Confusion

LegacyUser

I know there are a few similar threads floating around at the moment but I thought I'd post and ask for some opinions anyway.

I'm a 20 year old girl, and there's a guy in college that I've been friends with for the past year. Since I've known him he's been with a girl in my year on and off, and I've been out with a few guys but nothing serious.

Anyway about a month ago I noticed him being more friendly than usual with me, and I even thought he might be flirting. He tried to convince me to go on a college night out, but I couldnt as I was going away early the next morning, and he started quizzing me about whether I was going with a boyfriend. When I said no his face lit up, so naturally I got the impression he liked me. But then I found out that on the night out he was with the other girl again, so I didnt really think about it. Then when I saw him again he kept flirting and I would flirt back, but recently he seemed to cool off a bit.

The girl he had been with on and off is a friend of mine, and I found out that he talked to a mutual friend of ours about whether she still had feelings for him. When my friend told him that this girl has started seeing someone else, he said 'thats cool because I'm interested in another girl but dont want to hurt her feelings.' My friend thinks I'm the girl he's interested in.

A group of us went out on Friday night, and he was giving off definite signs of interest (so I thought). We spent a lot of time together, but he never tried to make a move on me. When I had to leave he asked me not to, and said I could stay at his place. I said I had to go, but as I was leaving I gave him a hug (and he hugged me back really tightly) and I tried to kiss him, but he turned and I got his cheek.

I'm just very confused. He seems to like me, but it feels like this has been building for a while yet he wont do anything about it. I just don't know what he wants.
Sorry if it all sounds a bit silly, but its wrecking my head! And I have exams coming up very soon so I dont want to be thinking about this all the time

tk123

You could be waiting a long time for him to make a move - why don't you just talk to him about it or make a move yourself? Do you think he turned away from the kiss on purpose?

LegacyUser

I dont think so. It was a really awkward moment, I think we were both waiting for something to happen but neither of us actually did anything (apart from me hugging him). We were in the middle of a big crowd of friends as well so maybe that had something to do with it, I dont know

WhiteWashMan

the guy is interested, but hes not going to live the life of a preist waiting for you to shag him. if he snogged some chick, then its because he could, not because there is some alterior motive surrounding you and some deep and dark plan to make you feel all at odds.
hes a bloke, he got lucky. he scored. thats it.

if you like him go out with him for a drink, if you dont, tell him

either way, youre sorted....

tk123

I agree with WWM - he's interested but he IS a bloke so he's prob waiting for you to do something - have a chat with him - whats the worst that could happen!??!

LegacyUser

Thanks for the straight talking reply WWM!

I guess you're both right, it can't hurt to ask him outright. I'll see him again in a couple of days so fingers crossed.

Cheers!

WhiteWashMan

liltyk wrote:

Thanks for the straight talking reply WWM!

I guess you're both right,

yes we are.

/split personality

tk123

she means me too!!