My Dilema

LegacyUser

I have a major problem. I've really like my teacher for the last 2 and a half years. We get on great. I have had her nearly everyday of the week for the last 3 years. But now im finished the junior cycle and moving into the senior cycle. I doubt that we will have her for the subject anymore. And if we do it'll only be 2 classes a week. Call me crazy but I wont be able to stand that. Not enough!!
Ok the problem now is that I have this long 3 month stretch where I wont be able to see her...now I WAS going to tell her I liked her before I leave in 6th year but since I might not have her anymore I fear our relationship will deteriote so much that I WILL NOT be able to approach her in two years. I just wont know her enough to do it. So. Lately I have been feeling the need to tell her now cause I know her really well now. Should I even tell her? I really want to get it off my chest. I wont be able to have a decent summer without either seeing her or telling her the truth.
She is quite understanding and I doubt it will cause conflict cause, as i said, we might not even have her next year.
I really have to tell her sometime no matter what "no dont tell her" advice I get....But still please, I pose these questions
Should I tell her now?...even tell her at all?....ALL comments appreciated
If so, how can I approach her?

Naos

If you have the bottle to tell her then by all means do so.
Although brace yourself for a sit down and rejection, the whole "Your a nice guy,some day some lady will be really lucky to have you".

At 15/16 your going to be far too young for her. But yeah, tell her.
At least that way its off your mind and you can enjoy your summer, and it would be a cracking story to tell

Victor

It's not appropriate for teachers to have relationships with their students. Telling your teacher that your like her "that way" won't go anywhere.

If however you just like her as a person and a teacher, buy her a box of Roses.

jcoote

sounds like a crush to me... i told a teacher i liked her and got a kiss and a feel at the debs if thats any use to ya

LegacyUser

Im not looking for a Relationship with her. All im looking for in this case is some peace of mind. Im a smart chap, I know not to 'try it on' with any teachers...It would jeprodise her career and my education.
Tellin her that I like her is not causing damage to HER career..I'm smart enough to know that all that will come outta this is a little tension(If I do it the right way)...but as I said, I might not even see her for the next 2 years so tension isnt a big deal.
All I want to do is get this load of my back and be free for the next horrible two years without her.....I'm thinking of it this way---If I tell her, very good she knows..I dont need to impress or be an outstanding student anymore.
If she didnt know for the next two years I would have to go a lot outta my way to impress her( I wont have her as a teacher, so ill have to find other ways to impress..which would be hard)

TerrorFirmer

jcoote wrote:

sounds like a crush to me... i told a teacher i liked her and got a kiss and a feel at the debs if thats any use to ya

:eek:

nesf

jcoote wrote:

sounds like a crush to me... i told a teacher i liked her and got a kiss and a feel at the debs if thats any use to ya

She sounds classy.


To the OP. Eh. No mate. Telling her would not be a good idea. If she did anything she'd possibly lose her job...

You wouldn't want to cause that would you?

HelpConfused

I know she wouldnt do anything...besides if I know her like I think I do she would hold out until im 17 and finished LC *wishes* :rolleyes:

jcoote

shag her and do her for statutory ...no seriously its not really a good idea and sayin somethin to her would be disasterous if she responded negatively...I was 100% when it happened to me thats why i did it...hormones are great craic

Victor

Theres a line folks.

jcoote

sowee

HelpConfused

jcoote wrote:

shag her and do her for statutory ...no seriously its not really a good idea and sayin somethin to her would be disasterous if she responded negatively...I was 100% when it happened to me thats why i did it...hormones are great craic

You were 100% what?..Negative?

LegacyUser

er lol don't do anything.. i kind of um..got with my 35 yr old art teacher and I'm 18..only lasted 2 months heh..but it was uber ****ed up..met him out in a nightclub totally sozzled and so was he.. and ended up ****ing him a few times..now he wont actually leave me alone..doing the leaving though so ill be away from my town..isin't life great? I'm stupid heh.

jcoote

no i was 100% that she liked me

HelpConfused

Ohhh.....well I cant say im the same....I must say though that I am a 'special one' in my class :cool: (if that means anything)
But that dont matter in any case...Im not doing this to get anything outta it...I just wanna get this load of 2.5 years of my back

jcoote

so your sayin if she made u a proposal u'd say no...yeah right... ah no u should try and get a bit of alone time with her and kind flirt a bit

Larianne

Just go out and meet girls your own age.

There were guys in my class who used to get on with female teachers really well and had the craic with them and all but they had a life outside school and knew that it was just a bit of a laugh.

Just meet loads girls your own age and you'll soon forget about your 'favorite' teacher. You have to focus your attention on someone and it just happens to be her as you se her every day and get on well with her.

jcoote

ah don't wreck the fantasy..crushes on teachers has gotmany a man thru puberty

HelpConfused

Off course I wouldnt say no....hey and as I said, im a special one in the class....I go outta my way to make sure I get plenty of contact with her....besides heres a factor Ive not mentioned yet---it should be easy to tell her, she probably damn well knows it already...
I get caught looking at her all the time...and the way I act around her is noticably different...IM DAMN SURE she knows already.

