Do gay men choose men who look like themselves as long-term partners?

pwd

My gay friend says they often do. What is that about? Sounds a little odd.

Sleepy

Only those suffering from narcisism

FranknFurter

I hope not!:p


If so, im shagged!! (or not as the case may be! )

Tar.Aldarion

te omens aren't good that was your 666th post!


ah /runs to bible

StephenInsane

pwd wrote:

Do gay men choose men who look like themselves as long-term partners?

Sounds like masturbation to me.

Tar.Aldarion

so in essence you are saying they look like their penis?

rsynnott

I certainly don't. That said, I'm ugly enough that I'd be a bit crazy to.

pickarooney

rsynnott wrote:

I certainly don't. That said, I'm ugly enough that I'd be a bit crazy to.

So that's where Louis Theroux has been hanging about this last while

rsynnott

pickarooney wrote:

So that's where Louis Theroux has been hanging about this last while

*Googles* Ooh, he interviewed Anne Widdecombe, who is of course famous for this poem:
Goodness gracious, what is that?
It's Mr Pugwash, my black cat.
Goodness gracious, are there others?
Yes indeed, my cat Carruthers.

Captain Pugwash was a children's programme which allegedly contained all sorts of homosexual innuendo, neatly dragging this thread back on topic

Tar.Aldarion

master bates would disagree!

Ajnag

I certainly don't. That said, I'm ugly enough that I'd be a bit crazy to.

Im sorry but Im not in the mood to watch you helplessly self flagulate your self to death on these boards, you posted this how many times now on different boards?

Anyway get yourself a hot or not page and be done with it, considering you have no deformatitys STFU!
Imagine you were with cleft palete, try dealing with your internal/external narcissistic issues then :rolleyes:

On topic.....Its all about the money.........

LadyJ

OP this kind of question has been given much thought over the years and been studied a great deal and apparently,be you gay,straight or bi,we all have a tendency to be attracted to people who resemble ourselves.

Tar.Aldarion

i should hope none of my gfs never look like me hon

LadyJ

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

i should hope none of my gfs never look like me hon

Lol,Tar don't be silly. You're one of a kind!

Tar.Aldarion

oh thanks :P
oh so we are talking poker...what does one of a kind beat again

pwd

well I do rather fancy my cousins alright

(j/k)

stagolee

LadyJ wrote:

OP this kind of question has been given much thought over the years and been studied a great deal and apparently,be you gay,straight or bi,we all have a tendency to be attracted to people who resemble ourselves.

actually i read recently that a scientific study found people were more likley to be attracted to people that looked different from them but were more likley to trust people that looked similar.

stands to reason really as in ancient times when people travelled a lot less someone that looked like you was quite likley to be related, and no-one trusts wierd looking people (unless there cute and weird looking like bjork or something(and i wouldnt trust her shes a mentalist )).

Bottle_of_Smoke

LadyJ wrote:

OP this kind of question has been given much thought over the years and been studied a great deal and apparently,be you gay,straight or bi,we all have a tendency to be attracted to people who resemble ourselves.

This just a physical thing? Cos if it is I'd have to disagree

Tar.Aldarion

even mentally....although 'some' similarites are good.

rsynnott

Ajnag wrote:

Im sorry but Im not in the mood to watch you helplessly self flagulate your self to death on these boards, you posted this how many times now on different boards?

Oh, it's one of my more irritating vices, certainly.

Ajnag wrote:

Anyway get yourself a hot or not page and be done with it,

Been there, done that

Ajnag wrote:

considering you have no deformatitys STFU!

Assumptions are fun! But no, no major ones.

Ajnag wrote:

On topic.....Its all about the money.........

Nope

Anyway, what's your big problem with self-pity? You've posted similar before, at other people. Are you on a crusade?

LadyJ

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote:

This just a physical thing? Cos if it is I'd have to disagree

It is a physical thing yeah.
I mean,I don't really see it in any of the people I fancy but I read about it and I remember a lecturer mentioning it once.

Tar.Aldarion

so which men look like you dear...?
/runs off to pub yay!

rsynnott

LadyJ wrote:

It is a physical thing yeah.
I mean,I don't really see it in any of the people I fancy but I read about it and I remember a lecturer mentioning it once.

Of course, you can read about, and lecturers can talk about all sorts of things.

