Does Age Matter?

Ric_Flair

I have a friend thats 21 and his girlfriend is 17. He gets a bit of stick from the rest of the lads about her still being in school or whatever but it doesnt seem to bother him.

Ive talked to her and shes a nice girl and seems very mature

Just wondering what you think of the situation? Would that age difference bother u?

oq4v3ht0u76kf2

Situation matters more than age methinks... I've known people who were 17 in first year of college and one of my best mates is just about to turn 21 in third year of college - in that case, it wouldn't matter a fsck.

Whereas I also have a friend who is 17 going into 5th year and if they were going out with a 21 year old in any year of College then yeah, it might be a bit stranger.

'Tis all relative.

Sarky

The closest couple I know have a greater age difference, and they're both extremely happy with eachother. What I'm trying to say, when you get right down to it, is:

B*llocks to age gaps. If it works, it works.

CerebralCortex

Ya believe or not my Dad is 11 yrs older then my Mom and they are inseperable.

claire h

Bob wrote:

Situation matters more than age methinks...

*nods* Definitely have to agree with that. Secondary school students and college students and people in full-time employment are all at different stages in their lives, and it's that rather than chronological age that makes a difference, I think. Though if there's some kind of age-related barrier that one of you's over that the other isn't - like the age of consent or the legal drinking age - that'd be a bit more tricky.

Flukey

21 and 17 isn't a big age difference and as they get older it will make even less of a difference. If it doesn't have an effect on her schooling, then it would be fine.

JackKelly

Half your age plus seven is the rule.

10.5 + 7 = 17.5

If shes 17 and 6 months than its ok. Anything less and that just sick....SICK.

feylya

I'm 21 and my girlfriend is 17. I was a bit apprehensive at first cos of the age gap but to be fair, it makes absolutely no difference to anything when you think about it. Most girls are more mature thans boys so if you can get over the number, it shouldn't make a difference.

jcoote

once its not outrageous like 25 and 14 its all good...most blokes don't grow up anyway so

Tiffany

I don't have a problem with it, but I personally wouldn't date anyone that has yet to do their Leaving Cert.

monkeyfudge

I once dated a zygote.

But we just hadn't got enough in common.

PlayaFlow

monkeyfudge wrote:

I once dated a zygote.

But we just hadn't got enough in common.

LMAO

as long as you were not any older than a foetus that would be perfectly acceptable

petes

No it doesnt matter.

DjDangerousDave

TimAy wrote:

Half your age plus seven is the rule.

10.5 + 7 = 17.5

If shes 17 and 6 months than its ok. Anything less and that just sick....SICK.

I like your formula, I have graphed it.

I have gone out with a 17 year old girl when i was 20 and i did not have any problems with the age gap. Some of my mates gave me a bit of stick, but they were just jelious cos she was a cracker!

Dave.

Capt'n Midnight

Tiffany wrote:

I don't have a problem with it, but I personally wouldn't date anyone that has yet to do their Leaving Cert.

Yeah I used to consider that as a rough "comming of age/maturity" guide.

http://www.kansas.com/mld/kansas/news/local/12411601.htm

Kansas law allows girls as young as 12 and boys as young as 14 to marry with the consent of both parents or legal guardians. If both living parents do not agree, a judge's permission also is required.

But they won't be allowed to drink until they are 21 in most states.

Tar.Aldarion

DjDangerousDave wrote:

I like your formula, I have graphed it.

I have gone out with a 17 year old girl when i was 20 and i did not have any problems with the age gap. Some of my mates gave me a bit of stick, but they were just jelious cos she was a cracker!

Dave.

likin the graph
suits me fine.

Ric_Flair

Nice one guys, its good to get a neutral perspective.

I think some people just like ripping the pi$$ and the others are maybe just plain ignorant. I can understand her parents having a problem though.. kinda "whats worng that he cant be with a girl his own age?" kinda thing

Gazza22

I have said this before in PI...but age doesn't count as long as the relationship is good. If the both of them feel the relationship is going well then there is no problem! Let them have their fun!

The only age related thing that i have a problem with is the likes of very old men/women going out with a underage person, i hear about this sometimes and i just think its wrong. There is a certain limit. Most of those relationships never work out

larryone

When I was 19 I was going out with a girl who was 26.
The youngest age difference I've been with is a friend of mine who was 17 at the time (I didnt know this, I was 21) I think it was last... em October-ish??
Age doesnt matter to me much. But I prefer if she's over 18. (age/2)+7 is a good one.

spiderlegs

Half plus seven seems reasonable enough but age shouldn't really be a factor...if you like someone and it's all good then why worry?...anyway all guys are so frickin immature it all evens out if they've younger girls.Most guys do...

Bateman

My gf is nearly 4 years older, and it's not an issue. If either person wants to make it an issue, then it will be one, but if everything else is about right, it doesn't matter at all, and is rarely even thought about.

Kinetic^

CerebralCortex wrote:

Ya believe or not my Dad is 11 yrs older then my Mom and they are inseperable.

Same with my old pair, its vile!!!!

bullrunner

what about guys going out with older girls? (seems to be a lot of this happening lately)

Gazza22

Jesus Ric Flair could you not downsize on the sig a little bit?

It doesn't really bother me because i have broadband though it's bit annoying to look at and it's a bit inconsiderate to dial-up members

Right my little bitch is finished now :rolleyes:

StupidLikeAFox

bullrunner wrote:

what about guys going out with older girls? (seems to be a lot of this happening lately)

There may not be much thread on the tyres though, therefore trading in for a newer model would suit better, its a shame if your best bet is a second hand banger.

