silent treatment

cocopops

ok, so i've been living the high life in Dublin with my three best friends for just over two years now and now one's moving to England and the other's leaving college so now it's just me and (we'll call her) Tracey left . Thing is we both go to opposite ends of the city for college and i'm going into my final year and so i decided it was best to move in with my sister....for a more peaceful environment, whereby finally i get my own room. When i was going flat hunting with my sister i told Tracey and asked if it was ok, that i hadn't yet made my mind up about who i was gonna live with and i wanted to have a look around.

She said 'Yeah, it's totally grand, we're not married ya know' and it turned out her mother had been giving her stick about not branching out a bit and trying something else rather than our safe little haven of joy. To cut a long story short, we found somewhere and because tracey was working i texted her to tell her before we paid the deposit because i wanted to be straight with her. So of course it came as a shock at first and she told me she was annoyed that i told her via text and that was all grand and we got over it.

But now a few weeks later, she's gone all cold. She wouldn't get up and dance the other night in a club and sat staring me out of it (she was quite drunk!) so i passed no remarks. Then i was up sorting out stuff in our old flat last night and she's still living there for the next two weeks till she moves in with friends of ours, and she was SO COLD to me. Like she kept leaving the room when i came in and banging doors and just avoiding me in general. After weeks of talking away, she's now giving me the silent treatment and i thought she was over the whole shock of me moving out. so i guess what i'm asking is why now?! and what'll i do?! thanks for any help ya can give.

qz

Have you asked her "why" yet?

cocopops

yeah, in the club but she just kept shrugging and shaking her head and then i put it down to too much drink. She left like ten minutes after that so all my friends just presumed she was in a bad mood. Then last night, i tried making small talk cos i hadn't seen her since the club and she just blanked me and left the room twice so i stopped trying.

Femelade

she sounds a bit childish tbh. leave her alone for a while and she'll get over it.

dazberry

TBH, no matter what she agreed to, the reality of what is now happening is probably not too nice for her, considering that the 4 of you had been living "the high life" together, that is now over - and ultimately she is the one that is left behind. Its up to her to sort her feelings out about it - might take her a while - if she's not going to engage you about it - let her blame who she wants and get over it (maybe) in her own time.

D.

Chucky the tree

this girl has no other way of expressing her feeling other then staring at you when shes drunk and slamming doors?

she sounds pathetic.

Third_Echelon

tbh typedef here into next week

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seriously, she sounds very childish. she'll get over it in time... Just pay no attention to it and she will realise how much of a tw@t she is behaving

cocopops

thanks everyone. She is being a bit childish alright. I'll just sit it out. Your advice as always is much appreciated

galwaydude

she sounds like is pissed of that your moving out, afterall her mom is annoying her to branch out and stuff.She will get over it and hopefully ye will be good friends again.