a little problem......

Motley Crue

met a girl i liked a couple of days ago, we'll call her ms x. I like ms x, and she really seems to be a girl I could see myself going out with for a period and at least having a few months of a good time with, she may not be 'marrige' material lol or not, i dont know, thats not what im looking for at the moment. im just basically looking for someones company and she seems like a girl i could spend time with, theres just one problem, shes 9 months pregnant. she lives with her parents, has a good job, and I CAN ASSURE YOU im not one to be easily fooled by cries for money etc. I know i should tread carefully, and im also telling myself i shouldnt get involved from day one, but personality wise i like this girl and that doesnt happen often!

should i go out on one date with her or just blow her off here and now.

jcoote

on edate won't hurt u and if u are willing to put up with her being totally preoccupied ith a new baby and not really be able to 'see u' then go for it but its a tall task...imagine if she went into labour on the date holy sh1t...best of luck anyway

Gazza22

No if you are getting the feeling that there is 'chemistry' between you's then just go for it. One date won't hurt.

If this relationship happened to develop, would you be happy taking on a child?

As jcoote mentioned, you will have to accept the fact that she will not have eyes only for you. She is at a serious point in her life about to give birth to a baby. Don't be put off if she seems a bit preoccupied, she will be totally different next month!

Good luck

Jonny Arson

Starting a relationship with woman who's just about to have a child is complete no go. There are many permutations as to why I say this such as..........

- she will be preoccupied with her child (even more so as a single mother) and will have very little free time on her hands. She needs to bond with her child. The next month or so will be a hectic period in her life.
- in starting a relationship you need very few distractions. A newborn baby is a massive one.
- she is a single mother. Some responsibility for the child will fall on you (e.g. babysitting) Do you mind this?
- do you think you are mentally ready to be in a relationship with a woman who has a child?
- you say you have known her ''a couple of days.'' Do you think you're maybe rushing things a little?

IMO I think a good idea is to stay in touch with the girl but for a few months at least. Try to be friends, maybe make a date after a month and see how you really feel about her. You're only young and a baby in your life is something that is a big deal. However if you are geniunely mad about her then who's to stop you but as you said you've only known her for a short time so don't rush into anything.

ferdi

get out of there now. how old are you?

seriously, that sounds like an absolute disaster

Draupnir

i wouldnt make the baby a reason not to go out with her and see what happens anyway.

be aware though, that single mothers dont date blokes for the laugh and/or a casual sexual relationship. theyre shopping for daddies and serious relationships.

does nobody watch Jerry Maguire? haha.

my advice: go out with her once but be careful, it cant hurt.

Shabadu

Wow- aren't you all fantastically knowledgeable about single mothers? So, we're all the exact same? Only want 'daddies and serious relationships'?

Grow up.

OP, if you want to see her, go ahead. No-one is expecting you to commit to a serious relationship with someone you just met, especially her, i'd imagine.

faceman

Is this a wind up???????????????

the_syco

Good chemistry? Go for it. Be warned, tho, that she'll put her baby before you alot, so don't take it the wrong way if she seems to be ignoring you, its proberly unintenional [spelling?]

Nevyn

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