how to take this

tink~lvs~ptr

hello I am new to boards, I don't know what to do right now. I feel empty.

I've been "involved" with this guy peter for a while about a year and a half.

ok well the thing is a while ago he said that he wasn't a free agent any more and that we could give it a shot as a couple.

this made me so happy because i have very deep feelings for him.

he does this work thing every now and then, he brought me along but asked me not to act like his girlfriend.

so i didn't and when asked by a girl if he was with anyone i said no and that me and him where just friends.

A while later i meet up with him and this group of people and he's hugging me and this girl walks up and starts dragging him away from me. she had been starring at us cuddling earlier and then gave me a nasty look!

later on i asked him to tell her he didn't see why he should, now i know she likes him just from the way she's acting and now she's asked him out for a drink!

which is fine he can drink with other girls. i just think he should let her know that he's taken. for her own sake(i know what its like to be led on by a guy)

but what got to me is that when i asked him what i meant to him he said i was just a friend!!!


a friend that he has sex with!


then i got this as a txt!!

i guess i just miss being a free agent, being just with you for so long its really starting to get me down.

why is he doing this?

Agent Smith

i thinks its a way of telling you its over

Dinxminx

What an ignorant.....so-and-so. Get rid of him immediately, he sounds like really bad news... and who uses the term "free agent" anyway??? Why are you hanging around him? You're better than that!

D

I see no basis for a relationship developing. I advise you to get out of there before you get hurt.

meditraitor

Show him the gate,-- IMO he's at that other girl already(male perspective)... good luck.. M

Tobias Greeshman

I think its time to move on here, you really need to ditch this fool. He sounds like a bit of a user to me! Is he seriously worth getting hurt over?

dudara

I have to concur with everyone here. Yes, you feel for this guy, but it appears that this is not being fully reciprocated. So distance yourself. He doesn't seem to be worth it/

Riamfada

Dump him now. Get there first. If its not meant to be its not meant to be. All good things come to an end . Just be strong !

tink~lvs~ptr

But for the past year everything has been great. We both started just seeing each other after Halloween. And this is the first time he's been acting like this. I did accuse him of lying to this girl about us and I told him he was leading her on and he should be honest with her! And that is what I got. We are going to meet up in a bit...and talk

BEAT

I am sorry, I know I am in the boiling pot for this one but I have to say it...
Op, your nick is tinkerball loves peterpan, your guy u r on about is called peter...is this other girls name Wendy by any chance? I cant help but feel this is a spammed thread. Sorry, I know it isnt my call.
SO ok, if this is for real...everyone here is right,
he is being a jerk and you should move on..perhaps to captain hook? surley he will treat you better.
I am so sorry ruthie, the dr.d in me couldnt hold back

Talliesin

tink~lvs~ptr wrote:

a friend that he has sex with!

This bit is something that suits some people, and if all involved are happy then great.

tink~lvs~ptr wrote:

being just with you for so long its really starting to get me down.

This bit is just being an asshole.

tink~lvs~ptr

LATIN BEAT wrote:

I am sorry, I know I am in the boiling pot for this one but I have to say it...
Op, your nick is tinkerball loves peterpan, your guy u r on about is called peter...I cant help but feel this is a spammed thread. Sorry, I know it isnt my call.
SO ok, if this is for real...everyone here is right,
he is being a jerk and you should move on..perhaps to captain hook? surley he will treat you better.
I am so sorry ruthie, the dr.d in me couldnt hold back

i'm not using his real name!! i'm just using peter as a reference point!

Talliesin

LATIN BEAT wrote:

Op, your nick is tinkerball loves peterpan, your guy u r on about is called peter...is this other girls name Wendy by any chance? I cant help but feel this is a spammed thread.

Could be, she could just be someone who isn't good at thinking up pseudonyms and doesn't want to be IDd.

BEAT

oh, ok then
well, follow advice as given ...
unless you just want a fukbuddy move on

Dr.Feelgood

You should Kick him, with his free agency!!

Tell him to take a walk.

Dont be hung up on him-he seems to have low respect after reading that text. Get up-stand up-walk away from this dude

Einstein

I'm a bloke, and in my opinion, this other bloke is acting like a right tosspot. He's a loser, get rid of him. How would he feel if you did the same thing to him at your work do.

theres much better out there.

tink~lvs~ptr

Sorry the peter pan story is a thing me and him have its my reason for using it!.... i'm going to print this off and maybe show him. or maybe keep it for when its all over to remember why!

Piste

My friend is in a similar situation, he's come to terms with the fact that the guy isn't interested in having anything serious with him. Yes, it does hurt initially but the sooner you accept it, the better off you'll be

Altheus

He wants rid of you, but he wants you to be the bad guy/gal.


I'd suggest a testicular crushin'.

LundiMardi

the guy's a complete muppet who needs to read what he actually sends in his txts before sending them. you better off without him tbh.

Citizen Jake

He wants his cake and to eat it too. It's a couple when it suits him, and you're just friends when it suits him so he can take advantage of other offers on the field. To hell with that, get out of there before your heart is minced. For god's sakes get out of there quick. You deserve better, anyone would.

tink~lvs~ptr

I think i'll finish it tonight. been talkin to my mate she say's it seems to happen every 3 months that he blows up at me. presses the self destruct button you know!

i didnt think about the last time(it was something different) but still its becoming a habbit!

Raz

What tripped my loser alarm was that he asked you not to act like a girlfriend.
The only reason he could want that is so he can keep his appeal to the opposite sex. What kind of job would require that?
Most here are quick to hand out the 'dump him' advice but we don't know him, you do. Is there more to it that's worth saving? Think about it a lot before you decide on this, that way you'll find it easier to hold your resolve if you start to want him again. Plus you'll be able to refute his every argument if he puts up a fight.

funk-you

he's an asshole. next time you go out with him walk over to any single guy in the place and wear the face off him. if your fella says anything start laughing in his face. nothing more degrading. (sorry feeling evil tonight.)

not the most constructive advice i've ever given but f*ck him he's an asshole.

Victor

If you go to another work do, show up with a borrowed engagement ring and flaunt it.

tink~lvs~ptr

When I went to meet him in the pub after work he was there with her. He told her about us and then she seemed really pi$$ed of she pulled out of this weekend work camp thing and was chatting to me more than him... she practically blanked him and she said sorry to me!


We then seemed to be ok but when I went to talk about it (4 doubles of vodka later) I kinda lost it and threw my book I’ve been writing at him!! Since he inspired it. I didn’t mean it to hit him hard but it did... we are going o talk sober today he has something to tell me!