Friends??

kat9182

Ive lost touch with most of people I used to be friends with when I was a kid, Over the years Ive meet people and made friends but never any real close friends... I have plenty of people who I meet up with once a month and talk to every now and then but no one who you just ring to talk to for no reason or to just pop in for a cup o tea.

Most people I know have friends from when they were kids, or people they have been hanging around with for years. I want to make some new friends but its not so easy?! Where do you find people your own age to make friends with? Im 24 from South County Dublin...

Any Ideas greatly appreciated!

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Join a club or start a hobbie that you enjoy that is a start and a great way to meet new people.Work as well is key making new friends in work and geting more involved with the social activities is another great way to open up new doors.

craiglen

yeah man... consistency leads to consistent friendships and what i mean my that is if there's a constant in your social life like a club or going to the pub on a reg basis or even school or college then generally friends are an inevitability!

generally when friends live close by i don't need a reason to go over to them but if they're even a few miles away then i find i need one

kat9182

I am SUCH an active person... I am part of a club that I train with twice a week but most of the members are 30+, I also do some classes but no one really talks much in them, its more of a get in get out sorta situation, I have worked in the same place for 3 years and I have a good laugh with the people i work with but again they are alot older...
Between my job,training and classes i dont have time to be starting/joining much else. Would just love to able to chat to some girlfriends on the phone or pop in on my way home, or just to have someone to sit in with a bottle of vino and vid during the week...

WhiteWashMan

kat9182 wrote:

Ive lost touch with most of people I used to be friends with when I was a kid, Over the years Ive meet people and made friends but never any real close friends... I have plenty of people who I meet up with once a month and talk to every now and then but no one who you just ring to talk to for no reason or to just pop in for a cup o tea.

Most people I know have friends from when they were kids, or people they have been hanging around with for years. I want to make some new friends but its not so easy?! Where do you find people your own age to make friends with? Im 24 from South County Dublin...

Any Ideas greatly appreciated!

yep, realise that you are not 12 anymore, do some adult things, try and actually make an effort to talk to people.

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could of said it better myself whitewashman , remember that its up too you to make a effort with people

Karoma

WhiteWashMan wrote:

yep, realise that you are not 12 anymore, do some adult things, try and actually make an effort to talk to people.

how ironic,you could have made more of an effort than replying with the obvious over-simplistic view.

Please reply to threads in a civil and well phrased manner, remember being a Personal Issues board the contents of some threads may be very close to people's hearts...

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Karoma wrote:

how ironic,you could have made more of an effort than replying with the obvious over-simplistic view.

Please reply to threads in a civil and well phrased manner, remember being a Personal Issues board the contents of some threads may be very close to people's hearts...

what is ironic about his reply it was honest and sometimes people need that blunt honesty in their lifes !

Karoma

About making an effort to communicate.
Sorry, do you want me to lace each post with a smiley?

kat9182

WhiteWashMan wrote:

yep, realise that you are not 12 anymore, do some adult things, try and actually make an effort to talk to people.

Im quite aware of what age I am and do plenty of "adult things"..
this advise coming from someone who has 12,762 posts to their name... dont YOU have a life? :rolleyes:

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kat9182 wrote:

Im quite aware of what age I am and do plenty of "adult things"..
this advise coming from someone who has 12,762 posts to their name... dont YOU have a life? :rolleyes:

Right i take that as a insult to whitewashman that is out of order 12,000+ post over a 7ear member ship isnt that much lets be honest , you wann make friends here stop your insults ! eh maybe if you werent so quick to insult maybe you could talk to people better ?

jrey1981

Has the OP been banned?...I was going to make a comment...

davidgti

kat9182 wrote:

Ive lost touch with most of people I used to be friends with when I was a kid, Over the years Ive meet people and made friends but never any real close friends... I have plenty of people who I meet up with once a month and talk to every now and then but no one who you just ring to talk to for no reason or to just pop in for a cup o tea.

Most people I know have friends from when they were kids, or people they have been hanging around with for years. I want to make some new friends but its not so easy?! Where do you find people your own age to make friends with? Im 24 from South County Dublin...

Any Ideas greatly appreciated!

how about chat rooms just my opinion

Red Alert

to the OP, i guess from your age that you're working full time. a change of job might do the trick but could be a drastic option so it's best left alone for the time being.

i know very few people from when i was a kid, and not a whole lot from when i was a teenager. the last time i saw most of the people i went to secondary school with was the debs. i know only three people from my old primary school. that's just the way of the world. most of my mates now are from college, a few from work and few from around where i live.

why don't you suggest this group of people you meet up with go into town or something not on the usual monthly date?

Oryx

kat9182 wrote:

Im quite aware of what age I am and do plenty of "adult things"..
this advise coming from someone who has 12,762 posts to their name... dont YOU have a life? :rolleyes:

In defence of WWM, he dont mince his words, you kinda have to get used to it but he talks sense!
I know from experience you can go to all the groups/clubs in the world and never get past nodding acquaintance with anyone there. You have to make an effort to make small talk, be interested etc. I have difficulty getting past this to the actual 'friends' part, but certain types of group are easier, such as charity groups where you all have meetings and talk flows more naturally.

I suppose its all about taking a risk - making suggestions about doing something outside the group, meeting for coffee etc.(sounds so cliched )

PS I dont have contact with any old school mates either, it happens :rolleyes:

Jonny Arson

WhiteWashMan wrote:

yep, realise that you are not 12 anymore, do some adult things, try and actually make an effort to talk to people.

Karoma wrote:

how ironic,you could have made more of an effort than replying with the obvious over-simplistic view.

Please reply to threads in a civil and well phrased manner, remember being a Personal Issues board the contents of some threads may be very close to people's hearts...

Well said Karoma but it's WWM were talking about here..... he's been doing this since for god knows how long. That was an insult - end of.

OP - The best option is to look for something to do that you have an interest in. If your interested in a scene, sport, hobbie or anything along those lines do your best to find some time to take it up. It's hideously difficult to make friends with anyone after the teenage years but this will be your best bet since you will be interacting with people on a similar wavelength to you.

Good luck!

dudara

Guys, stick to the topic, rather than debating the merits of WWM's advice.

Red Alert

if you're into music at all try something like swing or salsa or the like - very easy to meet people.