shaving downstairs

joeman9

my girlfriend is quite hairy downstairs (all over) and it revolts me a little. shes not fond of waxing or shaving and i'm unsure how to approx the subject. I'd like if she had a complete waxing although a partial one would be better than now. Shes a stunning girl and i love her dearly. Any ideas how i can approach the subject or is this an unsuitable topic for discussion here?

Nevyn

Do yours to begin with.
Seriously.
Trim and shave is better then waxing.

Kinetic^

Thaed wrote:

Do yours to begin with.
Seriously.
Trim and shave is better then waxing.

yeah try doing and see if she's willing to follow,if she doesn't then you'll have to be up front about it.

LegacyUser

i had same problem with my girlfriend.

she asked if i wanted anything special!!! for my birthday

so i wanted her to get a hollywood, because i had never been
with a girl who had one (lie).

so she did and loved it more than me and has been getting them
ever since.

i personally find it very sexy.

so you can always wait for your birthday or christmas.

otherwise i have no idea how to approach it

also i trim my area, just a note it can be quiet addictive
one day i did my balls,thighs,stomach and just left 2 tufts
of hair on either side of my cock.

it makes your dick look bigger and like a porn star.

simu

Oh just tell her it would turn you on and let her decide if she's willing to do it or not. I don't see why you'd do yours at all unless you or she or both of you are keen on the idea.

Dreamcatcher

joeman9 wrote:

shes not fond of waxing or shaving and i'm unsure how to approx the subject.

Well then get someone else to do it for her!
Go to a beauty salon and purchase a nicely packaged gift voucher.
At that point, seize the opportunity to drop a few hints.
And for added bonus points, tell her that the price would cover a "complimentary" full body massage also.

Dreamcatcher

simu wrote:

Oh just tell her it would turn you on and let her decide if she's willing to do it or not.

This is better advice than mine really.

It depends on the girl and dynamic of the relationship.

Try simu's advice first.
If it doesn't work, then try my advice.
If that doesn't work, then it's time to sit down and talk.

LegacyUser

get over it?

AARRRGH

joeman9 wrote:

my girlfriend is quite hairy downstairs (all over) and it revolts me a little. shes not fond of waxing or shaving and i'm unsure how to approx the subject. I'd like if she had a complete waxing although a partial one would be better than now. Shes a stunning girl and i love her dearly. Any ideas how i can approach the subject or is this an unsuitable topic for discussion here?

I think the problem is how to make her do this permanently. It is easy to get her a gift voucher for a health salon or something, but to change her mindset so she starts taking pride in "keeping herself trimmed", that's a different story...

I think you are highly likely to offend her when you approach this subject with her.

Does she know you prefer trimmed or shaved girls? I doubt she'd want to remain hairy if she knew you'd prefer her trimmed. Especially if you do manage to get her trimmed and then make it very obvious it is a turn on for you/it's worth her while etc.

Two ex's of mine were similar. I couldn't get them to change

Good luck with it!!

Coney Island

Well, you could suggest to watch a porn together (ensure that the girls in the movie are shaved) and show your appreciation about it during the movie....she may get the hint.

StandnDeliver

ohh have a shower or bath together and be all sexy and ask her does she want to try something new etc,she will be like oooh yeah ok and then u sugest shaving her etc maybe she can return the favour.

Gaspode

You say you "love her dearly" but if you did would you therefore want to change a part of who she is? If you loved her you would accept her - just as she accepts you.

So I am with our guest speaker.... get over it.

simu

deswalsh wrote:

You say you "love her dearly" but if you did would you therefore want to change a part of who she is? If you loved her you would accept her - just as she accepts you.

So I am with our guest speaker.... get over it.

Geez - it's only hair. People suggest new sexual practices to their partners all the time - what's the big deal?

g'em

simu wrote:

Geez - it's only hair. People suggest new sexual practices to their partners all the time - what's the big deal?

hear hear. and as a convert to the unhairy-side, trust me, she'll thank you for it

Bamboozled

Dont just blurt it out. That'll hurt and she may never let you near her again.

Just propose "fun in the shower" to her. I've always been a shaver and find its a better way than wax or plucking. Suggesting things like that to the other half when you're in a relationship, adds spice. Dont let her shave - you do it. Be very eager about it so that when she comes out of the shower and you suggest trimming whats left, she wont be freaked out or suspicious. Have a sharp scissors handy- a hair scissors if possible.

