how do I get this freeloader off my back?

CyberGhost

ok here's the situation,

there is this one guy I know, he is not a friend, he is just someone I know, I helped him out couple of times, he needed to search some stuff on the net, well I said sure, come by, I have internet, and search whatever you want, but now this guy comes EVERYDAY! I can't get rid of him, I don't have that much time, he comes and sits and stays till late browsing for stuff, I told him "dude if you need internet and computer that much, and why don't you buy a computer and get internet? you can get ntl for only 25 euro" to which he replied "25!!!? that is very expensive", he needed to buy some tickets off the net, he doesn't have a CC, and I said ok, I'll buy em and you pay me(he did), but now he asks me everytime to buy something off the net for him! I just can't get rid off him. And we really don't have much to talk about, he just doesn't like spending money, it's not that he doesn't have any money, he works, and he just bought a car, what a hell should I do? I don't really enjoy his company, like I said, I thought I'd help him out couple of times and that's it, I wouldn't think he would be so impudent and come every other freaking day, what pisses me off the most of that he thinks paying 25 for internet, is expensive but when I pay 100 for internet it's ok for me. Once I told him I wasn't home, and he had to go to internet cafe, then he "cried" to me that, he had to spend 2 euro. I have never seen someone being this cheap. I don't want to be rude and shout at him to "f*** off my house, and stop being a cheap son of a ......" so how do I get rid of him politely? how do I give him a hint to stop bothering me? I already told him couple of times that either "internet is down", I downloading stuff and need internet", "not at home" and he still coming, I told him I wasn't at home and he still came to my home of course I didn't open the door, but all this is really starting to annoy me and piss me off, and like I said I don't want to just explode on him. I don't know maybe I'm wrong? is it me that is greedy or is that guy that is cheap?

LundiMardi

do you live on your own? Are you male or female? I'd just ignore him tbh, don't answer txts, don't answer the phone, don't open the door.

CyberGhost

I'm a male, 20, no I don't live on my own yet, but I pay for my share of stuff/bills on my own.

it just doesn't work, he just comes and comes.

Blub2k4

Sounds like a leach, personally I would be direct and tell him he is not welcome, it doesn't sound like he will get the message otherwise, either that or tell him that you cant pay your bill and would appreciate his help at internet cafe rates, reasonable request, he'll be gone.

Kevin_rc_ie

nah i disagree. just tell him to p1ss off and stop freeloading.

seamus

Id just persistently ignore him. If he continued to call over and annoy you, or if he managed to nab you, just tell him out, "Listen, I'm not running a ****ing charity service here."

Mail him an invoice for all the time he has spent using your facilities. He'll stop then, I guarantee it.

FranknFurter

Simple...
just say, ......."If you want advice buying your own computer im happy to advise. Otherwise, I'm afraid I have to tell you Im sorry but I need *my* computer to myself"

el tel

It seems to me that quite apart from his freeloading, you don't really dig this guy. Don't worry about being polite or having to drag yourself over coals to to avoid him or make excuses to him - just tell him that you don't want him around as you don't like him or appreciate his taking advantage of you. Your only apology should be for letting it go on so long. And don't worry about his feelings as he's obviously such a gimp he could do with a bit of a pointer.

LundiMardi

tell him your pc is broken.

Is he what you might consider a 'loner'? He may just want someone he can call a friend.

peterk19

Just tell him your cancelling the broadband as its too expensive and if he want to use the internet its dial up and he can pay by the minute like you he wont be around much then.
Pete

Larianne

Tell him that you've 'fallen for him' and I bet you'll never see him again!! That or just say, 'listen, I've let you use the computer as a favor but that it's taking up too much of your time now and that he should find someone else with a computer. It is not fair on you.' If he still persists, go back to the first option I've given or just be an a**hole to him and ignore him

seamus

Or....tell him you sold your computer for coke, then start begging him for money. Put some talc or flour under your nose, and rub your eyes a bit for added effect.

Definitely won't see him again.

b3t4

As other's have suggested, start charging. Say how a lot of people have started to ask to use your computer and you have decided to charge per half hour. He won't be back.

Also, this guy means nada to you, why do you care if you are polite or not?? Be as impolite as possible and you'll soon get rid. (I'd highly recommend this approach it can be very liberating :-)

A.

eyebrows

I would just tell him it’s too annoying him coming around all the time.

Or you could just tell him he downloaded a virus on your computer and fúcked it up and you don’t want him anywhere near it again

Or just kick him in the face

Kolodny

Charging him café rates seems reasonable, but if you'd rather he wasn't around at all, just tell him you think he's taking advantage of your generosity and you're fed up with it, failing that tell him directly to get lost.

