Losing trust

simplethins

I'm with my girlfriend a couple of months but I've known her for a couple a years. I'm really in love with her but recently i found myself losing trust in her. She used to be a girlfriend of a guy I knew who didn't take it too well when we got together. This guy is a real prick who cheated on her any chance and went to lengths of putting me into hospital. I've went through a lot to be with this girl.

Anyway she recently started to take coke when she went out on her own and stated to claim not remembering what she had done. There's also a lot of rumors going around bout her being with other people. I told her to stop taking the coke and she was a fool for doing it, she swore to me but continued to do it. I can't trust her.

The other night I wanted to go out on a lads night out and she started at me cause I might meet another girl. I'd never even dream of it but I'm starting to think different of her cause of the things she was saying to me, like how easy it is to meet someone else. She wasn't planning on going out but when she heard I was going out she had to go out. I learned that night she didn't trust me, but its prob cause she trusted her ex and got hurt.

She also still talks to her ex even after what he's done, every time she does talk to him she gets real upset. It really annoys me but she never listens to me. She claims its to keep the peace with him, cause he has embarrassing things on her, shes said stuff bout people he could tell and to stop him doing anything else to me. I just don't know anymore.

I need advise cause I don't know what to do, should I trust her after swearing she wound's take coke, the rumors and keeping in contact with her ex? Please help my heads recked........

LegacyUser

hi... my ex was a bit of a coke-fiend too. It's no good mate... she'll hang around with like-minded folks, get binned and probably cheat on you. (Mine didn't as far as i know and i did trust her, but she didn't have any true freinds because of her lifestyle and in the end completely lost the plot). It effects personality a lot I reckon.

Sound slike her not trusting you is a little green light in her own head to say she can go off and do her own thing. If there was mutual respect, she wouldn't care what the ex said about her as past is past. Sounds like you're on the road to ruin with her from what you've said. I'd like to say leave her but know its hard if you love her and see her destroying herself. It wil bite you in the ass though. Talk to her about it all.. tell her your concerned. Tell her nothing she done before could be that bad...,. believ me, my ex had a pretty sordid history and i accepted it because it was past. Didn't stop her hurting me though and she spiralled out of control. I'm relieved its all over.

Good luck and stay strong.

Beruthiel

simplethins wrote:

I need advise cause I don't know what to do, should I trust her after swearing she wound's take coke, the rumors and keeping in contact with her ex? Please help my heads recked........

honestly, if you are in a relationship that is wrecking your head, then there is no point.
If she cannot control her coke habit, that is also very bad news.
just because you love someone, doesn't mean you can be with them.
You might be upset for a while, but in the long run, you are better off without trouble like that.

Sifo

Id say get out now, what kinda girlfriend would talk to her ex after he put her current boyfriend in a hospital. As for the coke, well she obviously wants to be living the wild life atm.... sorry dude but it doesnt look good...

Kell

simplethins wrote:

This guy is a real prick who cheated on her any chance and went to lengths of putting me into hospital. I've went through a lot to be with this girl.

Sorry to be blunt, but sounds like you are door mat muppet to put up with that level of crap.
Have you no self respect?
Do you think if it went títs up tomorrow she would have any remorse?
Do you think if you behaved the same way towards her she would stick around?

Personally I think not. Drop her ASAP and find someone who makes you happy and doesnt fúck with your head. You stated that you dont trust her, so whats the point in going any further?

Dont be another martyr to a cause you'll never get thanks for.

K-

seamus

It seems like you already know what you need to do, you just don't know if you have the guts.

TBH, she sounds like a moron, and as Kell says, you're her doormat. If there are rumours going around about her being the local bike, well there's no smoke without fire. You should be able to verify the source of the rumours, to confirm that there's not someone else planting seeds.

The facts here are:
1. She lies to you.
2. She doesn't listen to you.
3. She clearly still has some sort of love/hate thing going on with her ex.
4. She's jealous and possessive.

Drop her and cut off all contact. She sounds like she has more baggage than an Indian passenger train.