Tagging along

jellie

I'm not sure if this is stupid or not:

I was given a concert ticket for my birthday from some of my friends, and 1 of my friends is going with me. I was texting her today to sort out times for going and stuff, when she said "oh tom might be coming, that ok?" (tom being her bf). I didnt really feel i could say no without being a complete b***h but now im a bit annoyed because i'm going to feel like im tagging along, when it was me going originally. (Theyre a v coupley couple, usually wrapped around each other)

I suppose it could be argued that its my own fault for not saying no if i didnt want him to come, but i reckon it had already been discussed by them. I just didnt like being put in that position i guess.

Am i stupid to be annoyed?

Nightwish

no your not. You should explain to her that you wanted a "girls night out" together. it was unfair of your friend to put you in that situation, without consulting you 1st

nobodythere

I hate couply couples! All couply.... Yeah I used to be one of those. They're just oblivious to it! Tell your friend, this could cause future resentment. Just make some jokes about being a third wheel and drop hints and it should be fine. Most couples don't mind you intruding if they have been going out for a while.

nobodythere

To the first reply - she did consult her! But understandably it's not something that you can say no to. Maybe just let this one slide, but organise a girls night out.

jellie

Its not really about it being a girls night out, it was my birthday present. We usually have fun together at concerts, ive been to a few with her, and itll just be weird with him wrapped around her..

As for me intruding, I dont see how its me doing any intruding to be honest

BizzyC

Tell your friend you're going to invite someone she doesn't like, if she says anything just say back "well I dont want to be a third wheel!"

Done correctly she should get the picture without you coming across as a b***h

Talliesin

sar84 wrote:

Am i stupid to be annoyed?

No, it's okay to want to spend some time with just you and yourr friend. It's okay to not want to feel like the third wheel if being with the two of them makes you feel that way.

Probably too late to do anything about this particular gig now, but say to her that you must get together with just the two of you some time soon.

Joke about how you can't talk about Tom behind his back when he's there

tinkerbell

No you ain't stupid to be annoyed. It's your birthday, and you shouldn't have to feel like a third wheel on your birthday.

However, it probably is a bit too late to get your friend's boyfriend to cancel at this stage, as he already has got his ticket. But it wasn't very nice of your friend to bring him along, especially if they are all over each other all the time, and knowing it'd probably make you feel uncomfortable.

nobodythere

Talliesin wrote:

Joke about how you can't talk about Tom behind his back when he's there

Again and again and again!

jellie

lol thanks all

THEZAPPA

just to ask what gig is it?