experience.Just makes you feel like **** after and tbh it's hard not to think about the girl you love during.

The Corinthian

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

Urgh that is the worst way ever in my experience.Just makes you feel like **** after and tbh it's hard not to think about the girl you love during.

Weh. Horses for courses then. Always worked for me.

mad m

The Corinthian wrote:

Weh. Horses for courses then. Always worked for me.

Well you know what that tells you/us...You werent in love with other half before breakup.But I cant deny sometimes it does work.

Zombrex

mad m wrote:

Well you know what that tells you/us...You werent in love with other half before breakup.But I cant deny sometimes it does work.

How does it tell you that?

If anything the more in love you are the more upset you are over the break up and the more you want something, someone, anything to take your mind off your ex.

Personally I don't recommend it (see might previous post), but I fail to see how you bring u-never-loved-her-in-the-first place into it

Tar.Aldarion

Wicknight wrote:

If anything the more in love you are the more upset you are over the break up and the more you want something, someone, anything to take your mind off your ex.

If you love her then you just want her tbh.Nobody else will do and you don't even consider other girls.It's when you start to accept it and fall out of love with the person that you can start to enjoy being with other girls.Before that,it is just abhorrent.Well for me anyway.

GreenHell

The best cure is to cut the person out of our life until letting them back into your like is no longer a big deal, if that makes sense. You have to adjust to the new reality of being single and its a bitch, your going to make it worse by stayin in touch, clinging on because there might be a chance you'd get back together. Move on with your life is the best cure.

g'em

Time, friends, and a limitless supply of Ben and Jerry's*

*Excess calories can be burnt off by spending equally endless nights out with the girls dancing your cotton lil' socks off

Zombrex

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

If you love her then you just want her tbh.Nobody else will do and you don't even consider other girls.

Consider other girls for what? A new relationship or a shag? Cause I think TC was talking about a shag, not going out with someone new

The Corinthian

Wicknight wrote:

Cause I think TC was talking about a shag, not going out with someone new

Indeed. An empty sack is a happy sack.