Can it work???

katieo

Ive been with this guy for a few months and i really like maybe even dare i say it love him. The thing is that he's gone away to college and im staying at home and going to college here.I really dont want to break up wit him and I trust him 100% but i dont know if ill be able to survive just seeing him on the weekend since i also work weekends and ive seen him everyday for the summer and now he's gone. Ive been really upset when i talk to him but wait til after i get off the fone to cry. Im so happy for him cause he got the course he wanted but i still miss him loads.Just wondering if anyone else here has gone through a long distance releationship and if it worked or not?? trying to figure out if i should stick wit it for a while and see how it goes or end it now and try to get over him??

s4dd

aye, it's hard and no mistake ;/

there are ways of keeping in contact though, and i can tell you for certain that the time you do spend together is all the more appriciated. i guess it depends on how you feel for this guy.. it'll hurt, for certain.. but there are alot of college holidays, weeks arn't that long and with the phone and the internet he's not going to be all THAT far away..

LegacyUser

Of course it can work, once you are prepared to put the effort in. I have been in a long distance relationship for two years with my gf who lives in London, I live in Dublin. We are now engaged. We see each other every 2 - 3 weeks. But the way we keep it going is to talk a lot. We spend a couple of hours on the phone every night and call each other on the mobiles throughout the day.

I'd say you should stick with it.

g'em

its damn hard no two ways about it. plus im guessing you guys are young-ish if you're just starting out in college, which means lots of new friends, new experiences etc.

Obviously you're going to miss him like heel but make sure you don't miss out on any of the new life you're going to find for yourself in college. and besides, if you're both doing new things, it'll give you plenty to talk about on those 2 hour long phone calls

The weekdays will fly by if you#re having fun, and absence does make the heart grow fonder, you just have to work that little bit harder at the relationship.

Good luck!!!

Beruthiel

Can it work???

don't see how we can answer that question for you, it's entirely up to the two of ye.

FunkyChick

Hey there OP! There are no obstacles to real love. You seem to be mad about this guy. Look at the pain you feel now on the phone to him. How would you feel if that was the end of it and ye split up? Sure, sounds like you wouldn't be able to look at another fella for months on end. If you have someone you love, stick with it. No point in letting him go cuz it's hard. Unless you feel he ain't the one, but it doesn't sound like that...

By the way, I got dumped last night by a guy who ditched me cuz I'm going back to college. He didn't even want to give it a go. Anyway, it's worked out grand, cuz I could never go out with someone who was so willing to let me slip through their fingers.

Kingp35

Nobody can answer if it will work or not for you two but yeah I was in the exact same situation as you are when I was starting college. My girlfriend was in college in Galway and I went to college in Dublin as im from Dublin. It was a little bit tough at the start but that was 3 years ago and we are still only seeing each other every weekend and to be honest at this stage I don’t even notice it. Your weeks will fly by as you have something to look forward to every weekend and lets be honest you can go visit each other during the week sometimes too as im aure if you skip a few lectures you wont die.
Also there are loads of college holidays and christmas holidays are not that far away at all. Believe me its not as tough as you think it is.

In can be good in a way as well as your not totally in each others faces all the time as you have your space to your own thing during the week and hang out with friends and stuff without any hassle form your bf/gf and then spend quality time with your bf/gf at the weekends. So to answer your question yes it definitely can work but you have to be willing to put the effort in and also want to stay together.

WhiteWashMan

katieo wrote:

Ive been with this guy for a few months and i really like maybe even dare i say it love him. The thing is that he's gone away to college and im staying at home and going to college here.I really dont want to break up wit him and I trust him 100% but i dont know if ill be able to survive just seeing him on the weekend since i also work weekends and ive seen him everyday for the summer and now he's gone. Ive been really upset when i talk to him but wait til after i get off the fone to cry. Im so happy for him cause he got the course he wanted but i still miss him loads.Just wondering if anyone else here has gone through a long distance releationship and if it worked or not?? trying to figure out if i should stick wit it for a while and see how it goes or end it now and try to get over him??

only going out for a few months.
youre not sure if you love him.
you wont see each other for ages.

wont last.

life is to be enjoyed, not waiting around for good times.
besides, he will be living away from home, and he will get bored of going out with someone he cant be with on drunken nights in the college bar.

id give it 2 months max.

misswex

I'd say it definitely can work!! I met a guy last summer and he had to start back in college that October, we both live in separate counties anyway so it was always going to be a long distance thing but its worked out for us. His since finished college and its still going strong, love him to bits.

Seeing each other only on the weekends can be tough at times but when you do see each other its great and you appreciate the time you do have together.

So I think if your feelings for him are strong enough that it can definitley work!!

Good luck with it

Jesper

"i dont know if ill be able to survive just seeing him on the weekend"

Those words seemed to come out of your subconscience. If it was really love wouldn't you be happy with any contact at all.
This might make you gag as it almost did me but might actually help here.
Watched "City of Angles" yesterday (poor enough flick). But story goes like this... an angel falls in love with a mortel girl. Has to decide weather it is worth giving up on eternal peace to become mortal again for her. Of course he does. He seekes her out they have one wonderful night. She dies next day (she went for a bike ride and closed her eyes in bliss at the thought of her new love ((what did she expect)) and hit a truck).
God asked the post-angel was it worth it.
Of course the reply was; it was worth it from the first sight onwards and everything else was a bonus.
Long story short seems to me like you might have the right person and I always go by rule that if you don't ever rool the dice you cant' ever throw a six.

LegacyUser

i'm in the same boat as you dude, well the going out part, not the engaged part.

nearly a year now myself, not the most ideal situation in the world, but it's better than not going out with her.

Dub-man111 wrote:

Of course it can work, once you are prepared to put the effort in. I have been in a long distance relationship for two years with my gf who lives in London, I live in Dublin. We are now engaged. We see each other every 2 - 3 weeks. But the way we keep it going is to talk a lot. We spend a couple of hours on the phone every night and call each other on the mobiles throughout the day.

I'd say you should stick with it.

Khannie

WhiteWashMan wrote:

only going out for a few months.
youre not sure if you love him.
you wont see each other for ages.

wont last.

WWM: Tellin' it like it is (TM).

Kingp35

WhiteWashMan wrote:

only going out for a few months.
youre not sure if you love him.
you wont see each other for ages.

wont last.

Quite the love cynic there WWM

I was with my girlfriend for 2 weeks before the long distance thing started. You dont have to be together for years before for it to work. Obviously it depends on the people involved though

Cutie18Ireland

yes it can work!! im living proof when me and my bf started going out i seen him all summer then id to go home and we were a gud bit away and i was in 6th year so u can see why we didnt see alot of each other!! now we're together 14 months!! so it can work!! it may take some work!! but the rewards are well worth it!