Hobbes

pwd wrote:

My gay friend says they often do. What is that about? Sounds a little odd.

You do know there is a gay forum to ask this question.

LadyJ

rsynnott wrote:

Of course, you can read about, and lecturers can talk about all sorts of things.

wtf?

Anyway he was a psychology lecturer and it is an extant theory.
Not everyone agrees with it. I'm just throwing in my 2 cents.

Victor

Maybe, just maybe, people try to look like their ideal mate, becaseu in their eyes that would also make them ideal.

rsynnott

LadyJ wrote:

wtf?

Anyway he was a psychology lecturer and it is an extant theory.
Not everyone agrees with it. I'm just throwing in my 2 cents.

I was just making the point that both books and professors quite often talk about all sorts of complete nonsense. All of those subjects have books and small-to-medium academic followings. And psychology is unusually full of quackery.

Hobbes wrote:

You do know there is a gay forum to ask this question.

It's a bit of a silly, After-Hours-ish question, though, no? Psychology would be another obvious destination if it was meant to be a serious discussion.

Victor wrote:

Maybe, just maybe, people try to look like their ideal mate, becaseu in their eyes that would also make them ideal.

Do they? How revoltingly narcissistic of them.

LadyJ

rsynnott wrote:

I was just making the point that both books and professors quite often talk about all sorts of complete nonsense. All of those subjects have books and small-to-medium academic followings. And psychology is unusually full of quackery.

I'm just informing you that the theory exists. Accept the fact. :rolleyes:

rsynnott

LadyJ wrote:

I'm just informing you that the theory exists. Accept the fact. :rolleyes:

I accept that that theory exists, and also that all those theories I linked to exist. I simply don't accept it.

In fairness, you put it across as a bit "proven fact" initially, no?

LadyJ

rsynnott wrote:

I accept that that theory exists, and also that all those theories I linked to exist. I simply don't accept it.

In fairness, you put it across as a bit "proven fact" initially, no?

Sorry if it came across that way but I was simply saying that it a theory that has been researched to a considerable extent. I don't even know if I agree with it but it is one of many theories nonetheless.

Ajnag

Anyway, what's your big problem with self-pity? You've posted similar before, at other people. Are you on a crusade?

Im saving my pious fervour for an older more crankyer period of my life
But its not self pity(more like a public display of self inflicted torture or otherwise ), otherwise you wouldnt be posting it, also hope i didnt come across as being self-pitying in my rants in other places.

But point being life's too short to be self deprecating, especially when the lottery of birth hasnt ****ed you up like the baseball bat scene in casino.

azezil

Do gay men choose men who look like themselves as long-term partners?

I do generally tend to go for guys who'd be in the same age / height / physical build bracket alright. But in saying that my current partner is completely different. :cool:

damien

God no. That'd be that fukn boring.

bopper

Eh NO! That's a huge turn off. I've been told I've a really cutesy boyish look, typical twink! And it's really not the look I go for. I prefer someone slightly older and with a slightly bigger build than me.

Boston

damien.m wrote:

God no. That'd be that fukn boring.

I wouldn't go for someone that looked like you either (;) hugs and kisses), I don't know, I don't think I do.

tonyinuae

rsynnott wrote:

I certainly don't. That said, I'm ugly enough that I'd be a bit crazy to.

Relax - all you need is a good photographer - they can work wonders!

Boston

Rob you're not ugly, that's a ****e photograph which is far too close to your face. But you're not ugly.

tonyinuae

I think there actually are a few people who do go for the same look - remember clones?
But I know a lot of guys who go for a very different look from themselves, and who would even be horrified to look like their 'type' - for example someone who likes 'bears' doesnt necessarily want to look like one!

damien

Rob, enough of the melodrama and this "I'm ugly" crap. It's quite obsessive and annoying at this stage. We'll have you banned if you keep this up.

fortysixand2

Charming Damien, simply charming :rolleyes:

Myself, the most attractive physical ideals to me are facial hair (and perhaps more than a bit on the chest too ), broad shoulders, tall . . . basically I guess your stereotypical external maifestations of way too much testosterone and other such hormones :rolleyes: Actually, just thinking about it, I DO have the hairy part(s) down pat. Guess I should work on the muscles and then I can just sit at home all day and stare in the mirror.

Wait, no, that won't work - hmmmm

tonyinuae

Trust me, that won't work! ;-)