younger love

LegacyUser · 14-10-2005 10:05pm #1

hey all, theres this boy ive become friends with in the last couple of months. hes great abit wierd at times but hey we all are at times. he wouldnt be a real friend, but hes someone thats there. Lately, we have been hanging round a little bit more, more texting and all the rest. and i think im after changing my views about him. hes not good looking but hes dead cute. for some reason or another ive been abit flirty. as girls tend to do. i feel hes flirting back. hes always asking who am i texting and who am i talking to. i feel hes trying to make me jealous with tell me about other girls hes texting, almost like bragging or something. in the same light i feel like hes just using me......

the reasong im writing this is to get other peoples views on the situation at hand because its doing my head in.

kind regards

Peteee · 15-10-2005 10:06pm

What age are both of you?

You say in the title that he's younger then you?

More info needed tbh

NoDayBut2Day · 16-10-2005 8:26am

I've had situations where he was trying to get me jealous of his "friendships" or "flirtations" with other girls. Same kind of thing - he wasn't good looking but I was "totally in love." So in love, I was blind.

Guys like that are no good. I'm so glad things never worked out even for a little while because the guy was just trouble. Not saying that your friend is like that too, but your situation reminds me of mine.

Why not talk to him, tell him to be honest with you because that's what you want - honesty. You don't want to play games and if he does, then maybe it's time for you to move on.

Blessings...
~Cho <><
xoxo

jptk · 16-10-2005 10:58am

what do you mean hes not good looking but cute? is it not the same thing? im confused

optiplexgx270 · 16-10-2005 11:23am

feel free to updateus as it has been 2 days now.

Le Rack · 16-10-2005 1:03pm

jptk wrote:

what do you mean hes not good looking but cute? is it not the same thing? im confused

it's a girly thing, its okay for you not to understand if you are a boy.

I was in a sit like that too, get out of there before you get hurt and realise how horrible he quite possibly is!

Civilian_Target · 16-10-2005 1:26pm

Its not a girly thing - there are girls who aren't good looking but are cute.

Good-looking is immediately physical, its about the body, yadda yadda.

Cute is all in the way someone acts, the way they move and talk, the way they smile, their sparkling eyes, etc and can be (and often is) a lot more attactive than good looks on their own. Also, I would have always said that girls are much better at using this to their advantage than guys.

And back to the OT, you should just ask him honestly - he may not even realise what he's doing. But if you feel he's using you, he probably is...

jptk · 16-10-2005 7:45pm

Le Rack wrote:

it's a girly thing, its okay for you not to understand if you are a boy.

I was in a sit like that too, get out of there before you get hurt and realise how horrible he quite possibly is!

Id like to understand it though

Le Rack · 16-10-2005 7:48pm

cute is just little things about the person that make you go "awh he's lovely" adn good looking is "Whoa Mamma!"
well for a basic explanation!

Squirrel · 16-10-2005 8:29pm

Le Rack wrote:

cute is just little things about the person that make you go "awh he's lovely" adn good looking is "Whoa Mamma!"
well for a basic explanation!

Which is better?

On-yopic: Are you sure you're not using him? By the sounds of it you're both flirting and you're over-analysing it. I could be wrong though. If you think he's using you figure out why before you do anything. If he's trying to make you jealous he likes you, I would've thought that's fairly obvious.

Good luck

LegacyUser · 16-10-2005 9:38pm

Thank you all for you replies! things are still the same, no updates at all.

The_Goose · 18-10-2005 3:34pm

Ask him if he likes you/ ask him out/ kiss him/ tell him to get lost...........etc
You'll never know until you try!!!
And there is no try there is "do or do not"

Talliesin · 18-10-2005 11:48pm

**confused** wrote:

in the same light i feel like hes just using me......

By the sounds of it right now you are using each other for company and ego-boo.

It's possible that you could move on to something stronger than that. It's likely that he'd be interested in that. It's possible that if you do the jealousy/trying to make you jealous will stop, because it was only a flirtatious game and not actually serious.

If you do pursue something further and he continues to be jealous then dump him unless you're the jealous type yourself, jealous people should only date other jealous people.

Dizzyblabla · 19-10-2005 1:34am

Civilian_Target wrote:

Cute is all in the way someone acts, the way they move and talk, the way they smile, their sparkling eyes, etc and can be (and often is) a lot more attactive than good looks on their own.

That's gotta be one of the nicest things I've ever heard a guy say!