Help I fancy my boss!

LegacyUser

Hi everyone, well my problem is pretty much what it says on the tin-I fancy my boss! I have no idea how old he is (about 35 max) or if the feeling is mutual. Does anyone have any advice?

Thanks

WorkGal

WhiteWashMan

whats your status?
whats his status?
how long have you known each other?

you know, the sort of information that makes things more easy to read.


but what im hearing now is that you fancy your boss. my advice is smile at him and wear low cut tops.

annR

How important is your job and career to you, and would this be harmed or progressed if you had an affair with your boss? Think about it.

It's easy to say 'it would be good for my job' but when it finishes, probably not (unless you end up marrying him).

What age are you?

the_syco

Would you still fancy him if he wasn't your boss? As in, are you in love with his power, or just him?

Also, drop a coin in front of him, and bend over to pick it up, if you're following WWM's advice.

TerrorFirmer

Hmmm. What sort of topic is this?

"I'm a 15 year old girl working in Super Valu"

or

"I'm a 20-something year old working in a succesful company"

It depends on the senario and alot of other factors to give a response.

Also, don't forgot to lift your skirt and exclaim, oh no, my tights are ripped all the way to the top!

cregser

WhiteWashMan wrote:

...my advice is smile at him and wear low cut tops...

High heels that don't make you look clumsy. Short skirts that don't show the stubble on your legs. Alot walking into his office with documents to sign and leeeeaaaning over the desk. Sitting near him at lunch. Pouncing on him in the elevator/car park. Dropping your knickers and giving the to him... :rolleyes:

I agree with WWM, we need more info. Otherwise you'll get more advice like the above.

One thing I will say though is that if it doesn't work out, be prepared to leave the job. What you should worry about is if he has the power/inclination to sack you straight away or give you a chance to find work.

shellby

quite basically i like sandwhiches - what kinda bread, the filling, whether i am or am not a veggie, butter or mayo i'll let you fill in the gaps

post need a bit more sauce if you ask me

dramaqueen

never sh*t on your own doorstep

DaisyDuke

Totally agree with dramaqueen. It's an unwritten rule - never shag your boss or your teammates at work. Leads to all sorts of awkwardness, whether the thing works out or not. Plus your collegues won't appreciate the new dynamic in the office either.

If you're totally desperate, head to Miss Fantasia's. Batteries generally last longer than most office affairs anyways...

AARRRGH

the_syco wrote:

Would you still fancy him if he wasn't your boss?

My thinking exactly.

Most likely he will not want to be with you because he wants to remain professional. However this does not mean he won't have sex with you at the Christmas party and then pretend it never happened.

Dangerous ground!

LegacyUser

I'm 18, this is only a summer job. I've since found out he's married with kids! I think maybe I just like his power. I won't be in the job for very much longer anyway so I think I'll just forget about him.

Vangelis

Geez, think about his wife and his kids. Are you so selfish that you think you'll get laid by him when he is married with kids? There is no question any longer what you should do. Forget it!

Laguna

MobileInfantry wrote:

Hmmm. What sort of topic is this?

"I'm a 15 year old girl working in Super Valu"

or

"I'm a 20-something year old working in a succesful company"

LOL, I hope it isn't the first one anyway. It depends WorkGal, think of the consequences good and bad if the relationship works/fails. Weigh 'em up and then decide.

LegacyUser

Vangelis wrote:

Geez, think about his wife and his kids. Are you so selfish that you think you'll get laid by him when he is married with kids? There is no question any longer what you should do. Forget it!

He's the one that's married with kids, not me! If I was to get with him, he would be the one in the wrong, not me. I'm a free agent.

Cabelo

Vangelis completely understood that from the looks of his post... Anyway, crisis averted. Nothing will happen and the world is safe.

I got the impression that him being married completely halted the whole idea; good stuff.

TerrorFirmer

WorkGal wrote:

He's the one that's married with kids, not me! If I was to get with him, he would be the one in the wrong, not me. I'm a free agent.

Yeah, you would be absolved of absolutely all blame :rolleyes:

18 going on 13?

simu

WorkGal wrote:

He's the one that's married with kids, not me! If I was to get with him, he would be the one in the wrong, not me. I'm a free agent.

I doubt he's interested tbh and even if he was, he's hardly going to risk his family and career over some 18-year old. Do not display your feelings - you'll soon find somebody new to obsess and simper over.

Laguna

simu wrote:

Do not display your feelings - you'll soon find somebody new to obsess and simper over.

Jesus, you're trying to make her sound completely pathetic!

DAEDULUS

the_syco wrote:

Would you still fancy him if he wasn't your boss? As in, are you in love with his power, or just him?

power is an attractive feature for women,why does it matter?
would you fancy a woman if she was a mut?

Cake Fiend

You'll be embarrassed enough as it is over this in five years. It would be ten times worse if you had gone ahead with it.

Victor

Laguna wrote:

Jesus, you're trying to make her sound completely pathetic!

No, just to make her sound like an 18 year old block .. .. who's pathetic.

dramaqueen

Eh she did say that she had found out that he was married and therefore was going to forget him...
She had a crush on an older guy, (as most of us did at 18), she didn't say anything to let him know and as soon as she found out that he was unavailable, she moved on. How is that pathetic?
I think well done for having the maturity to accept the truth when you're faced with it. Hopefully the next guy you fancy will be more suitable.