men are definately from mars!!!

LegacyUser

hey all,
im very confused. i have this male friend and we get along brill most of the times. but anytime we fight its usually over me talking to another guy or vise virsa. he keeps telling me that 'i wudnt be what he is looking for in a woman' and of course im saying the same. hes always trying to make me jealous. and yes i do get jealous. and i do the same and, thats how the fights start. i couldnt honestly say i would have feeling of 'love' towards him but think i might feel something. people are saying to me and him that they think were meeting, thats how close we can get. we flirt and then we get to a certain point and thats that!!!

i guess what im asking here is what kind of tell-tale signs should a girl look out for if he actually does 'fancy me'?!?

tinkerbell

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't it totally stupid if he is only your "friend" and gets jealous if you talk to another lad?

Sounds to me like the guy has a certain crush on a certain someone!

Blitzkrieger

Got a pulse? He fancies you

He wouldn't bother his ass to fight with you unless he cared....whatever kind of sense that makes.

D

Sounds like you are both up for it but are too shy to take that step.

Third_Echelon

peachy05 wrote:

hey all,
im very confused. i have this male friend and we get along brill most of the times. but anytime we fight its usually over me talking to another guy or vise virsa. he keeps telling me that 'i wudnt be what he is looking for in a woman' and of course im saying the same. hes always trying to make me jealous. and yes i do get jealous. and i do the same and, thats how the fights start. i couldnt honestly say i would have feeling of 'love' towards him but think i might feel something. people are saying to me and him that they think were meeting, thats how close we can get. we flirt and then we get to a certain point and thats that!!!

i guess what im asking here is what kind of tell-tale signs should a girl look out for if he actually does 'fancy me'?!?

HE FANCIES YOU....

from what you are saying... its quite obvious...

kstanl

You're in there.

Sarky

Whenever I want to know what somebody's thinking, I ask them. I realise it's not for everyone, but it certainly does the job for me.

anna20

ye just ask him, if ur good friends then if there is any embarrassment it shud pass eventually

LadyJ

He wants it bad! But yeah,ask if you need it confirmed.

Zulu

How old are you both?
It's pretty clear you both fancy each other.

snorlax

ask him gently if he does!

senordingdong

Ahhhhh...bless!

RoadSweeper

drop the hand? see how he responds?

Beruthiel

helpful comments please!
B

OfflerCrocGod

You pwn him!

Peachy05

thanks to all of ye that replied. i am still very confused. i have 'dropped the hand' but in a playful way, he nearly didnt stop me. at the start of the friendship there was nearly a few time when if i wanted to 'kiss' him i could of. but chickened out. now, today hes on about other girls. and fights started again. im starting im better off with out 'stuff' like this.

Dub_Ster

Peachy ,

you booth sound like drama queens no offence . Booth of you sound like you booth fancey each other but yet arnt willing to make a move , most of the women are a myth
hes doing it so ya will show interest only thing is you show to much , and you argue .
theres the logic , weres the logic in haveing feelings for some one and not saying anything ?

PS some you women arnt that essy to under stand theres 2 gils that have me baffeled but i all ways learn something from being bafiled ...

Genghis

From what you posted, I'd say that both of you want to be together, but you feel that perhaps you have become good friends and this makes things more difficult - asking out / snogging a good friend is very different that asking out / snogging a complete stranger - it seems perverse but the fact you know each other so well makes making the first move much more dificult.

I would guess there are probably all the signs of attraction there. You've mentioned jealousy - if he didn't feel some sort of attachment to you at some level, why would he get jealous? Has he made moves on other women? What about eye contact, touching off each other? Does he try to be with you alone, to the exclusion of mutual friends? How quickly would he return calls / texts to you ,etc.

I bet you'll find that there is something there, but it is going to take one of you to make a move. Maybe try suggest it in a humourous way?

Altheus

Your both in denial - get a room, get drunk, lose your respective inhibitions and have fun.

Peachy05

Has he made moves on other women?

Yep, he has done apparently

What about eye contact, touching off each other?

lots of eye contact and there is touching.....but sometimes he starts to freak out

Does he try to be with you alone, to the exclusion of mutual friends?

yeah, i like to think he does. i try too but like tonight it doesnt happen.

silly

its a few days since your first post, have u spoken to him about it yet?

MojoMaker

In fairness the two of them are only 16.

Dinxminx

He likes you. If confronted there's a good chance he'll deny everything so just work your way into a situation where you're both alone and sneakily slide a bit of action in! Good luck! xXx

Piste

To the OP: You mentioned you weren't sure whether you liked him or not. The most important thing to do is figure out how you feel about him. I've been there (and tbh, still am there), where I'm not sure how I feel about a guy and it's horrible to feel like you may be stringing him along (I lost a friend that way) So just think about do you have any feelings for him before you take it any further.

Liz