Boys are so horrible.

Angelica Rocks!

Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend nearly a year ago. We were together for 4 years, and best friends before that. I am 26 now. Since we broke up we shifted whenever we saw each other, although that hasn't been that much in the last 6 months. I really miss him, the friendship more than anything.
Circumstances are going to be changing for both of us and we agreed that we would wouldn't rule out anything happening again in the future. In some ways it was too good a break-up!

Whenever we were together after breaking up he told me he loved me, and I him. I do believe that he loves me, or did anyway, I haven't seen him in months now.

I have met loads of guys since we broke up - making up for lost time!! I compare every single one of them to him so it never goes anywhere. I still love him, I went out with other people before him and never felt like this. It doesn't help that people can't get over the fact that we are over - I suppose me not really accepting it doesn't help either!!

Has anyone any advice. Is he only leading me on by saying things about the future. Why are all boys mean?!

GreenHell

Maybe he is trying to move on, shifting your ex whenever your out can't the best way to go about it.

If you both want to be together, why aren't ye?

jcoote

i firmly believe that everyone has someone that'll drive them crazy over and over again no matter what state of mind your in and i think he could be yours!!!

i think u should try and let him go because when the circumstances change u guys will obviously struggle to maintain a decent relationship...

having the defensive attitude u have may not help boys to be nice to u....

go on a date and enjoy it and see how u get on from there

Pigman II

Out of interest what sort of 26 year old woman goes out with 'boys' and uses terms like 'shifting'?

Anyway my advise is move on. The fact that you haven't seen him in months means he clearly has better things to be doing than spending his time with you.

Sarky

Boys are stupid.

Throw rocks at them.

Tar.Aldarion

Boys are stupid.

Have sex with them.



Tbh if it is over you just have to give it some time and you will get over it.
You have to start accepting it before you can have a healthy relationship,i broke up with ppl too for the same reason...damn that girl ya cant have....
anyway gl to ya.

Sifo

4 years!!!! DAMN

I'd iamgine that to be very tough to get over, thats a pretty big chunk of your adult life. If you both still love each other you should be able to put everything else to one side, love is that important, and very hard to find , so get it together before it's too late.

WhiteWashMan

Angelica Rocks! wrote:

Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend nearly a year ago. We were together for 4 years, and best friends before that. I am 26 now. Since we broke up we shifted whenever we saw each other, although that hasn't been that much in the last 6 months. I really miss him, the friendship more than anything.
Circumstances are going to be changing for both of us and we agreed that we would wouldn't rule out anything happening again in the future. In some ways it was too good a break-up!

Whenever we were together after breaking up he told me he loved me, and I him. I do believe that he loves me, or did anyway, I haven't seen him in months now.

I have met loads of guys since we broke up - making up for lost time!! I compare every single one of them to him so it never goes anywhere. I still love him, I went out with other people before him and never felt like this. It doesn't help that people can't get over the fact that we are over - I suppose me not really accepting it doesn't help either!!

Has anyone any advice. Is he only leading me on by saying things about the future. Why are all boys mean?!

all boys are mean, because you cant get over someone?

you cant get over someone, because you refuse to move on.

you broke up with someone that you love, and who loves you for no apparent reason. circumstances were going to change a year after you broke up?

wow, thats really good planning!

im really not getting what your issue is here, apart from the fact that you appear to make incredibly irrational decisions.

i suggest you make up your own mind about whether you want to be with him, or whether you dont want to be with him.
i think that would be a really good start, and you should be able to take it form there...

U$ername

Didnt you know all men are b*****ds?
And for some strange reason we have another girls who likes b****ds or at least a guy whom she percieves as being "horrible to her"..

Go figure.

ARGINITE

Has anyone any advice. Is he only leading me on by saying things about the future.

Next time you see him sort it out.
If he says that he doesn't want to get back together than you have to stop seeing/shifting (no contact what so ever if possible) him altogether and move on.

Nevyn

Girls are stroppy,
Put gum in thier hair.

Each person is just that a person.
We all have the abiltiy to be an utter bitch or bastard.
If someone has not treated you well then ditch them, move on and learn to be
wiser.

Santa Claus

Try to remember why you broke up....Are the cause/causes of the break-up still issues ?
Despite the twee saying, love does not in fact conquer all !

quad_red

Sounds like you really need to move your life on!

In your head you still depend on him (for companionship if nothing else).

This won't fade until you make a conscious effort to realise there is more out there.

Vangelis

Try to look into yourself and find out if he is the best for you, if he is potentially worth your efforts to make things work. If the answer is yes, I see no reason why you shouldn't tell him that and try to catch up with him again.

