another age gap prob

LegacyUser

hi guys and gals
i am a regular poster on boards.ie
i have a wee, maybe big problem, i am 48 and have fell for a 36 yr old seperated woman, and she has deep feelings for me, she has a lovely 4 yr old daughter which im kewl about, my biggest worry is the age gap, i am single never married, am i gettin into a lot of hassle ?,

we have not met yet its an internet thingy, she wants to meet up for her birthday next week, we live 60 miles apart

am i mad to get involved
thanks

Sleepy

See how ye get on in real life. More than likely your relationship IRL will be markedly different from an on-line one. I don't think 12 years is that big an age gap at the ages you're both at tbh.

Femelade

its not such a big gap, ye are both adults.
i say give it a go, if u dont, u'll die wondering.
no harm in it.

BaZmO*

confused100 wrote:

am i mad to get involved

Mad in what sense?

If you think it's mad as in the age gap, don't be worrying, as Sleepy said, at the age you are both at, the difference is really a non issue.

However, if you think it's mad with regards to getting involved with a potential partner that has a small child, well it's definitely not mad but it could be potentially a lot of work. But at the end of the day you'll need to decide whether or not you could deal with the extra pressures that are involved with taking on someone elses child.

I will say this to you though. Don't be getting worked up already about things that haven't happened yet. Meet up with this lady and see how the two of you get along and if the two of you get along well, you can then start worrying about her having a child.

B.

LegacyUser

thanks guys for ur replies,yeah think ill give it a go

problem 2
i have come out of a 9 yr relationship with a divorcee (3 mts ago) who has 2 grown up kids, is it too soon to move on ?, ie: meet up with this new gal ?, im a marytr for punishment

Nuttzz

confused100 wrote:

im a marytr for punishment

Yes

There is no right time to meet someone, I cant see what sitting around for 6 months after a relationship ends will achieve

lacuna

There's no "proper" time to move on. You should go with what feels right. If you want, let her know that you want to take it slow and see how it goes. You can always pull out if you feel under pressure or it doesn't feel good.
Like Nuttzz said there's no point waiting around for a set amount of time to have passed by before you get into another relationship. Do what you feel you can handle.

Victor

The only problem I see here is you are presuming you will end up in a relationship with someone you haven't met yet.