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  • 17-10-2005 12:26am
    #1
    FoXXy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 93 ✭✭


    so heres my dilemma, since everyone seems to be airing theirs i guess it wouldnt hurt to get other views on this...

    i recently visited my x who's recently moved abroad and it turned out we became inseperable durin my visit so we decided that when i returned home we'd give it a shot. but so far its just been the two of us snapping at each other because we're both living very active lives n to tryin to fit time in to tlk is hard to do. so he's over visiting now for the wk n he's decided that it was too hard to continue on with.
    i'm havin difficulty with this because every time we see each other we just connect on so many levels. i've known him for bout 6 yrs and instantly knew we'd get together. and in fairness it was our 1st time tryin a long- distance relationship which i know cud work wit us cos b4 i went over to visit him we spoke nearly everyday n got on cool.

    so my question: is it worth tryin to patch it up for a long distance relationship? because theres a guy i'm just getting to know and he seems pretty interested in me... so i could opt for the very hard long distance or i can wait it out n in the mean time see how things develop with the new guy??


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  • #2
    The_Goose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,441 ✭✭✭The_Goose


    Hmmmmmmmmm
    Am its probably the novelty of seein each other again that "connects you on so many levels" and the snapping is just the result of ye not wanting to be together.
    Go out with the other lad.


  • #3
    The_Goose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,441 ✭✭✭The_Goose


    Hmmmmmmmmm
    Am its probably the novelty of seein each other again that "connects you on so many levels" and the snapping is just the result of ye not wanting to be together.
    Go out with the other lad.


  • #4
    Zombrex
    Closed Accounts Posts: 25,848 ✭✭✭✭Zombrex


    FoXXy wrote:
    so heres my dilemma, since everyone seems to be airing theirs i guess it wouldnt hurt to get other views on this...

    i recently visited my x who's recently moved abroad and it turned out we became inseperable durin my visit so we decided that when i returned home we'd give it a shot. but so far its just been the two of us snapping at each other because we're both living very active lives n to tryin to fit time in to tlk is hard to do. so he's over visiting now for the wk n he's decided that it was too hard to continue on with.
    i'm havin difficulty with this because every time we see each other we just connect on so many levels. i've known him for bout 6 yrs and instantly knew we'd get together. and in fairness it was our 1st time tryin a long- distance relationship which i know cud work wit us cos b4 i went over to visit him we spoke nearly everyday n got on cool.

    so my question: is it worth tryin to patch it up for a long distance relationship? because theres a guy i'm just getting to know and he seems pretty interested in me... so i could opt for the very hard long distance or i can wait it out n in the mean time see how things develop with the new guy??

    2 Points -

    Firstly, long distance relationships can seem like they are going well when in reality they aren't. There is a huge huge difference between talking to someone on email or the phone for a few hours a week, maybe visiting them for a weekend here and there, and actually being in a relationship with someone, warts and all. Speaking form experience, the emailing and phone calls are fantasy, it is as much what you want the experience to be as it is reality. It seems like you are getting one really well, where in fact the relationship between you two isn't being challanged by the simple day to day life as it would be in a relationship where u are actually with the person properly. I had a long distance thing with a girl for about 6 months (after going out together for about 3 months). Needless to say after about a month of being together it was belly up. Even though we though we had been going out for 9 months, in reality we hadn't, we didn't know each other that well at all.

    Secondly, when would the "long distance" part of the relationship end? I could see long distance realtionships working short term, if you were together for a while, then had to be apart for a bit and then together again. But ultimately if the long distance part is also long term or perminate, in reality I am sorry to say I would be surprised if the relationship lasted. It is just not part of healthy human nature to have a "relationship" with somone who isn't actually there, and won't be there for a long time. You are having a relationship with a fantasy, which is something that won't last.

    So to answer you question, forget about a relationship with the guy far away


  • #5
    FoXXy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 93 ✭✭FoXXy


    well just to update. i ended up copping onto myself... the whole long distance thing seems to be permanent so i decided my sanity and social life would suffer for it. so we've just decided to take it cool and keep in touch as much as possible.. and it seems we're getting on really well now that the tension surrounding our future is gone :)


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