Couple urgent questions

FranknFurter

A couple questions somone may be able to answer for me..........

Just found out grandmother died, anyway, the mass is tomorrow,..... this is gonna be my first time in a church for about 16 years,.... are there any responses I need to know? Will I be glared at for not taking communion? And do I bring flowers to the mass or just the funeral?

Djddd1

Firstly sorry to hear about your berivial.

No, Just follow what everyone else is saying that is what I do. I would take communion. Bring flowers to the funeral. Hope this helps

hawkmoon269

I am sorry to hear of your loss.

I wouldn't worry too much about responses or that kind of thing, most people just mumble them anyway, truth be told. Also I wouldn't worry about not taking Communion either.

Djddd1

Considering he is Family I think he should take the communion.

Wet your bed

Amen is all you need to know. And don't forget to say thanks when he puts the white wafer onto your tongue

Adam

Troll tbh.

Sorry to hear of your loss. I've only attended one funeral and i hadn't a clue what i was meant to be saying or doing, but since its your grandmother I wouldn't imagine you'll be first in line for anything so just see what others do and follow suit I suppose!

Easily_Irritated

Sorry for your loss there.

But that has to be the oddest post I've ever read (and that includes that coolock fella!)

Wet your bed

I was only joking. Lighten up.

FranknFurter

Thnx for all the advice,....helps a lot to know its not such a strict as i remember.....

See, I was brought up Roman Catholic till I was about 12, from then on, it was no longer somthing I wanted to be associated with. I have been Wiccan going on 16 or so years now.
I totally respect the RC religion, and have no problems with showing that respect by attending the service she wished me to, but I do think communion would be wrong, It would mean Id only be taking it to appease familly. Just hoping me not taking it wont draw attention tbh.

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Wet your bed

I don't see why it would draw any attention, they have to respect you too and would she want you to do something against your will.

Don't worry about it, go with the flow

up for anything

I always sit communion out - nobody really notices. If you do go up for communion I should think they would be more horrified (especially as the RC rule is that you should have gone to confession before receiving communion) as they will know your beliefs are now different.

The tax man

Sorry to hear of the loss of a family member.
Haven't attended mass in years too. Only for funerals etc. Most of the prayers and responses are much the same as parts of normal Sunday service. Surprisingly these come back to you like an old tune you haven't heard in years but you never forgot the words to.
If flowers ain't your thing you could always get a mass card instead.
Nowadays people don't bat an eyelid whether you take communion or not,so don't worry about that.

Sleepy

If anyone you'd rather have think that you're still a Catholic asks why you're not taking Communion, simply reply that you haven't been to confession lately. They'll assume you pay the religion a little more lip service than most Irish 'Catholics'.

CathyMoran

Firstly, sorry for your loss. If you do not go to communion say what sleepy said above (good idea sleepy) - if you have to say anything at all, most people will not care and you will be suprised how many do not go up. In the end it is a celebration of your grandmother - you being there is all that matters.

Squirrel

Sorry for your loss, but another way is to say that you've eaten in the last hour or something, that's what I've been told, and it used to be 24 hours so you could say that too, or just sit it out.

toiletduck

i was in the same position a few months back. you'll get on grand, just follow what everyone else does. I didnt go up for communion and nobody noticed.

MooShop

sorry for your loss.

nobody will notice and if they do they will probably just think you are to saddened by your grandmothers death. its not such a big deal these days anyway, you being there is all that matters

fozzle

Sorry to hear about your grandmother.

Don't panic about the mass, if you want to be able to say the responses pick up a copy of the mass leaflet, there's usually one in the porch. Nowadays it isn't considered so horrifying if a member of another religion attends a RC service though, so try not to worry about it. I assume your family know about your beliefs and tbh, at your grandmothers funeral I think anyone who gives out about you not giving the responses is being more than a little insensitive. Same goes for recieving communion. In fact, I think you'd be better off not recieving. Nowadays you'll see quite a few people remaining in their seats for communion, a number of my family do for a number of reasons, including being allergic to the wafers.

Don't feel pressurised into doing something your not comfortable with, and don't worry, peopel rarely pay attention to those around them anyway.