used?

LegacyUser

ok so here goes...
working in college durin first wk back, ended up seeing this guy almost everyday that week and there was def chemistry...eyecontact,secret smiles all that.
then last tuesday ended up meetin him out, he recognised me and started chattin to me an eventually scored with him...an went back to his place...an slept with him.
neither of us were really drunk or anythin so that cant be an excuse, its de first time iv had a one night stand, before this id only slept with 1 person who i had been goin out with for 4mths first.
i dnt know why i just went back wit this practical randomer..im def not ashamed of sleepin wit him, just de fact that i did it after scoring him for the first time, its not somethin id ever do normally.
anyhow, de next mornin he was really sweet and then walked me back to my house ... (certainly made de walk of shame less shameful!!)
we didn swop numbers or anythin, but ther was this kinda hesitation as he was leaving and he jus said, mayb i'll see you out again soon.
hav i just been used an should just forget him or is there a chance? im definitely interested in him but dont know if hes just shy or what..

WhiteWashMan

if you were interested, why not take his number?
or give yours?

as for being used, what age are you?

you had sex. it was a one night stand. it may develop into something more, it may not. thats life.

lazylad

WWM, yeah thats true but you could have said it a little less harsh if you wanted to.
To Laois lass. Yeah sur go for it. You could be lucky. just like the wheel of fortune.

WhiteWashMan

lazylad wrote:

WWM, yeah thats true but you could have said it a little less harsh if you wanted to.
To Laois lass. Yeah sur go for it. You could be lucky. just like the wheel of fortune.

im not entirely sure what was harsh.

im not sure how we are supposed to know what he thinks...

LegacyUser

whitewashman, fair enough, i get what you're saying...i don't know why i didn't take his no., or give him mine - im not really very forward when it comes to things like that. i guess i'll just have to wait an see, huh..

AARRRGH

Nothing you've said suggests you've been used. But from my experience as a male, it is quite reasonable you were just a hole when he needed one. Or then again, he could be sitting at home waiting by his phone.

You never know. Guys are weird.

But I'm not quite sure why you think you've been used. Just talk to him next time you see him, mmmmkay?

There is no problem here. He has not done anything you didn't do.

Laguna

It's true what DublinDude said, he didn't do anything you didn't do, although the non exchange of numbers sounds like he used you. Bah, that's my opinion anyway.

funk-you

he quite possibly could have just bottled it when it came to asking for your number because he didn't know whether it was a one night stand or you wanted more. it almost happened to me with my girlfriend, at the last second i asked her and am now in the best relationship of my life. If he hasn't shown any signs of being an asshole or that type of fella he probably is interested. next time you see him walk straight over say hi and just give him a kiss(even on the cheek) and you'll be able to gauge his reactions from there. if he is interested he'll feel a lot more relaxed and less awkward from then on in too.
Anyway thats my two cents, good luck and i hope things work out well for you.
-Funk

WhiteWashMan

laois_lass wrote:

i guess i'll just have to wait an see, huh..

nothing will happen probably until he accidcently meets you out again.
if you want to see him, then go and see him.

im not sure what the fuss is about...?

Pjays

if you see him again go up to him and talk to him you should be able to tell by his body language and his reaction how he feels towards you. i know it's difficult to do but what have you got to lose?

Victor

I don't think anyone was used.

Two ships went bump in the night. Nobody drowned.

Laguna wrote:

although the non exchange of numbers sounds like he used you.

By that reckoning, he was also used.

dramaqueen

If you were used, then it was no more than he was. You both had fun and that's what one night stands are.
As for what could happen next, who knows. But in fairness the pressure to take your number would have been less by the fact that he knew he would see you. It's not like he was a stranger. You said you see each other every day.
Next time you see him, be really friendly but not in a girlfriendy (not a word!) way. See how he is and take it from there.
Good luck