When it begins to grow back, ask her is she "up for a repeat of the other night" and use the reasoning that you found it erotic.

If you do it a few times, she'll start doing it herself as a "surprise" for you. OR
If she believes you find it erotic, it may only take the initial suggestion and the "up for a repeat" business just the once, and she might start doing it herself in preparation.

Vangelis

joeman9 wrote:

my girlfriend is quite hairy downstairs (all over) and it revolts me a little. shes not fond of waxing or shaving and i'm unsure how to approx the subject. I'd like if she had a complete waxing although a partial one would be better than now. Shes a stunning girl and i love her dearly. Any ideas how i can approach the subject or is this an unsuitable topic for discussion here?

That revolts you because we live in a time where hairy sexual organs are regarded as obscene and unnatural. There is nothing obscene or unnatural about it, it's only an illusion, an idea impressed in you by the society you live in.

pigeonbutler

Vangelis wrote:

That revolts you because we live in a time where hairy sexual organs are regarded as obscene and unnatural. There is nothing obscene or unnatural about it, it's only an illusion, an idea impressed in you by the society you live in.

Ah sit down and shut up!



Please don't ban me.

iguana

simu wrote:

Geez - it's only hair. People suggest new sexual practices to their partners all the time - what's the big deal?

it's not only hair, waxing hurts as does regrowth following shaving. Some people experience rashes and allergic reactions to either procedure. And getting professionally waxed involves showing a stranger parts of her body that she may not be comfortable with doing. Also getting it done professionally is expensive.

Pehaps she doesn't want to do it because it is can be uncomfortable at best and painful at worst.

Expecting your partner to do something that causes them to be uncomfortable rather than being attracted to them as the are is a big deal.

Jonny Arson

Maybe she just likes being that way and doesn't want to change?

Whatever you do don't shave yourself down there in order to entice her. Say to her in a convo what features you like about a woman and maybe that might give her the hint hint but you can't force her to do anything... it's her body.

simu

iguana wrote:

Pehaps she doesn't want to do it because it is can be uncomfortable at best and painful at worst.

Expecting your partner to do something that causes them to be uncomfortable rather than being attracted to them as the are is a big deal.

Well, some people seem to find the momentary discomfort worth it. I don't know - I've never waxed any part of me in my life! I'm not saying the guy should force his gf to do it (he shouldn't) but there's no harm in asking. She might love the idea or she might react as you did. Impossible to know if he stays silent.

Kiera

If you do decide to get her a voucher for a salon make sure you DON’T get one for H2o on Grafton Street. They have an all male team who do the waxing. Was not impressed!!

annR

>>it's not only hair, waxing hurts as does regrowth following shaving. Some people experience rashes and allergic reactions to either procedure. And getting professionally waxed involves showing a stranger parts of her body that she may not be comfortable with doing. Also getting it done professionally is expensive. <<

Hear hear! It's not so simple for a girl sometimes. You want her to wax . .I hope you also have a way of helping her with ingrown hairs and rashes etc . . . .oh and are you going to pay for it too?

Shabadu

Dreamcatcher wrote:

Well then get someone else to do it for her!
Go to a beauty salon and purchase a nicely packaged gift voucher.
At that point, seize the opportunity to drop a few hints.
And for added bonus points, tell her that the price would cover a "complimentary" full body massage also.

My spidey sense tells me this path leads to a smacked face.

el tel

Refrain from going down for a month or three and if she asks why, tell her why...and mimick someone choking or a cat coughing up a fur-ball.

As some others have said, my guess is that if you get her round to ditching the explosion in a matress factory look, she'll be eternally grateful and embarassed in retrospect.

Shabadu

el tel wrote:

Refrain from going down for a month or three and if she asks why, tell her why...and mimick someone choking or a cat coughing up a fur-ball.

As some others have said, my guess is that if you get her round to ditching the explosion in a matress factory look, she'll be eternally grateful and embarassed in retrospect.

Why the fúck should she be embarassed because of his hang-up?

<simper> "Oh i'm so glad you brought your neurosis to my attention" </simper>

Beruthiel

el tel wrote:

Refrain from going down for a month or three and if she asks why, tell her why...and mimick someone choking or a cat coughing up a fur-ball.

