18 yo virgin

sirgamblelot

My mate told me last night that he's still a virgin and he's been going out with a girl for a month!!I didn't know what to say only laugh.Am i mean?Is it ok to be like that?I'm seriously worried about him.Please help.He's my best m8 ever and i want to help him.

secret_squirrel

There's nothing wrong with your friend - you have a lot of growing up to do cop on. If and when you grow up you will realise that there was nothing big and clever about losing your virginity at a young age.

If you mate wants to remain a virgin thats his choice, and you should respect that. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 18, he has plenty of time ffs. If waiting until the right girl/moment comes along who are you to disrespect him for that.

And if you going to rip the píss out of him - what kinda friend would that make you? Regardless whethers its from lack of oppurtunity or personal choice until he asks you for help I would suggest you button it.

Endurance Man

sirgamblelot wrote:

My mate told me last night that he's still a virgin and he's been going out with a girl for a month!!I didn't know what to say only laugh.Am i mean?Is it ok to be like that?I'm seriously worried about him.Please help.He's my best m8 ever and i want to help him.

Did you really just ask this question :rolleyes: . You dont sound mature enough to have lost your virginity yet.

nobodythere

I went out with a girl from age 15 to 16.5 without having sex with her. I wanted to, she didn't, I cared for her enough to respect her decision. Two of my best friends are going out now for about a year, aged 18, pretty sure they ain't done it (not that I'd want to know anyway ).

Not everyone gets into a relationship purely for status on the male ladder. Not everyone is that childish.

Some of us here actually LIKE girls. And because we like girls, we RESPECT them. We care about them and don't mess them around. We don't go back and tell every detail of our sexual lives to our friends purely for respect and status. If you have to take the piss out of your friend for this you've got a lot of growing up to do. And this is coming from someone who is probably a good bit younger than you.

chump

Best advice is stick it in, you always win

Tuesday_Girl

sirgamblelot wrote:

i want to help him.

You could start by respecting his decisions.

And if you're seriously worried about someone who is a virgin at 18, then I guess you don't have too much to worry about.

funk-you

seriously what are you like 12? omg someone hasn't had the opportunity to have sex!! lets laugh at him and shun him!! omg i haven't been hit by a van, i hope people wont laugh at me. grow up.

Maybe its his decision or maybe whatever women he's been going out with dont want to have sex yet. its only sex ffs. i lost my virginity at 14 so can i laugh at you if you didn't have it until later than that?

what do you mean "help him"? what are you goin to do bring him to a brothel? he'll get some when he gets some, i'm sure hes got lots of confidence and self esteem now though after you laughing at him.

Great mate, i must say.

LegacyUser

I was with my girl for 6 months before we had sex; I wouldn't worry too much about him tbh

jonny68

Seems there's too much emphasis on kids wanting to have sex as early as possible thesedays,i lost mine at 14:eek: but i probably regret not losing it to someone i actually liked rather than some tart who i never seen again,such is life,kids thesedays need to chill the fu*k out

Endurance Man

jonny68 wrote:

Seems there's too much emphasis on kids wanting to have sex as early as possible thesedays,i lost mine at 14:eek: but i probably regret not losing it to someone i actually liked rather than some tart who i never seen again,such is life,kids thesedays need to chill the fu*k out

Right on, they do need to chill out. I fooked up my child-hood, got some good memorys but in the long run i think it did more harm than good, being stupid. Wonder if we will hear back from the OP .

Alana

trol...?

Ruffty^

....You want to help your mate? Then tell him to go and find a real friend to confide in....

Rb

Alana wrote:

trol...?

Was thinking that myself tbh.And a young,incredibly immature troll at that.

He's only been going out with her a month, maybe she doesn't want to take it to the next level just yet which is respectable IMO.
Anyway it's nothing to laugh at him about.

Sifo

bad form, your friend probably thinks less of you for it,i take it you lost yours at 13 when you hadnt got a clue what you were doing, in the middle of a field maybe!!
Sounds like you may be a little jealous!! I always wait before I sleep with a girl. Even now. And Im a few years older than your friend.

If your feeling that you might be losing your friend to this girl just say so. Haven't been on boards too long but i know (and i'm sure you do now) that if you act like an idiot you get treated like one (no, Pigheads funny), but if you have a genuine problem people will help you out.;)

Talliesin

Alana wrote:

trol...?

Probably, but some people really are that dumb, so it's hard to say.

Jonny Arson

sirgamblelot wrote:

My mate told me last night that he's still a virgin and he's been going out with a girl for a month!!I didn't know what to say only laugh.Am i mean?Is it ok to be like that?I'm seriously worried about him.Please help.He's my best m8 ever and i want to help him.

Maybe he doesn't want to lose his virginity, maybe he wants to take his relationship at a steady pace, maybe he respects his girlfriend....... there is nothing wrong with him. The way he lives his life is his own business. He confided in you something personal and you want to change his attitude and actions just because you think he should conform to a narrow minded teenage idea that he should lose his viginity and shag his girlfriend just because you think everyone else does. Leave him live his own life. If he doesn't want to have sex then leave it be. I know many people (including myself) who regret losing their virginity to someone they didn't have any emotional attachment to. The fact that he told you about something personal and secretive shows that he respects you and trusts you so why don't you give him some of that back and respect the way he chooses to live his life.

audge

sirgamblelot wrote:

My mate told me last night that he's still a virgin and he's been going out with a girl for a month!!I didn't know what to say only laugh.Am i mean?Is it ok to be like that?I'm seriously worried about him.Please help.He's my best m8 ever and i want to help him.

Are you for real???? Ok, I havent lost the plot at anyone on this thing but please tell me you are joking!!!!
Your mates 18... how old is his girlfriend??? Why shouldn't he be a virgin, in fact I only hope that you are a virgin too, as you are clearly not mature enough to be having sex.
You want to laugh at your mate for not having sex, he is in a month long relationship for god sake, most self respecting young women wont have sex within a month of a new relationship anyway!!
Did it ever occur to you that maybe he likes this girl?? Maybe he is happy to wait? Maybe he is making her wait... maybe he actually wants his first time to mean something....... ???
You think this guy is your mate... you are no friend, no friend would mock his "mate" for not having sex!

Beruthiel

sirgamblelot wrote:

I'm seriously worried about him.Please help.He's my best m8 ever and i want to help him.

I suggest you mind your own business
he doesn't need your 'help' with regards to this, in fact, I'd go as far as to say you are no help at all if your above comments are anything to go by. :rolleyes: