size hurts

sunny ali

guy im seeing is very well endowed and im really worried it will hurt if we have sex. in fact i know it will hurt even with lub lots of foreplay etc.
has anyone else, man or woman, had any problems relating to this?

and please no "what you complaining about?" posts. they dont help anyone

Shrimp

Question:

sunny ali wrote:

"will hurt if we have sex."

Answer:

sunny ali wrote:

"it will hurt"

Try not to think out loud.

Nevyn

Take it slow and easy.
You being on top will give you more control.
The vagaina walls are pretty resilant and elastic for babies do come out of there.
You maybe sore but you will adjust, take it at your pace
and make sure your partner understands your concerns and will be carefull and
not get carried away.

AARRRGH

If a baby can come out, surely he can go in?

I've actually researched this a lot (due to an ex who was very "tight".) You should have no problems. From what I've read, girls who are too tight for sex, it's nearly always a mental issue (i.e. physically your vagina can handle a lot.)

Stop worrying You'll be fine.

jcoote

try gettin a few drinks on board... alcohol brings your pain threshold up and makes us a hell of a lot more comfortable wit ourselves.. foreplay and lube wit that should do the trick

LegacyUser

I'm blessed by being well endowed and I've gone out with some very petite girls in my time. The key is exactly what Thaed said.

You on top (for control). Plenty of foreplay (oral for you from him is a great "relaxant"). Lube if necessary (more likely if you're using a condom....which I'd strongly recommend).

You can get larger than average condoms in sex shops. I always found standard ones uncomfortably tight and short.

Eolyn

I was in the same situation twice before. Being on top does help but the guy usually wants to do a little pushing. So i found that the guy coming in from behind is the best. The guy gets to go at it as hard as he wants but it does stop him from getting in as far.

AARRRGH

Do a Google search for Vaginismus.

newgrange

Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay and lube.
Length is not really an issue unless he is clumsy enough to bash off your cervix - which will hurt.

Women who love women (who tend to know how other women's bodies work) can easily get an entire fist in, sometimes two, so lots of things are possible, if enough time is taken.

If you're not ready, it will hurt, and will do damage.

blahblah06

how big is well endowed. i ask this because u may just worry that u have neve rbeen with a guy a certain size

sunny ali

no ive been witha few before,hes nearly eleven inches and its really thick so i know its gonna be uncomfortable anyway

chillywilly

11!

/jaw drops to the floor

well id be repeating what others were saying, but id say he has been in this position before so just explain to take it slow and easy.

Nevyn

There are positions that can help, but you are still best being on top until
you accustomise yourself.

BrianD3

If he is actually 11 and "really thick" then he's not going to be able to use a condom safely or comfortably. I doubt that he is 11 though, only a tiny tiny proportion of men are that big.

Andy-Pandy

sunny ali wrote:

no ive been witha few before,hes nearly eleven inches and its really thick so i know its gonna be uncomfortable anyway

Sweet Jesus, dont know if thats a blessing or a curse.

Endurance Man

11 inches , good lord. The chances of that are supposed to be very slim :eek: . Look at these stats :cool:

http://www.edu.uni-klu.ac.at/~amiklaut/dr_nick/answer19.htm

Is it even possible.

jrey1981

I happened upon a statistic once saying that young women apparently overestimate the size of their partner's..er..endowment..by anything up to 20%.

s4dd

Endurance Man wrote:

Is it even possible.

Oh, it's possible.. havn't you seen the movies? .... But, sweet jesus, he could do damage with that thing... as has already been said, i'm sure he has more experience in using it that you've had. tell him to "be gentle" and... well, have a good time, i guess

..on a slightly off topic request, perhaps you could tell us if "bigger is better"... we can lay the myth to rest once and for all!

Setun

11!!! Whoa!

Maybe it's one of those elusive weopons of mass destruction our american buddies are always bangin on about?

AARRRGH

I'd like to know if she measured it, or if he did.

"Yeah babe, it's 11 inches".

LOL

Fair play to him anyway!

peachesandcream

i was there when we measured it otherswise i would have said "i think its about 11 inches". half this discussion has been wasted discussing if im telling the truth/know what im talking about!

Ry

Tbh I'd hate if mine was 11. That's be a real pain the the arse

Are you sunny ali AND peaches and cream?

I think slowly does it is what's necessary here. let yourself be on top and just go easy on it literally.

Ry

StephenInsane

Mine is around the same size, except slightly larger. Yeah it can be a nuisance some girls are frightened by it, but most girls love it. Most just jump on and take the ride of their life.

Red Alert

I'd actually avoid the alcohol, in case you do actually hurt yourself.

mad m

This is probably fictional but here it goes.I once read in a magazine once about this woman whos man was big/long.They came up with the idea of putting something like donuts(not real donuts) down his shaft to lessen the length.

I think they bought some rubber type donuts or something,cant remember as it was years ago.So they sort of stacked these rubber donuts down his penis so they could have comfortable sex.

Eleven inches,jesus!!!!

elvis2002

mad m wrote:

This is probably fictional but here it goes.I once read in a magazine once about this woman whos man was big/long.They came up with the idea of putting something like donuts(not real donuts) down his shaft to lessen the length.

I think they bought some rubber type donuts or something,cant remember as it was years ago.So they sort of stacked these rubber donuts down his penis so they could have comfortable sex.

