Depression Chat-Rooms

Chucky

Does anyone know any good depression chat rooms on the World Wide Web? Honestly, I have searched for ages but most are either empty or you have to sign-up which I have no patience for right now.

ferdi

i'd also be interested in this

WhiteWashMan

i found that talking #fortress and #boards.ie to be pretty depressing sometimes.

which is why i rarely do it anymore.

nesf

I'll give some answers on this later. Am in net cafe omw to pub atm, so don't have the details to hand.


However the two links, to Aware and the Black Dog below are good places to start.

Laters.

I am MAN

http://www.depressionforums.com/
http://www.trappedminds.org/

The forums on both of those sites will serve as much a purpose as a chatroom will.

hullaballoo

NB--try to avoid talking to other depressed people, honestly.

Silent Grape

ages ago i had a look for something like that too,.and mostly found american sites that were just poop. i wouldnt recomend chatrooms anyway, join an aware group or summat

x

Chucky

hullaballoo wrote:

NB--try to avoid talking to other depressed people, honestly.

Agreed, yet my best friends are depressed so i can't exactly abandon them. Thanks for the links.

Victor

hullaballoo wrote:

NB--try to avoid talking to other depressed people, honestly.

Whatever about avoiding a "depressed people only" circle of friends, thats about the harshest advice I've seen here.

Depressed people are people too!

Winters

Go see a doctor tbh.

Chucky

Victor wrote:

Whatever about avoiding a "depressed people only" circle of friends, thats about the harshest advice I've seen here.

Depressed people are apeople too!

i don't think he meant it in a harsh way to be honest, Victor. You can see where he was coming from but to ignore someone in a state of depression is cruel. His logic is correct but in reality, it's just something you don't do.

nesf

Eh to be honest, I wouldn't just paint every depressed person with the same brush. There are many different types of depression and such.

Some of my closest friends are other people with depression. We are close because we can relate totally to each other in certain ways etc. On the other side, we avoid each other when one of us is down.

As for depression chat rooms, eh, they'll be filled by angsty teenagers whining about something their parents didn't buy them. Depressing yes, but doesn't actually deal very well with the topic of depression. Self help groups like Aware are better, but I never really found self help to be all it's cracked up to be.

hullaballoo

Whoa ****, I was no way condoning ditching friends or ignoring depressed people. I meant don't seek out other depressed people and talk about how everything sucks, then meet up and decide on something harsh etc. you need to talk to ppl whi have perhaps been there, can give advice etc. or even just someone you don't know who can listen to you. tbh, starting a thread here usually yields helpful stuff,

Sorry if I caused any offence.

nesf

hullaballoo wrote:

Whoa ****, I was no way condoning ditching friends or ignoring depressed people. I meant don't seek out other depressed people and talk about how everything sucks, then meet up and decide on something harsh etc. you need to talk to ppl whi have perhaps been there, can give advice etc. or even just someone you don't know who can listen to you. tbh, starting a thread here usually yields helpful stuff,

Sorry if I caused any offence.

Yeah I kinda figured that was what you meant

Other depressed people are great and I have all the time in the world for them, but to be honest about it, I don't surround myself with said people. I don't want to talk about depression 24/7. It just isn't healthy to do that. I don't think anyone with seriously bad depression can manage not to be a bit obsessed about the condition, and the disorder. It can be very hard to listen to depressed people sometimes, because some of them have given up and have just embraced what's wrong. Meeting someone who believes their depression is a gift and that by having it, they are special, is not easy for someone whose life has been torn apart by it. I have friends who disagree with my thinking on what depression is completly. They seem to feel that it is some form of club you are in because you are special. Rather than my view of, **** it, I was born with this condition. It's no different to my asthma or my short sightedness. I inherited it, it isn't an inherently good or bad thing, but just another thing in life I have to deal with and get over.

I've met a few people who seem to be living through and identifying themselves through the fact that they have depression. It's not healthy imo. I am a person. I am not my condition. It does not automatically shape who I am. Some people try to make depression the centre point in their lives, and that isn't a good thing. I've nearly fallen into that trap a few times myself. But I am who I am. My life does not revolve around my depression, it is just very effected by it.

Eh, I'm rambling. Better stop before I hit 3 or 4 pages

Chucky

nesf wrote:

Eh, I'm rambling. Better stop before I hit 3 or 4 pages

On the contrary - What you wrote was inspirational. Thank you.

mp3guy

Cut the phone line and get outside. Less physical human socialisation is worse. Trust me, get out with some friends, the net isn't the answer.

Dublin8

i would say stay away from those depression forums

if ul read them ul go more and more into depression
just chill out do a bit of self thinking and

no one can make u feel beter except ur self

so just think with a possitive attitude

you shud b fine

Firewalkwithme

Yahoo have a chatroom called 'Depression support' if I remember correctly. I hope it's of use to you.

hullaballoo

Dublin8 wrote:

i would say stay away from those depression forums

if ul read them ul go more and more into depression
just chill out do a bit of self thinking and

no one can make u feel beter except ur self

so just think with a possitive attitude

you shud b fine

Précisemment! Way to articulate that which I failed to.

nesf

Dublin8 wrote:

i would say stay away from those depression forums

if ul read them ul go more and more into depression
just chill out do a bit of self thinking and

no one can make u feel beter except ur self

so just think with a possitive attitude

you shud b fine

Short answer: It's not that simple. (I'm not going to rant here, I think I know what you are trying to say and where you are coming from. I'll explain why the short answer applies below)

Depression doesn't always work like that. Yes for someone who is just feeling down (ie not suffering from clinical depression) you are 100% right, and for some mild or minor depressions you are correct. But believe me moderate and severe depression needs more than just a positive attitude.

Without one you'll never get through a depressive episode. But you need to be doing a lot more besides just to survive a depressive episode, nevermind get yourself over it. I appreciate what you are trying to say, but it isn't that simple.

Not all, but quite a few depressions are biochemical in nature. No amount of positive thinking can help this. Believe me. It requires more.

Also, a problem shared is a problem halved, and meeting other people with the same difficulties as you can make a difference. I don't recommend the depression chat rooms because they are full of angsty teens looking for attention. But thats a different story altogether.

Also, unless you are extremely self aware, intellegent and have a high degree of reasoning, you will need therapy to help yourself to think positive and look at yourself in a good fashion. This is essentially what therapy does. People with clinical depression can be unable to look at themselves positively without professional help!

I know where you are coming from, and for people with "depression" as opposed to people who are clinically depressed, you are 100% right and it's good advice. It's just very incomplete advice to anyone actually suffering the mental illness.