Trust

LegacyUser

I dont know what to do....
I cant trust my girlfriend. We've been together for nearly 2 years now and I really do love her but I cant stop thinking about her cheating on me. There was an incident a while ago with a guy I knew but I forgave her for that and thought I could forget about it all.
She started college there a while back and ever since then all I hear her talk about is this guy she goes to college with. Its doing my bloody brain in!I love her and I dont want to lose her but Ive tried and Ive tried to trust her but I just cannot stop thinking about her and other guys...
She said something about taking a break last ngiht which I really dont want to do because I love her so much but I cant keep going on like this, it just isnt fair to either of us....What am I to do?

Dave

I hate to say it but, I'd say you're going to have to let this one go. She's just started college, which has opened up a whole new world of socialising, and it seems as if she wants to live a little before she gets tied down. I know it's tough, but if you can't feel you can trust her then what kind of relationship do ye have?

Beruthiel

If you cannot trust your partner then there really is no relationship. I just don't see the point.
Just because you love someone, doesn't necessarily mean you can be with them

Zulu

Sorry, you won't want to hear this, but:
Run for the hills old boy. Run for the hills.

Khannie

More of what the others said. No trust = no relationship.

g'em

its an oldie, but so true..

if you love someone set them free, if they come back it was meant to be.

Give her the break she needs. I she really wants to be with you, she'll come a runnin'. Tie her downa nd she'll resent you for it.

pdunno

g'em wrote:

if you love someone set them free, if they come back it was meant to be.

Give her the break she needs. I she really wants to be with you, she'll come a runnin'. Tie her downa nd she'll resent you for it.

Never heard that before, but I reckon it's undeniably true. Actually is fairly apt for my current situation also, I'll take it on board

Chrissie

g'em wrote:

its an oldie, but so true..

if you love someone set them free, if they come back it was meant to be.

Give her the break she needs. I she really wants to be with you, she'll come a runnin'. Tie her downa nd she'll resent you for it.

Well I'd never actually heard that one either, but I like it!
The one I heard went more like this:
"If you love someone let them go, if they come back they're yours, if they don't they never were."
Not the exact wording but something along those lines, & I believe it's true.
Also agree with the rest of the guys:
She's just gone to college, meetinf lots of new people, male & female, then she'll get a job, same will apply there.
If you don't trust her as it is, you never will & you'll be suspicious of every guy she ever talks to.
If it's not bothering her right now, your constant doubting her soon will get to her which will inevitably lead to the same situation anyway.
Do both of ye a favour, save a few yrs of your life for other things / other people & let her go.