ADUB?

I agree with WWM
Boys are so horrible, because YOU brokeup with him
YOU cant get over him and YOU love him and make irrational decisions

What Logic :rolleyes:

Angelica Rocks!

Sorry, just realised that what i wrote looks like i broke up with him, i didnt - i didnt want us to break up.

sorry for the confusion. thanks for all the advice guys.

Kell

Ms. Rocks, I am afraid that it is time that you stop pining about what was and look towards what will be. Pining about the past prevents you from moving on and ultimately will affect everything around you.

If you dont let go of this, everything you do/think will turn into a self fulfilling prophecy of doom and gloom backed by "Oh if only he hadnt dumped me" while wiping your forehead dramatically.

Stop thinking about the dude, go on more dates and hold out for someone you really want (obviously not the ex).

Not all blokes are bad. Not at all. We just get that rep when things go bad and girls have no one else to blame - because they sure as hell aint going to blame themselves for things going wrong.

K-

azezil

Angelica Rocks! wrote:

Has anyone any advice. Is he only leading me on by saying things about the future.

I'd imagine he just said that to lessen the blow of the breakup, guys say silly stuff like that, they don't mean it.

Move on dear.

lazylad

Angelica Rocks! wrote:

Hi, I broke up with my boyfriend nearly a year ago. We were together for 4 years, and best friends before that. I am 26 now. Since we broke up we shifted whenever we saw each other, although that hasn't been that much in the last 6 months. I really miss him, the friendship more than anything.
Circumstances are going to be changing for both of us and we agreed that we would wouldn't rule out anything happening again in the future. In some ways it was too good a break-up!

Whenever we were together after breaking up he told me he loved me, and I him. I do believe that he loves me, or did anyway, I haven't seen him in months now.

I have met loads of guys since we broke up - making up for lost time!! I compare every single one of them to him so it never goes anywhere. I still love him, I went out with other people before him and never felt like this. It doesn't help that people can't get over the fact that we are over - I suppose me not really accepting it doesn't help either!!

Has anyone any advice. Is he only leading me on by saying things about the future. Why are all boys mean?!

To be honest get over yourself. Who cares. Life isnt sweet. Some people have had a horrible time growing up and things have happened to them that youd hear about on the news and wudnt give a s*it about!

Grow up and realize that people are not going to care if you are hurt because we live in a bad world everyone for themselves.

Red Alert

I think some moving on would probably be good. I missed my ex- terribly for a while even though it was better that we broke up, and yeah of course i compared people to her until one night when I scored somebody else who i got on well with and realised i needed to cheer up and that things were'nt that bad at all.

I think what you miss is the closeness you and your ex- had (or have). In order to let anyone else in you're going to have to let go of him and open up to other guys

panda100

I agree- i think all irish blokes are mean even the ones you think are going to be nice. I have a ****ty ex just like yours and the same thing happens-he says we've broken up but everytime we meet up we end up kissing and its just not fair when he knows i still like him.Its awful cos since this guy meant so much to me and we went out for a long time he has just tainted my view of all other guys and even though we split up two years ago i still dont want to open myself up to that rejectin and hurt again.

simu

panda100 wrote:

I agree- i think all irish blokes are mean even the ones you think are going to be nice. I have a ****ty ex just like yours and the same thing happens-he says we've broken up but everytime we meet up we end up kissing and its just not fair when he knows i still like him.Its awful cos since this guy meant so much to me and we went out for a long time he has just tainted my view of all other guys and even though we split up two years ago i still dont want to open myself up to that rejectin and hurt again.

Get some back bone and don't let him walk all over you. And don't tar all men with the same brush.

bugler

This is pathetic. No wonder your ex's won't get back with you when you allow them to eat from the buffet without paying the entrance fee.

Everytime you see them you end up kissing them..? How weak are you? Sorry to be so harsh, but the self-pity here is nauseating. Maybe if you acted like a healthy, independent person and didn't go running to score your ex everytime he gets horny you might find yourselves a bit more desirable to 'decent' men.

In case you two are in any doubt:

1/ If your exs still loved you they'd be going out with you.

2/ When they kiss you it's because it's there on a platter with no chance of rejection. If they could score someone else with as little effort they would, and probably in front of you too. They're not being 'mean', this is actually at least as much your fault for how you're behaving.

3/ You need to make some changes. Delete their numbers from your phones. Change the places you go if you can't avoid them there. Ignore them. Control yourselves.

Ruhan

The old saying goes:


Build a bridge, get over it.


Do that. If people would follow that simple advice, most of the threads on this board wouldn't exist.