It's not a nice thing to have to do but it doesn't seem like anything else is getting through to him and there's no reason why you should feel bad about it.

koneko

I don't see the problem. He's not your friend, so why not just tell him no, sorry, not today, I'm not an internet cafe, and leave it at that? He's going to keep doing it until you stop, you're letting him do this and he'll think it's acceptable behaviour. Just be direct, tell him no.

ShreddedHumans

I know the perfect solution. Wait for one of the days when he stays late and turn off all the lights in the computer room. Then come back in wearing nothing but a leather thong and hold a whip in your hand. Lock the door so both of you are locked in the room alone and start whipping him and telling him he's been a bad baaaaad boy.

I guarantee you he won't be back.

CyberGhost

lol!!!

hey guys, I like the idea of charging for it, I think this will work the best against him, since he doesn't like to spent money so much, he definitely won't be pay for it! awesome! I'll try that.

egan007

How about - "Hey dude Fnck off"

Imposter

Ask to borrow his car to go to one of the open days at mondello!

egan007

Imposter wrote:

Ask to borrow his car to go to one of the open days at mondello!

Doesnt really sound like a guy with a car!

Trojan

Forget all the charging rubbish - simply tell him where to go. It's not rocket science.

Ruu_Old

as homer simpsons put it, "3 words, I AM GAY" Seriously, i had someone like that back in the day and finally he got the message when i kept telling him the internet was down. Tell him you cant afford the internet anymore.

Squirrel

egan007 wrote:

Doesnt really sound like a guy with a car!

"and he just bought a car"

Imposter

egan007 wrote:

Doesnt really sound like a guy with a car!

(Re)Read the first post.

the jew

eyebrows wrote:

Or just kick him in the face

That's the road I'd be going down.

ShreddedHumans

egan007 wrote:

Doesnt really sound like a guy with a car!

I think if you read the original poster's first post AGAIN, you will find he say the following:

he works, and he just bought a car

And here is a direct link to the post
http://pie.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=3112975&postcount=1

Now please don't ever make such a grievous error again.

BizzyC

Listen to eyebrows, kick him in the face.

Seriously though, tell him to f00k off. If you dont like him, and don't know him that well, why the hell worry about being polite?

skywalker

Yeah you could have some fun with him by asking to borrow (preferably strange) stuff from him all the time. Start off with his car. Say you want to borrow it to "just to go to the shop" Make sure you bring it back several hours later without any petrol in it.

Next tell him your going out for a walk & ask to borrow his shoes as "they cost a lot of money" & he wont need them as he will be in your house using your internet for free.

If you get through that & he still comes back post again & we'll go from there.

liamk

skywalker wrote:

Next tell him your going out for a walk & ask to borrow his shoes as "they cost a lot of money" & he wont need them as he will be in your house using your internet for free.

try that one....! the weirder the requests get the less he'll come round until one day went he's only comin over only when he really has to use the internet then you smack him with the classic here mate sorry bout this but the other ppl in the house they're gettin kinda pi33ed off at you bein over here its just they dont like you i'm sorry but i have to live with these people so i need to get on with them...blah,blah,blah...blah,blah,blah...
or else just tell him that straight off and he'll not be back so quick just dont let him ask your house mates what their problem with him is or else you may as well have

eyebrows wrote:

just kick him in the face

Mr E

I remember a similar thing happened to me about 8 years ago. I was living in a flat in Dublin, and we befriended the couple that lived next door. The girl was very nice and great fun to be around, but her boyfriend was a bit of a dick.

Anyway, they called around one night and I was playing Sim City 2000 on my PC (yeah, it was that long ago!). He asked if he could have a go, I said "sure", and showed him how it worked. He called over every night for 2 or 3 weeks so that he could play it. He stayed until after 12 each night too...... It got to the stage where he was coming over, but his GF stopped coming over.

One day I had enough, and told him that I got a virus that broke the game (I deleted a game file just in case he called my bluff), and told him my CD was at home in Limerick. After a while he stopped asking me about it.

The couple broke up, the guy moved out, and she moved out a few months later.

egan007

Squirrel
Imposter
the jew

Off topic

ShreddedHumans get a job/life something....