As some others have said, my guess is that if you get her round to ditching the explosion in a matress factory look, she'll be eternally grateful and embarassed in retrospect.

what is wrong with you people?
up until five minutes ago, no body shaved their neither reigons, now in the last few years, it's become the fashion and you think you have the right to expect it cos someone on the telly told you to.
get over yourselves,
OP, if you don't like it, find a g/f who shaves,
she shouldn't have to shave just cos you think it's cool to do so.

Talliesin

el tel wrote:

As some others have said, my guess is that if you get her round to ditching the explosion in a matress factory look, she'll be eternally grateful and embarassed in retrospect.

WTF?

OK, the OP has a particular preference - fair enough. Many other people have that preference also.

I have the opposite preference (to my mind public hair is part of an adult body, and I prefer my lovers to look like adults). Many other people have that preference also.

You should let your partner know what your preferences are. You have no right to insist that it be met though.

Once you get into what someone else should do with their pubic hair you're past the none-of-your-damn-business line.

dramaqueen

I think no matter how you approach this she is going to be embarrassed.
It is important that you show willingness to experience what you expect her to. If you want her to wax, wax yourself.
I personally wouldn't find it sexy if you climbed into the shower and suggested shaving my bits! No matter how many candles were lighting...
And a gift voucher for a wax with a massage thrown in, I'm not sure where to start with that one.

If I was your girlfriend, I would appreciate you bringing it up naturally, in conversation, where you are talking candidly about your likes and dislikes. By that I don't mean, start a conversation over dinner and quickly steer it around to, -"Here I bought you some Immac!"
Once she realises that you really want her to do this for you, she will probably find it easier to say the thing that she dislikes about you...
But she will be embarrassed and you have to tread very carefully.

Another way to go would be to start with...
"Have you ever had a bikini wax?"
If she says yes and it hurt, you have your answer, if she says no, why?, ask her if she thinks you should get your back done etc. She will more than likely ask you if you think she should get it done. At least the conversation is on the table and the focus is more on you than on her. Less embarrassing that way.

Tar.Aldarion

Beruthiel wrote:

OP, if you don't like it, find a g/f who shaves,
she shouldn't have to shave just cos you think it's cool to do so.

He didn't suggest that,he wants to know how he should go about talking to her about it.If she minds,fair enough,it's her body and he should leave it then.

_Turismo4

joeman9 wrote:

my girlfriend is quite hairy downstairs (all over) and it revolts me a little. shes not fond of waxing or shaving and i'm unsure how to approx the subject. I'd like if she had a complete waxing although a partial one would be better than now. Shes a stunning girl and i love her dearly. Any ideas how i can approach the subject or is this an unsuitable topic for discussion here?

Do yours, and when she asks way, tell her i Fancied a change and I think it's cleaner, and more importantly say 'you get deeper penetration'. thats all. don't ask her to do the same, just wait a few days, and~I guarantee she’ll shave.

Talliesin

_Turismo4 wrote:

and more importantly say 'you get deeper penetration'.

WTF? Unless your pubic hair was styled into a massive afro it's not going to make much difference in that regard.

At least be realistic, "I don't like it when they stick in my teeth" or something.

ando

iguana wrote:

waxing hurts as does regrowth following shaving

Pehaps she doesn't want to do it because it is can be uncomfortable at best and painful at worst.

may I suggest:

dramaqueen

No you may not suggest it.
Ow

pretty*monster

My god, as if women don't waste enough time grooming themselves in this day and age.

To find something 'revolting' when it's actually perfectly natural... the mind boggles.

Sifo

Tell her you think it's sexy an if she says no, tell her it doesn't matter that much and that you love her no matter how much she resembles a yeti!!

_Turismo4

Talliesin wrote:

At least be realistic,

It happens to be true.

LegacyUser

pretty*monster wrote:

My god, as if women don't waste enough time grooming themselves in this day and age.

To find something 'revolting' when it's actually perfectly natural... the mind boggles.

Not wiping you arse is also "perfectly natural". Perfectly natural and revolting aren't mutually exclusive.

Dfitzer

Next time you go down on her have some chewing gum in your mouth. Then "accidently" get it caught in her hair and voila the perfect reason to go and cut it out. Then it will look silly with just one clump gone so the rest will have to go.

The only way it will backfire is if she suggests the freezing method of removing gum. But I cant see that happening

Ladypawpaw

pretty*monster wrote:

My god, as if women don't waste enough time grooming themselves in this day and age.

To find something 'revolting' when it's actually perfectly natural... the mind boggles.

Agreed. I think people need to remember that pubic hair is actually there for a reason - to protect peoples bits from dirt, infection etc.

Shaving such a sensitive area is sore due to the stubble. I think a trim with scissors to tidy up the area is a better idea.

And if the OP is disgusted by something totally natural maybe he needs to look at the relationship he is in and question it.

JungleBunny

Well OP, would you shave/wax your nether regions for her?

You obviously have no idea how painful that is. Got it done once and now, if anyone comes near me with hot-wax I will slap them! I will never ever go through that pain again... I dont care who they are! :eek:
Maybe your g/f had a similar experience? Ever ask her?????

Probably not. And if you do bring it up on conversation, try it tactfully. If you just blurt it out, it might seem to her that you dont love her for who she is..... oh hang on..... you don't!!!!!

You got together with this girl, maybe fell in love, and obviously knew she was not shaved/waxed, so what has changed your mind all of a sudden????

DaisyDuke

Can I make a quick suggestion that may save your own nether regions when you bring the topic up?

There is a chance that she will tell you to bugger off. This is the point where you change the subject and forget about it *unless* she brings it up again.

If, however, she seems slightly open to discussion, do not, for the love of Gods, suggest a total "nothing below the eyebrows" straight off. That will most likely shock the crap out of her, and possibly disgust her to the point where you don't get any for several nights.
Suggesting a trim is not a bad thing, especially if you use the angle that you like the way she looks down there, you love pleasuring her, and you're not doing it because you saw it in a porn or because you get your rocks off on it.
A trim quite often leads to a tidy up of the bikini line, and so on.
She needs to make that step by herself though. Otherwise she will think that you don't love her as she is, or that her body is distasteful to you, or that you are just a pervert.
Don't you love the female mind?

You also totally need to be willing to do something in return, preferably something that she specifies - it's all about the give and take

Sex, whether oral or penetration, feels very different when shaved.
At the same time, I can see why someone would be totally opposed to it as well.

Vangelis

Love your girl for what she is and let her look the way she wants to look! It's her body! I'm sure, if I was told by my boyfriend to shave, I would feel like ****, be embarrassed and feel like I'm not good enough. I'M SURE I'm not along about that. :mad:

And Daisy, it's PLEASING, not pleasuring.

WhiteWashMan

you know, everytime i read this thread heading, i cant help but think that your bathroom should be upstairs....

i'll get me coat.

WhiteWashMan

Vangelis wrote:

Love your girl for what she is and let her look the way she wants to look! It's her body! I'm sure, if I was told by my boyfriend to shave, I would feel like ****, be embarrassed and feel like I'm not good enough. I'M SURE I'm not along about that. :mad:

and at the same time, many people will openly admit that they love being told what turns their partner on and are willing to do strange things in order make them happy. if my partner asked me to shave around my bits, id certainly not feel inadequate or embarassed, although i would probably ask her why. bu a tthe end of the day, if thats what she wanted, then i'd probably do it.

Vangelis wrote:

And Daisy, it's PLEASEING, not pleasuring.

jesus. tom-ate-o , tom-at-o.

ADUB?

OP, just sit her down and ask, Dont blurt it from nowhere though!

Approach the subject slowly, and then ask, but dont make her feel pressured. Otherwise a sharp no is likely.
Something maybe along the lines of

'I was thinking it might be nice if, I trimmed down there and you trimmed yours just to see what it's like and feels like, what you think?' etc

Vangelis wrote:

And Daisy, it's PLEASEING, not pleasuring.

Oh quick sidenote, it's never PLEASEING ,might be Pleasing and maybe Pleasuring :rolleyes:

LegacyUser

I asked my gf to shave once for the fun, I did it too, reality is that if you do it once and dont keep it trimmed almost daily that the stubble can get quite uncomfortable during sex. I ended up with red rash around the base of my penis and it was spiky and not nice in general when she was on top.
It was fun for a bit but meh in the end too much effort.
I have nothing against hair, in fact I think it is natural and nice, I wanted to try it for a bit of variety in the bedroom, maybe approach it from this angle as others have already suggested.
I sometimes think that the people here giving advice like uuugh it's gross etc when it comes to people dont get it much in fairness.