What makes a guy fall in love?

LegacyUser

Hi guys, I am curious. It seems to me that when guys fall in love, they fall hard and not very often... Would ye agree?

And I know this completely depends on the individual guy, but I am curious to hear from you guys, what makes a guy fall for a girl in the first place? I know there's no answer per se, but would just love to hear what ye think.

LegacyUser

I sort of know what you are saying. I have had one serious love in my life, we were going out for over 3 years and i could have seen myself with her for the rest of my life, but due to situations beyond our control, she had to move away and there was not possible way i could follow (and believe me i tried). I don't know why i feel so in love with her. she was just someone i could be myself around, and thats very important to me, just being able to be myself around the person i love. that was 5 years ago. at the end of last year / begining of this year i though i found someone i could love again, but, i just couldn't get comfotable around her, she just made me feel on edge all the time and i had to constantly watch what i was saying!

so for me, to love someone, i have to be able to be myself around them, and vise versa i suppose.

sorry for the long rant, and i don't think thats shed much light on the subject for ya! i hope things work out for you.

simu

Love potion in their beer.

jcoote

well it really does depennd on the guy in question but for me it'd have to b how well she cooks a steak

no really i suppose not giving us too much hassle is what i'd look for...eg if i wanna go and watch the football for her not to complain just because she thought in her head that we'd see each other...i've made time for all the girlfriends i've had and i'd just ask that...after that its just down to how easy she is to talk too

Rhyme

It depends on the guy, but theres always a connection... some kind of common ground

The Corinthian

"It had a kind of charm that I had never experienced before. Once she had surrendered she behaved with perfect candour, total mutual delirium which for the first time ever with me outlasted the pleasure itself. She was astonishing. So much so that I ended by falling on my knees pledging my eternal love and do you know that at that time and for several hours afterwards I actually meant it?"
- the Vicomte de Valmont, Dangerous Liaisons

The_Goose

For me she has to make me laugh, without that it just doesnt work.

joePC

Sex + Food + Clean clothes

Ohh yea & everything else.....

---->>>> Caution - You may be offended, please don’t im joking :-(

chern0byl

I love food. The person who brings me food...i love. Christ i do love the whole food group. Time to consume i think.

jrey1981

Yep some of us fall now and then and when we do, we fall hard.

As to what makes us fall in love with a girl...I could write you a list, but I havent really got the time nor the inclination...it would be a very long post and would probably bore quite a few people

Raphael

Love. Love is what makes love happen

Love isn't something which can have a basis in characteristics and circumstances. Love just happens, regardless of whether you want it to happen, or whether it's convenient for it to happen.

WhiteWashMan

love will keep you together.

its obsessiona and infatuation that will make you have sex like little weasle-monkeys for the first 3 months.

which is it you are alooking for?

banquo

Just be able to make me laugh. Few women can tbh. But yeah if she can make me giggle, she's mine.

melekalikimaka

a girl that reminds them of their mother

Victor

When he thinks "shes a keeper, I could grow old with her".

gireland

All of the above, but more than anything i have to agree with Raphael.
Love just happens. i really believe that you cant decide who you fall in love with! or how are you fall! (it would be great if you could!!) I mean, personally, i still have moments were i wish i could still be with the one girl i fell truely and deeply in love with. or just see her for more time (long and complicated story, but cutting it short, circumstances led for her to have to move away with her family).
it's 5 years on, I did think i was in love again, and still kind of am, but the girl i fell for changed, not for the better, and and because of some things she said to me and our group of friends we havent seen each other in a few months. i really would like to see her again, and it sometimes hurts like hell, but i can't contact her and pretend things are ok, because they are not! the ball is in her court, and has been since we last spoke. its very difficult to meet someone new, when you are still thinking of someone else (she was the only person i've met so far that while i was with her, i didnt have thoughs of my love who had to move away). so now ive got two people in my head. so someday, hopefully sooner rather than later, someone will come along and be the only person i think about.

so to sum up my rant, falling in love is something you have no control over! sucks i know, but that is just life.

oh, and there is a big difference between being "in love" and "loving". I love my friends to bits and would do anything for them, but i'm not "in love" with them!

sorry for the extended message, but needed to get that off my chest!
ta for reading though.

