Drop GodParents

TakeDown247

Just wondering as we was talking about this on another forum
is it possible to drop or terminate Godparents and if so how would one go about doing it?

Somepeople have said that you can drop them anytime, others think it's not as simple as that this person on the forum wants to know so I thought I'd help get an answer hope thats ok

Thanks

TakeDown247

LovelyHurling

Yes it is technically possible to drop them, try not do it from a height as they may get hurt. Say about, 4 feet?

TakeDown247

LovelyHurling wrote:

Yes it is technically possible to drop them, try not do it from a height as they may get hurt. Say about, 4 feet?

lol I had a giggle at what you said their
Now why didn't I think of posting that on the other forum
walked right into that one

Dades

TakeDown247 wrote:

Just wondering as we was talking about this on another forum
is it possible to drop or terminate Godparents and if so how would one go about doing it?

Just curious...

Is it the designated Godparants themselves that you have a problem with, or the notion that the church has them on their books?

TakeDown247

The Atheist wrote:

Just curious...

Is it the designated Godparents themselves that you have a problem with, or the notion that the church has them on their books?

A bit of both really, like the other person I was talking on another forum said
My Godparents changed though they where to good to talk to us and my GodMother and Dad had an affair, I really don't get on with my Godparents they started treating my Mum nasty
but If I've been stuck from the church's books are they still my Godparents or do I have to write another letter
Thanks

Dades

Just so you know TakeDown, I wouldn't have asked for so open a reply. Just the principle behind the question. Fair play to you though.

I studied Family Law as part of a Law Degree, although after 10 years I won't profess to know much still about the subject. The only reason why someone would possibly have to deal with unwanted Godparents would be in the case of a custody battle. And in such a case all factors are taken into account. Any intention of your parents intention at the time of assigning your Godparents should be negated by the more recent facts.

TBH I don't think whether or not they are officially your Godparents will have any bearing on a potential situation. It's like being married under the church, but not under the state. You're simply not recognised as being married by law.

Also AFAIK the law doesn't require you have a guardian after you hit 18 (?).

TakeDown247

I'm in my 20's

Someone else posted (not here) that Godparents don't have any legal rights over you as it's not an legal title anyway, and the best thing I could do is ignore them if I didn't get on with them they said that you could instruct the church to remove their names but again why brother?
Does that sound like good advice?

Asiaprod

The official/traditional definition of the role of Godparents is:

Traditionally, the godparents were counted informally responsible for ensuring that the child's religious education was carried out, and for caring for the child should it be orphaned. Today the latter duty is the most commonly recognized duty of a godparent, and the phrase "godparent" often no longer has religious overtones. However, godparent is not a legal position, and should the parents seriously intend the godparents to act as foster parents in case of their death, this must be legally specified through the usual means (such as a will).

Therfore, I think you can go ahead and do as LovelyHurling suggested, but use extream caution as they could easily get damaged and you wont be able to get a refund

Dades

TakeDown247 wrote:

the best thing I could do is ignore them if I didn't get on with them they said that you could instruct the church to remove their names but again why brother?

Why bother exactly.
Live your life without them. The only closure you need is in your head.

Asiaprod

Why bother exactly.
Live your life without them. The only closure you need is in your head.

Very well said, I could not have put it any clearer. Good answer.
Peter Kearney

Manach

Whilst I never really knew my own Godparents I still felt honoured when asked to be one to a friend's child. It will probably mean birthday presents for the child for a good many years , it was a grand invitation by the parents to share a little in their family for which I was grateful.