Girlfriend More Experienced Than Me

LegacyUser

Ive been with my girlfriend for 7 months now and are the best of friends and we are in love.I have never had a girlfriend/partner until her I have not kissed another person other than her.She has had one relationship which went rather bad and she has kiseed and fooled around with a LOAD of people.This makes me extremely jealous as I have never had this experience.I have always wanted to do this but I was always too self conscious and I have low confidence in myself.I always figured that I wasnt attractive enough either and that nobody was interested in me.

She brings up her experience a bit more than I need to hear, I bring it up too just out of curiosity.I really would like to know if Im missing out on anything with others, and if theres someone better out there for me.
We argue quite a bit and it always hurts terribly bad.As of recent her past has begun to hurt me more and more, due to the images of her with other people and the fact Ive never done anything like that.
What should I do?

Zulu

How old are you guys?

LegacyUser

We're both in our early teens.

Boston

Sweet jesus, you're one of those guys that expects your GF to be a (and no offense here) a slut in the sack, but to have been a vigin before she meet you? What you expected her to hold herself for you? You admitt that you yourself would have been doing hte exact same thing, had you the confidence. You say your in love, but your wondering could a couple of easy lays, one night stands and a few broken relationships might be better? doesn't sound like love. Sounds like your a kid without the life experience to realise that chances are every single woman you'll ever be with, has been with someone else, so who cares how many someone elses there was.

Beruthiel

BladderAche wrote:

She brings up her experience a bit more than I need to hear, I bring it up too just out of curiosity.

why bring it up if you don't wish to hear it?

I really would like to know if Im missing out on anything with others, and if theres someone better out there for me.

break up with her and find out if it's bothering you that much

due to the images of her with other people and the fact Ive never done anything like that.
What should I do?

get over it, what she did before you should not count, if it does, then you have a problem and need to work on it

Beruthiel

BladderAche wrote:

We're both in our early teens.

how early?

Zulu

BladderAche wrote:

We're both in our early teens.

You'll get over it. Just play it out. You'll build up experience pretty soon - don't woory about that. ...and later in life it'll mean very little to you anyway.

LegacyUser

I didnt get with her because I thought she would be an easy lay.She was a virgin like myself.She just fooled around with people alot.I got with her because I liked her, only reason.I didnt expect any sort of sexual relationship out of it.I first seen her as a totally different person and then all of a sudden theres so much past.I know I should get over it but its easier said than done.
I think I rushed into everything a bit too quickly, I havent had time to break myself in with others.I dont want sex from anyone else.Thats not my aim at all.I just want to see what other people are like..

Beruthiel, it doesnt matter that much. But its early enough.

Naos

Beruthiel wrote:

how early?

he was asked his age and responded with "early teens".
He may not want to say, but for arguments sake early is 13 - 16 .

TerrorFirmer

LiouVille wrote:

Sweet jesus, you're one of those guys that expects your GF to be a (and no offense here) a slut in the sack, but to have been a vigin before she meet you? What you expected her to hold herself for you? You admitt that you yourself would have been doing hte exact same thing, had you the confidence. You say your in love, but your wondering could a couple of easy lays, one night stands and a few broken relationships might be better? doesn't sound like love. Sounds like your a kid without the life experience to realise that chances are every single woman you'll ever be with, has been with someone else, so who cares how many someone elses there was.

Make sure you read this carefully, and actually realise that you are plain and simple both jealous and just feeling inadequate.

Talk to her about it. Don't give out about something she has done you seem to actually desire but never got it.

Beruthiel

BladderAche wrote:

Beruthiel, it doesnt matter that much. But its early enough.

I only asked because your comments so far have been very immature, I don't mean to say that as an insult but more as a fact because of the age you are - as you are both so young and so therefore have a lot to learn when it comes to relationships.
With each new relationship that you have you will bring the experiences you have learned from the last one.
consider this relationship to be a learning curve, teach yourself to not care about who she has been with before in whatever way works for you, as you get older, this skill will be required all the more.
I suggest you just relax and enjoy your time together, nothing else is required of you

Kell

BladderAche wrote:

She just fooled around with people alot.

Well if she was a virgin then that implies not a lot of fooling around. You obviously dont want to hear about her past experience so tell her so when she brings it up and dont ask her for information either. After a while of not asking, you'll lose the urge.

So what if you havent a lot of experience. You gotta learn sometime and have fun learning so you can take your experience to greener pastures when your experience matches hers.

K-

Zulu

BladderAche wrote:

I didnt get with her because I thought she would be an easy lay.She was a virgin like myself.She just fooled around with people alot.I got with her because I liked her, only reason.I didnt expect any sort of sexual relationship out of it.I first seen her as a totally different person and then all of a sudden theres so much past.I know I should get over it but its easier said than done.
I think I rushed into everything a bit too quickly, I havent had time to break myself in with others.I dont want sex from anyone else.Thats not my aim at all.I just want to see what other people are like...

look at it this way. When you are 24, and you start going out with some one - think of what'll she'll have done by then! You need to just forget about it. You'll have to accept that her previous experiences make her what she is today. So if you like her now - it's partially because of what's she all ready done!

And besides - it means she be a better kisser (or whatever it is you crazy teens get up to nowadays) and she'll be able to teach you to be better - making it a far more enjoyable experience for everyone!

seamus

You'll realise soon enough that it actually doesn't matter. Sure, you don't like thinking about it - so don't!

Zapho

So she's kiss a bunch of guys? She's a teenager so what did you expect? If it makes you uncomfortable then just ask her not to talk about it!

Boston

O dear god. Do you really think this is an issue for other people? Do you really think people worry about the people their partner has kissed before them. Some guys have a problem getting their head around the whole sleeping with other people thing, but this is ridiculous. I need to lie down.

WhiteWashMan

LiouVille wrote:

O dear god. Do you really think this is an issue for other people? Do you really think people worry about the people their partner has kissed before them. Some guys have a problem getting their head around the whole sleeping with other people thing, but this is ridiculous. I need to lie down.

its not a gender thing, its a 'people' thing.

people get jealous.

people dont like to be reminded that there was someone else.

people are ridiculous sometimes.

but what can you do? putting your head in the sand will not make it go away.

however, if your partner feels like this, and you cant put up with it, then my god, leave! whats the point in making yourself unhappy, and wasting someone elses time?

Zulu

LiouVille wrote:

O dear god. Do you really think this is an issue for other people? Do you really think people worry about the people their partner has kissed before them. Some guys have a problem getting their head around the whole sleeping with other people thing, but this is ridiculous. I need to lie down.

...go easy - he's only a young one, this is his FIRST girlfriend.

simu

You should relax. You've plenty of time ahead of you to get more experience.

Victor

She's with you now, thats all that matters.

seamus

Also be aware, that combined, what either of you have doesn't really amount to a whole lot of experience at all at all. You're only young.

Boston

seamus wrote:

Also be aware, that combined, what either of you have doesn't really amount to a whole lot of experience at all at all. You're only young.

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