KTRIC

Does this guy just turn up and your door and walk in ?? How exactly does he invite himself ? If it's just a case of you aswering the door and him just walking in and telling you that he is using your computer you should just stop him at the front door and say "No" and leave it at that. Simple, yet effective.

koneko

TmB wrote:

TmB's story

Haha sounds awfully familiar. For me it was a guy and his girlfriend too. Knew the guy, not his girlfriend. She was sweet, he was a freeloader. Only interested in borrowing stuff constantly. After a while we copped on and just ignored his calls, and told him we're busy if we called round, he got the hint pretty quickly. She broke up with him a while later too.

0utshined

CyberGhost you seem like a nice guy but this chap is taking the proverbials. As koneko has mentioned the longer this goes on the more acceptable he's going to think it is. You need to let him know it's not acceptable at all and the only to do this is by telling him NO. If you don't want to offend him make up an excuse but as and from today don't let that guy in your house or near your PC.

HelterSkelter

Do the same back to him, keep asking him for a lend of his car, drive it until the tank is empty and bring it back. Don't refill. Do this a few times and he'll soon stop bothering you. If you're not covered by insurance ask him to give you a lift here, there, everywhere. Get him to pick you up after a night out on the piss and drop you and all your friends home. Call him at 7am and ask for a life somewhere else. lol

Chalk

eh,
if you live at home,
just get say your folks are pissed off with people calling round.

get your ma to keep calling you out of the room the next time hes over.
and then the next time he cals over tell him your folks dont want anyone in,
easy.

Jivin Turkey

Write exactly what you said here and email it to him

conical

HelterSkelter wrote:

Do the same back to him, keep asking him for a lend of his car, drive it until the tank is empty and bring it back. Don't refill. Do this a few times and he'll soon stop bothering you. If you're not covered by insurance ask him to give you a lift here, there, everywhere. Get him to pick you up after a night out on the piss and drop you and all your friends home. Call him at 7am and ask for a life somewhere else. lol

lol ... I like your style HelterSkelter ... but....

the best thing to do here is to be completely honest (just as you have been here). Tell him out straight that it's not acceptable behaviour and that you won't be allowing him use your stuff anymore. It's not as easy to do, but you'll feel alot better after it (and don't have to bother feeding him bull***t stories)
You've been more than generous, don't feel bad about drawing the line.

-C

the_syco

eyebrows wrote:

Or you could just tell him he downloaded a virus on your computer and fúcked it up and you don’t want him anywhere near it again

Then mention how much it cost to fix it, and your billing him for the damage.

Victor

Less of the "kick him in the head" posts or there will be bans

Esel

Show him this thread. Ask him if it rings any bells.

neuro-praxis

Explain that it's not acceptable to go to somebody else's home every night of the week. Tell him he's invading your space. Say, no hard feelings, but you're not comfortable with him coming over to use the net.

Ask him not to come over anymore.

Be calm and polite.

Problem solved.

stagolee

two words for him "****" and "off" repeat them any time you see him or he phones you and eventually he will get the message.
dont be fooled into thinking he has any respect for you , he sees you as an easy touch , and in return you should have no respect for him

nedoo

Every time he calls around let the air out of his tyres. Find out where he lives, keep calling around for a kip in his bed. When he is on your pc take your knob out and have a play while looking at him. Leave ****ty tissues right next to your keyboard. Lick his ear lobe on a regular basis...oh I wish I had someone to annoy like that.

4Xcut

Tell him what you told us. If not don't let him and barr his number. i'm fairly sure you can on some phones. If not get O2 or whoever to do it. This will send a message very strong.

Chucky the tree

set your homepage as some gay porn site then the next time he is over, come on to him. that should do the job.

tinkerbell

Here's what you do:

1. Change your desktop wallpaper to **** You, You Freeloading SOAB!

2. Set your home page to this thread.

3. Then you unplug the cable modem.

Seriously, what's the problem here? You don't like the guy - so it's quite simple, tell him to **** the hell off! Next time he calls, tell him it's pissing you off, your computer is not some free service. And if he wants to go on the internet, then either (a) he buys his own pc and bb or (b) he goes to a net cafe or (c) he finds some other person to sponge off.

Just tell him to fawck owf He's probably so stupid that he needs this kinda thing said to him to set him straight.

Wouldn't it be funny if he was a PI boards lurker

EDIT: One last thing, what OS are you running? If you're on XP, change the settings so you've to type in a username and password for logging onto Windows (in case he comes when your folks are home, and you are not). Have your folks told in advance, so that they can play dumb. "Password? I don't know any password?"

He he, he can't surf if he can't log on now, can he

4Xcut wrote:

If not don't let him and barr his number. i'm fairly sure you can on some phones.

You can't barr somebody's number in Ireland afaik.