Does fantasy make me bi-sexual>?

Prickly_in_pink

Am in a relationship with a man I love, but when we're getting heavy I often start fantasising.....often about women. I have never kissed a girl, and am most definitely attracted to men... but does this mean that am I bi or is a bit of fantasy normal, even if straight?

Sifo

yea it's ok to fantasise, your private thoughts are yours and yours only.. however, if you decide to act on your fantasy it becomes reality an you have to consider whether you want to do that...

Maccattack

Well, do you want to kiss a girl?

I think you already know the answer.

sutty

I'd have to say that the fantasy does not make you Bi-sexual. Acting apon and it feeling more natural would more than likely make you Bi-sexual. I'd say the best place to ask about this would be on the LGB board.

The Bollox

I would say it makes you bi-curious, I was like that foir a little while

TerrorFirmer

Fantasty and Reality are two different things.

What seems to be a desire in your own fantasy might not translate too well if you attempt to persue it. Then again, it might.

No-one here can tell you really, but all I can say is that at least, having such fantasties does not necessarily mean you are actually bi-sexual.

Dr_Teeth

Ah we're all a little bi-sexual aren't we?! Humans are cool.

dramaqueen

I think everybody is bisexual, people just lean more in one direction or the other.
They say that most women have same sex fantasies so I wouldn't be too worried about it.

annR

Most women have same sex fantasies ? Come on :rolleyes:

dramaqueen

Yes I read a survey in one of those magazines (Cosmo or one of them) that over 80% of women have thought about it and apparently if they watch porn they prefer to watch girls!
Who knew?

man-in-cognito

I think there's too much emphasis put on labels when it comes to sex.. Gay, straight, Bi, Bi-Curious.. blah blah blah..

I heard a very good theory once. Sexuality is on a scale of 1-10, 1 being only attracted to the same sex, 10 being only attracted to the opposite sex. The theory was that each individual will vary as to what number they are on the list, and invariably that number will change throughout their lives.. I believe this theory, and I hate hearing people trying to find a label for themselves.

Personally speaking, I've fantasised about sexual experiences with guys, but I'd never Kiss a guy.. I wouldn't worry too much about it tbh. As others have pointed out, fantasizing is perfectly normal..

MIC.

Maccattack

I dont know about this whole 'if you dont act on it' thing.

If you think about doing it then you are IMHO. I mean, If I went without sex with a woman for say, 20 years It doesnt mean I'm not 'straight'. know what I mean.

I havent made that point very well have i...

DawnMc

Try kissing one of your female friends that you find attractive,
see how you feel during it

nobodythere

Freud figured we were all bi and that it was just sexual oppression...

I don't believe that but some female friends (numerous sources) have told me that all girls are closet lesbians. Fine by me!

jellie

DawnMc wrote:

Try kissing one of your female friends that you find attractive,
see how you feel during it

Are you suggesting she tells her friend she thinks shes attractive and wants to kiss her to find out if she likes it?

Hmm whatever youre suggesting, is good in theory i suppose, but might be a bit beyond the duty of friendship

claire h

Would you want to be with a woman in real life, rather than just as a fantasy while you're with a guy? If you need to ask the question then I'm guessing no.

tonyinuae

Going from my own experience: I used to have vague romantic, almost sexual, fantasies about women - only certain ones - when I was very young, but that stopped years ago. The last actually sexual ones were when I was really young, pre-puberty in fact. My sexuality has developed very decisively along another route.

So I'd say that if as an adult you often have fantasies about other women then you are in fact to some degree bi - the question is: Are you bi enough to want to take it any further?

Vangelis

grasshopa wrote:

Freud figured we were all bi and that it was just sexual oppression...

I don't believe that but some female friends (numerous sources) have told me that all girls are closet lesbians. Fine by me!

Don't believe everything you hear.
Don't believe everything that is told you.

WhiteWashMan

Prickly_in_pink wrote:

Am in a relationship with a man I love, but when we're getting heavy I often start fantasising.....often about women. I have never kissed a girl, and am most definitely attracted to men... but does this mean that am I bi or is a bit of fantasy normal, even if straight?

not at all.
everyone has fantasies of one kind or another, and to varying degrees. it may be something that you only think of when in a certain situation, something you only think of when you are looking for that little bit extra. who knows.
of course, if you then go and shag another chick, id have to put you in the bi (or if you prefer bi-curious) camp, but there is a world of difference between what we think, and what we do and we are not defined by what we think.
unless you are a philosopher, but thats a whole other thread...

nobodythere

Vangelis wrote:

Don't believe everything you hear.
Don't believe everything that is told you.

I'm content with living in denial about certain things.

To the OP, think it's much more unusual for a guy than a girl