Age gap posing a prob

LegacyUser

As a regular user to the board and some people knowing me I will post as anon. Basically I'm 23 and been talking to a girl of 17, we met up last night and went for a drive and a chat and that's it. Nothing else came of it because I played it cautious. I know her through friends and she sends texts regularly which I don't mind. Now the only problem... she's been saying she would like to know me better and would like to take it a step further. My problem is the age gap, what would you suggest.

JoeKelly

The age gap there doesnt seem too bad usually females are much more mature than guys at 17! So Idont think you should worry too much about it and you could also wait till shes 18 to take any action?!

LundiMardi

personally, if they're still in school then it's a bit weird. I'm 21. However everything is legal in this case so why not!

WhiteWashMan

shes 17. no offence, but she will soon get bored, and go on to other things. or you will get bored, abnd go on to other things. why not just enjoy the situation while it lasts. i mean, it not as if its going to develope into marriage...

Victor

And be very sure she is over 17.

nesf

Victor wrote:

And be very sure she is over 17.

Speaking from experience are we?

Very important point though. If theres the slightest doubt then don't.


On the experience side of things, eh, when I was 17 female friends of mine were going out with guys 22-24 so it's not unheard of. So long as you're both comfortable with it, then hey what's the problem?

Canis Lupus

WhiteWashMan wrote:

shes 17. no offence, but she will soon get bored, and go on to other things. or you will get bored, abnd go on to other things. why not just enjoy the situation while it lasts. i mean, it not as if its going to develope into marriage...

Agreed, a brother of mine went out with a 17 year old (he is 22). I told him not to bother and if he did not to get serious. I got ignored. He got dumped in less than 2 months.

Alana

The fact that you're asking the question kinda makes me think that you aint all that overly excited by the whole situation....personally I wouldn't, as previous posters have said and although its a generalisation 17 yr ol girlies can be fickle demons-i've been one also there'd be a mental maturity level difference and maybe a sexual maturity difference also....

daRobot

She's likely to be a lot more clueless then you at that age, but if your clever you'll use that to your advantage.

Have some fun, and leave it at that would be my advice.

Santa Claus

You're more attractive to her than a 17 year old guy because you've a car and are probably earning cash.
You may well end up getting dumped due to her fickleness but enjoy the ride while it lasts and if she dumps you then typedef her mates (This topic was just crying out for a typedef remark) !

Scarinae

To be quite honest, unless she's very mature it probably won't work. If she was 27 and you were 33 it would be fine, but a 17 year old? She's probably still in school, is into different things than you, you probably have a job... I think you know that it wouldn't work. I guess you could just use her for sex and then ditch her, like some of the other people in this thread have suggested, but that's really mean

Altheus

I don't know, sure an 17 year old girl is more mature than your average 18 year old guy.. but I still dont think it could be classified as some sort of adult, "mature".

I say, if it's fun your after go for it.

If not, save yourself the headaches that come with watching her grow up while you grow old.

kermitdfrog

Depends on the guy, depends on the girl. I never met a 17 year old when I was 23 that I would have considered going out with, but that doesnt make it a bad idea - I just never met a 17 year old girl mature enough. I know quite a few lads aged 20-21 through college - some of them wouldnt go out with a 17 year old, some would, depending on the guy and the girl.

What matters is the two of ye - is she on your level? If not it will get boring, for both you, very quickly. If she is, and there is every chance she is, there are mature 17 year olds out there, then it could work. My guy would say now, purely because I cant imagine ANY 17 year old being mature enough , experienced enough, world-wise enough to keep your attention. But logically, of course she could be. Only you can judge.

As i said, you have to decide, but I cant imagine any 17 year old and any 23 year old having much in common.

Dagon

It's no big deal... I've just been asked to a fekkin grad by an 18 year old girl (now doing her leaving cert) and I'm nearly 25! Who cares...

Last summer I was seeing a girl who was 17 (I was nearly 24) so I was in the same situation you are now. Basically, my advice is; don't take it too seriously because they tend to be a little immature and indecisive. Girls that age are a lot of fun, but I'm afraid a lot of the time, at our age... we're after something more, and they can't give you that.

As for the whole "it's a bit weird" thing.. get a life. If a 15 year old is going out with a 50 year old man, then yeah, that's a bit weird. But a late teens girl seeing a 20's guy is NO big deal at all.

amazingemmet

I always thought the social acceptable rule for dating people younger then you was half your age plus seven should be the youngest to date

Plunky

So they say, but it doesn't always have to be like that. I know people who I've sworn were three or four years older than they actually were based on their mentality/maturity... I say go for it if ya like her! Who knows what'll happen. Just mind her heart - break it an she'll never forgive you...