Eleven inches,jesus!!!!

yah this is a tool called the love donut made by seymore butts... i recall

Chucky the tree

its must be an awful bollox for the chap if he gets an erection on the bus.

LegacyUser

girls always, ALWAYS think their boyfriends johnson is a lot bigger than it is. in fact i find that women in general are not the best judges of length or distance without the appropriate measuring instruments. sorry about the sexism but thats just my experience. try this for instance: if i held out my hands with my fingers out to represent a certain distance and got you to guess how long that distance was i reckon lads would underestimate and girls would overestimate. this is just off the top of my head and probably not helpful at all.

The_Thing

11" :eek: - Christ almighty.

George Bush invaded Iraq looking for weapons of ass - sorry I mean mass destruction.

BrianD3

ahcomeonnow wrote:

girls always, ALWAYS think their boyfriends johnson is a lot bigger than it is. in fact i find that women in general are not the best judges of length or distance without the appropriate measuring instruments. sorry about the sexism but thats just my experience. try this for instance: if i held out my hands with my fingers out to represent a certain distance and got you to guess how long that distance was i reckon lads would underestimate and girls would overestimate. this is just off the top of my head and probably not helpful at all.

Many women are poor at estimating size, distance, speed, weight
Many men exaggerate their penis size due to insecurity
Many women believe the bullsh1t that men tell them eg "yeah babe it's 11 inches"
Many men measure their cock incorrectly.The proper way to measure is along the top from the pelvic bone NOT along the bottom or side.

Studies have found that the vast majority of men have a cock between 5 and 7 inches long when erect. A small percentage are over 8 inches. Cocks of 10 inches or more are extremely rare.

Mr. Presentable

Women and judging size.

They never buy enough wall paper because:

Men use the centimetre side of the ruler to measure their bits and tell the lady it's inches.

TerrorFirmer

spannerhead wrote:

Women and judging size.

They never buy enough wall paper because:

Men use the centimetre side of the ruler to measure their bits and tell the lady it's inches.

Ha. Well, I'm not afraid to say I'm totally average sized, not under sized, but under no circumstances over sized. It's amazing though how people lie and expect the lie to never surface despite the glaring obviousness given certain situations. Now, this guy, who know's if hes 11" or not, but I'm sure whatever his size, its quite large.

Is it a good thing or a bad thing? I suppose this isn't the thread for it. It must annoy him though.

It shouldn't hurt though, unless his width is as ferocious as his length? Its never really length thats the issue, he'd know how far he can go and wouldn't go any further. When someone says "pain" arising from size, it normally means either an intensely uncaring partner who shoves it up, or someone who has the width of a light pole.The love donut thing above is a good idea, but I can only imagine its a bit akward....

Beruthiel

The_Thing wrote:

11" :eek: - Christ almighty.

George Bush invaded Iraq looking for weapons of ass - sorry I mean mass destruction.

if you have nothing helpful to add to the topic, please refrain from commenting at all.
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dramaqueen

It doesn't really matter what size he is and whether he is lying or you are exaggerating...
What matters is that you are afraid that it's going to hurt. As long as you stay afraid, the reality is that it will hurt! It's a mental cycle that causes you to tighten up everytime he goes near you.
You need to be totally relaxed, lots of foreplay and lots of patience on his part, maybe take a bath together.
Look up Vaginismis on the internet and you should get some helpful hints on how to overcome it.
The more you do it, the less it will hurt but he really needs to know how you feel because if he gets carried away, it will only get worse.
Good luck

Vangelis

BrianD3 wrote:

Studies have found that the vast majority of men have a cock between 5 and 7 inches long when erect. A small percentage are over 8 inches. Cocks of 10 inches or more are extremely rare.

That's a relief! :cool:

chump

I'd feel better if the average was between 3 and 5 inches... then I'd be right in the middle!

Number6

Having a thick penis can cause problems, mainly they are just worrying problems like "Can he fit it in?".

Answer, yes you can... but i recomend avoiding anal sex for now, it will probably hurt her a lot.

Le Rack

11"??!! He... Here and I thought 8" was good... well that was my estimation, he measured and it was just barely under the eight, so my judgement aint too bad!

Take it slow, gentle, plenty of easy foreplay, not like a certain ex of mine, who cut me!! Bastard!

Raiser

sunny ali wrote:

guy im seeing is very well endowed and im really worried it will hurt if we have sex. in fact i know it will hurt even with lub lots of foreplay etc.
has anyone else, man or woman, had any problems relating to this?

and please no "what you complaining about?" posts. they dont help anyone

peachesandcream wrote:

i was there when we measured it otherswise i would have said "i think its about 11 inches". half this discussion has been wasted discussing if im telling the truth/know what im talking about!

This troll accidently used the wrong one of his multiple accounts to reply to his own dumb thread.

- Sounds like its just some sad little man posting about guys with 11 inchers while fondling his own 2 incher.

Maccattack

It might hurt a bit. But is it bad pain??

I think maybe only the girls should answer this thread.

TerrorFirmer

Raiser wrote:

This troll accidently used the wrong one of his multiple accounts to reply to his own dumb thread.

- Sounds like its just some sad little man posting about guys with 11 inchers while fondling his own 2 incher.

Got so caught up in the penis talk I didn't even notice.

For shame you troll!

And btw, great imagery...some guy fondling his 2 incher..... :eek: