Dateing Work colleagues?

dceire

Ok, well basically I'm not actually dating a work colleague but I have been approached by a girl in my workplace and although I wasn’t really interested her I have a feeling that things will be awkward between us for a while.

But I am interested in another girl who I also work with but I'm not sure if the feeling is mutual. I've only known her for about a two months but lately we seem to be getting more friendly towards each other but how can I find out, as discreetly as possible, if she would be interested in a relationship with me?

Has anyone been in a workplace relationship and do they work or are they just awkward?

aidan_walsh

dceire wrote:

how can I find out, as discreetly as possible, if she would be interested in a relationship with me?

Ask the first girl to find out

cournioni

Yup. That is the only way to find out.

Ann Elk

dceire wrote:

Has anyone been in a workplace relationship and do they work or are they just awkward?

I'm engaged to a girl that i met in my workplace and as such would thoroughly recommend a workplace relationship - as long as your'e aware that it will suck huge amounts of ass if it goes pearshaped

Nairam

It's not easy.
I met this bloke at work, I really liked him a lot.
But my collegues (and his as well) were so interfering that it was impossible to be together.
I think at first you should not tell your workmates if you get engaged to someone you work with.

Norinoco

Nairam wrote:

I think at first you should not tell your workmates if you get engaged to someone you work with.

God, u have the guy married off before he even asks the girl out!


To the OP, ask her out for a drink - she will either say yes or no!
If she says no, then it will be awkward for a little while but that will pass.
If the says yes, then wahoo!

Dating a work colleague is fine, but can be a but messy if, as ann said, it all goes pearshaped!!

[Edit: should this thread not be in PI??]

Gazza22

Just make sure that in your contract it's not stated that workplace relationships are forbidden..

If they are and you strike up a relationship with a colleague, then one of you may be asked to leave

Red Alert

Is that not illegal to have that in a contract?

Nairam

Norinoco wrote:

God, u have the guy married off before he even asks the girl out!


I did not mean it in the way they are that serious. (my english is not that perfect)
I just felt that everyone was interfering so we did not even have a chance to really getting to know each other.
Some people have a serious problem with minding their own business.....

Sammyjo

dating work colleagues is not somewhere i would go again....dated one for a short time, but things ended kind of badly.....if we passed each other in the corridor we wouldnt even say hello for months afterwards!! it was worse cos everyone in work knew about it....even our bosses! work socials were awkward aswell....never again!!!

Dades

I dipped my pen in company ink in my last job.
Then broke up but were still on good terms.

It's only awkward afterwards if you let it.

The workplace is a very popular place for meeting suitors.

Might depend if you work with them, or just in the same company.

ven0m

Dipped my pen in company ink many MANY times - never a good idea..... took me three or four times to learn that.... awkwardness after a breakup really & truly sucks!!!!! NEVER EVER EVER EVER dip into company ink..... leaves nasty stains man!!!!!


::: ven0mous :::