G.

OfflerCrocGod

simu wrote:

Love potion in their beer.

Or just beer in their beer.

Mist

If you really like their company and are considerably happier in their presence. Also being able to see a future is good.

jimmytango

the reasons guys fall so hard is that they dont realise or think that the following can happen....... but it does as CURTIS

When the routine bites hard
And ambitions are low

And the resentment rides high
But emotions won’t grow

And we’re changing our ways,
Taking different roads

Then love, love will tear us apart again

Why is the bedroom so cold
Turned away on your side?

Is my timing that flawed,
Our respect run so dry?

Yet there’s still this appeal
That we’ve kept through our lives

Love, love will tear us apart again

Do you cry out in your sleep
All my failings expose?

Get a taste in my mouth
As desperation takes hold

Is it something so good
Just can’t function no more?

When love, love will tear us apart again

el tel

Sex.

It is the answer to all male behaviour

Gilgamesh

don't think I have a definite way, I know how to fall in love, just from the fact that my longest relationship was with someone I wouldn't in the world have thought I would get together with, we did break up in the end ,but that was because I moved to IE and then she moved to New Zealand about a year later.

personally I don't think I want to know how I fall in love, just from the fact, that I would suddenly only start looking for that and that only, instead of looking left and right every now and then.

Farls

I've only truely loved one girl in my life, i thought i did with one other but when i met this other girl and felt true love i knew the first was only infactuation.

Anyway a lot has been mentioned here already

She reminds you of your mother/gran.
She makes you laugh...this is a very big thing!
She makes you want to be that better person.
She doesn't get on your nerves. (too much)
After a few months and the honeymoon period has ended you still think the world of her.
You can tell her anything, your biggest failures, what your embarressed about yourself and she can tell you the same and it only brings you closer.
She feels like one of your family.
You can picture the rest of your life with her.
She sticks up for you.
She makes you feel a million dollars.
When you look at her, you dont see anything bad...all you see is her...the woman you love.


When she dumps you...and you spend a few weeks not eating or sleeping and posting on this forum kicking yourself for being an ass...it only cements the whole falling in love with her thing!

Theres loads more

GreenHell

I dunno, respect. Even better trust. I'm an insanely private person once you get to know me so trust is a big one.

Eolyn

Yeah guys have a thing about trust. My boygriend even still has a thing about trust.

But honestly being yourself and finding someone who will complement you is the best bet. otherwise just time.
in my opinon anyway.

Catsmokinpot

they have to be funny, straight talking(no bull****), kind, you feel comfortable around them, good looking is just a bonus.

and this.

Victor wrote:

When he thinks "shes a keeper, I could grow old with her".

Ry

As someone said previously I'd have to agree...Someone you can be totally yourself around and them still be crazy about you the way you are about them and that's important for me cuz I'm kind of a nut so I need a girl who can laugh at it or I'm ****ed

Ry

Le Rack

Love is what love is. Nothing "makes" you fall in love. You can love someone dearly but there is a difference between this and being IN love and it is generally based upon a strong frienship where you can talk to eachother about anyhthing, you are totally comfortable in eachothers presence and just the slightest thought of them and you feel like your floating, ro nothing in the world can disturb your felling of pure bliss.

A guy needs a trusting girl, who makes him laugh and he feels comfortable talking to, but then they are merely qualities of a best friend. Nothing makes anyone love someone else, it just is.

The jock

What makes a guy fall in love?

I would have to say,someone who makes you feel special when your in there company,someone who makes you feel good inside,someone who understands the true you,someone who makes you laugh,someone who has a lot of things in common with you,someone who you can trust,someone you can respect,someone who you think of first thing in the morning and last thing at night,someone whos easy going,someone who has the same goals in life as you,someone who makes you feel wanted and someone who makes you think of the first day you saw her,someone who wants you to grow old together.

jonny68

In order to love you need to receive love back you must remember that,when you are going out with someone and ultimately you are the one doing most of the "loving" as it were and not really receiving any back that's when things start to go wrong,guys can equally fall in love sometimes more than girls,depends on the person.