Theres analogies for ya

Scarinae

Well I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 17, but we both always forget. I don't think it's an issue unless you make it into one

larryone

bullrunner wrote:

what about guys going out with older girls? (seems to be a lot of this happening lately)

Most of my girlfriends have been older than me.

Chippy

The half age+7 is good mark for guys but how old is too old for girls, I know you can reverse it but still.........I wanna be awkward.........

I went out with a guy once or twice when I was 17 and didn't know what age he was, he was working full time and I had yet to do my leaving cert so I found it kind of wierd.............then I found out he was 23, I thought it was wierd he didn't have a problem with the age thing, even though I liked him I ended it cos it was too much for me, I kept askin round how old is too old but no1 would give me a straight answer, I've had a couple of revisits with him since but the age thing still gets to me, and besides I've pissed him off now with my it's cool no it's not attitude.............ah well

_Turismo4

petes wrote:

No it doesnt matter.

I Concur.

'swisstony'

I would have to say that age doesn't matter. A mate of mine is in a similar situation. So if it makes your 'friend' happy then by all means work away.

Piste

Age is just a number, maturity is a much better guide than a number.

NoDayBut2Day

Piste wrote:

Age is just a number, maturity is a much better guide than a number.

My thoughts exactly.

Plunky

Piste wrote:

Age is just a number, maturity is a much better guide than a number.

Piste knows the score!

NoDayBut2Day

Yep... love is love after all, no matter the age.

Plunky

Wooh, another Wicked fan! yay! And also, very true, love is love, no matter what!

NoDayBut2Day

Plunky wrote:

Wooh, another Wicked fan! yay! And also, very true, love is love, no matter what!

Yes!! That's awesome (or should I say "oz-some"?) that you love Wicked too

chump

As the old adage says:
The younger the better*

*(provided it's legal of course)

pcwares

different stages of development being fused through some blind infatuation leads to corruption and the mad villagers chasing him through the streets with lanterns and pitchforks screaming 'corruption of a maid'.


A Corrupting nature. The chap who is in his early twenties going out with a 17 year old should take a look at himself. Maturity at seventeen. That a new one. Probably sees what he wants to see. The halo effect. 17 - shes going to be going into 6th year. There is a moral issue -

pcwares

but then again its the individual that counts and not statistics. Adolescence has been reviewed lately and there are quite a few robust studies indicating that it has stretched to 25 years of age.

pcwares

What would your basic premise for maturity be?

She may not drink flagons down in the fields but is she emotionally strong enough to deal with the trappings of a relationship while in the toughest year of her life. Leaving Cert year. Shudder when i think back to that little beauty.

pcwares

If that 23 year old chap was boning your 17 year old daughter whose just gone into 6th year. Well...now i'd imagine you would have something to say other than the liberal pinkie claptrap that being bandied about here.

pcwares

pass the scissors love.

Piste

Plunky wrote:

Piste knows the score!

Well I'd be fairly hypocritical to say that large age gaps are bad, wouldn't I?

Shellie13

Piste wrote:

Well I'd be fairly hypocritical to say that large age gaps are bad, wouldn't I?

extreamelly......

Shellie13

pcwares wrote:

'corruption of a maid'.


A Corrupting nature. The chap who is in his early twenties going out with a 17 year old should take a look at himself. Maturity at seventeen. That a new one. This is a moral issue -

Please! Age dosnt matter at all-its how you feel personally! I have been with people up to 7 years older and didnt even notice the difference! Then this year i realised someone a mere year older than me was too "old" for me! Its the individual and the experiances you've had in life and how mature/young you feel!

A moral issue??? Shes above the age of consent! If she wasn't you would have a point! She's obviously happy with him isn't that all that matters?

pcwares

element of truth there and the right to persue fundamental right to happiness..

Pyr0

When I was 14 I went out with a 16 year old going on 17, I must have been weird for her but we only went tout for about three months, the most I got was a bat on the back and a "Well played"

Gazza22

Already posted in this thread, said i haven't a problem with an age gap.

Though something worth sharing on this topic i suppose, i found out tonight that i girl i know (she's not a mate, just know of her) was seeing a 25 year old man last year. They were sleeping together and all...though here come the worst part, she was only 15 at the time! :eek:

How fcuking sick is that? I don't know what happened the guy but i was told the parents of the girl got in contact with the police...things like that just disturb me tbh

NoDayBut2Day

I know what you mean, Gazza. I also said I don't have a problem with age, but I think it matters at what time frame. When the girl is 15 and the guy is many years older, that's not that good, but if they waited until she was a grown woman and can make her own choices, that's different.

So I'm keeping my first answer as to that age range doesn't matter, but only when the two participants are mature adults.

Sure hope all that made sense... :rolleyes:

komputamuso

Half yer age plus 7, me butt ya ageist fecks! Me and the misses miss that rule by one year and we get on brilliantly! I went out with a 21 year old when I was 36, that was a bit too much in reality. Great fun though, and we're still good mates.

Age is a factor tho. In fairness, in a relationship you need as much in common with each other in order to give the relationship a better chance of working. That's not just age, it's everything, background, socio-economic group, ethnicity, religion, all sorts. For example, if you're 21 and been in college for three years and yer significant other is in school, that can be a mite tough, 'cause of the differences in yer experences.

15 going out with a 25 year is so not right tho! Someone should have had a discrete chat with the side of that chaps head!

My mate had another rule which was never date anyone whose mother you could have gone to school with, the other rule would allow an 80 year old go out with a 47 year old, uber-ugh!