Hey and your right...but I know plenty of girls my age and I have fun with them too ....still though I like my teacher(thats how I kno it isnt some ****ty nothing crush)

Larianne

Yeah but you might end u making her feel uncomfortable. I'm sure she won't want to hurt your feelings.

Guys get crushes on teachers all the time. Guy in my school found out teacher's timetable and made sure he was at certain areas so he'd bump into her. Then other guys used to call her over to get her to help them at their desk and be close to her.

Do you go to an all boys school?? Surely you come into contact with girls??? no?

HelpConfused

Yes all boys :mad:
As I said before I get pleny of contact outside school....what can I say, I'm a ladies man

At the risk of being big-headed im sure some of the teachers and other women i kno are having a good time seeing me mature

jcoote

good point larianne...their is a fine line between a crush and a crazy stalker watch your step man...don't get too friendly...but i think u do need to get it out your system so don't give up

Nevyn

She is a secondary school teach which makes her at lest 23 to 25 and your doing you leaving cert so your what 14, 15. The age gap alone is enough of a reason not to never mind that it would be inappropriate and that she would lose her job and infact ruin her career as she would not be able to work as a teacher and all her college training dreams and ambitions are gone down the toilet for the sake of what? A relationship that would not realistically evolve into anything
Meaningful or long term.

Being a grown up and being responsible for your sexuality and your acts is a lot more then using a condom. Something is it not doing a damned thing.
Sure several hours or a weekend in a vacuum with her would be wonderful but
We don’t live in a vacuum and you always have to deal with the consequences of your actions.

You both have to be in the school until you do your leaving certs ants while you may not have her for classes you will still see her about the school premises. Do you really want to let the cat out of the bag about how you feel knowing that it may make both your lifes awkward and miserable?

Yes you can care for her and be appreciative off all that she is but you should not burden her with how you feel, esp if there is some really remote chance she has any feelings what so ever for you , you will just make life very hard on the both of you for she is the grown up and know the above already.

Larianne

Yes but that's still 6/7 hours in school where there's no girlies. You gott focus your attention on something!! True, no?!

HelpConfused

Yes thats ALL I want to do...im happy then. Can forget about next grievious two years

jcoote

well i thinnk u have an idea of the sort of man u are becoming in your head and its not a healthy way of lookin at yourself at that age...confidence is good but their is a fine line between that and cocky...don't let that attitude make your decisions for u cos u'll get shot down big time

HelpConfused

Na I say these things but infact I'm rather tame around girls that I like(or that i have the crazy idea like me)
I usually, *usually* let them make the first move

jcoote

fair enough thats the way to be

HelpConfused

Yea. Now I have a VERY tough decision to make before next monday week.

Let me just point out again for newcomers to the convo that IM NOT looking for anythin if I happen to tell her...only to get it off my chest. It would be quite easy to tell her cause I wont have her next year...no tension and conflict there. She already(i think) suspects it anyway so its only a matter of putting it in stone.

jcoote

tell her but don't force it and if she tries anything don't do it in school...let her call the shots as far as how she wants to deal wit it...if u tell her like u say u would then its a compliment and she can't help but be flattered...i'm sure u all will disagree

derek27

you could tell her, but be ready for the rejection.
teachers are forbidden to have any kind of contact with their students that isn't strictly on an educational basis, and i dont think any teacher would jeopardise their position by braking that rule.
there was a guy in our school before that told his teacher that he was really attracted to her... it didn't go very well... it became very awkward during lessons for both of them and after two weeks of it we were all shocked when we arrived into class to find we had a replacement teacher... she decided to relocate to an all girls school in our town. drastic outcome if you ask me. so if you do tell her, do it just before the hols begin to ensure that you dont have to see her every day after it. chances are it will be taken light hearted and pretty much forgotten about when you return next year.
your teacher must be young and pretty for you to have had a crush on her for so long, therefore she probably has a man in her life already.

jcoote

ah yeah but just sayin i think you a whopper fair play to ya won't make it awkward

HelpConfused

I know thre is a possibility of a negative reply...but I doubt it
I doubt also that she would leave over it, and if she was to well then ID MAKE SURE she didnt in any way possible....not so I could see her but because she is very well tied down in that school..infact i dont think she could leave
But jcoote thats a fantasy, sadly..if ANYTHING were the EVER happen Id make sure im outta that school and 18 years old.

jcoote

no u wouldn't i know i wouldn't if she grabbed u in the classroomu wouldn't resist ...why would ya

HelpConfused

haha stop tempting me...

Davei141

Just a crush, you gotta masturbate more man...These feelings for teachers build up when there is a lack of release.

jcoote

is 5 times a day too much

Davei141

Thats not for me to say lol, all i know is thats severe frustration

HelpConfused

Na no frustration....quite a healty crush

jcoote

thats why your name is helpconfused is it

HelpConfused

they crush is healty...the decision isnt

Victor

End of patience.

Locked.