Moral dilemma?!

LegacyUser

Ok so just to skim over my story a while ago i was going out with this girl for about two years, we got on great then we broke up! We were young and this seemed like an extremely long time to be going out for our age! Now we're great friends and i know her family really well. Lately iv been hanging out with her younger sister and we have so much in common and i like her and i believe she likes me! Now to the question: Would it be absolutely and totally wrong to start going out with her?? I don't want you to think i have no morals because i do, just really really like this girl !! Can anyone help with my predicament?

kittenkiller

Ask yourself what exactly it is that you like about the baby sister.

If it's anything similar to what attracted you to your ex then just walk away.
Otherwise you'd better be prepared to loose the friendship with your ex over a relationship with her sister (i'm not sayin that's what'll happen, it's just a possibility that you should consider).
Their parents mightn't be too pleased either.

The morals you should be consulting aren't you own or anyone's online, they should be the ones of your ex, who's now a very close friend.



Personally, even thinking of being intimate with someone a relative has been with too kinda makes me feel ill.

Sleepy

Talk to your ex. I know I've gone out with a good friend's sister before and he didn't have a problem with it because I cleared it wih him before making any moves.

Most people don't have a problem with it once you respect them enough to ask their permission (and even if they do, they'll usually give you permission and get over it anyway).

RuggieBear

A friend of mine, went out with a girl for about 3 years and had an amicable break up. He stayed freindly with her and her family and to cut a long story short....got very friendly with her younger sister and they started going out together. The ex and the rest of the family seemingly had no problems with this and... the pair are now married and the ex was one of the brides maids.

Now tbh, i don't know all the ins and outs of it but that still strikes me as a little bit weird.

I defo couldn't hook up with an ex of my brother...just too icky.

Anyway, it can work but imo there would just be to much awkwardness and pressure to let things work out grand...

*Page*

i try to not keep it in the family. but again communication is the only way to get any answers.

nesf

I don't think there is a black and white answer for this one. It really does come down to the people in question, with some people once a relationship is over they really couldn't care less about what the other person does. Others would take great offense at the idea of a major ex going out with their sister/brother.

Basically talk first to the younger sister and make sure that you aren't misreading the signals (otherwise it could be very very embarassing), if she is interested, then you or her (prob best if it's her) should talk to your ex about the possibility of it. If your ex gives her blessing then you can start a new blissful relationship. Otherwise, well, hopefully it won't effect your friendship with her.

The important thing in my mind is that you mentioned that you were quite young when you were with this girl. When we are young we end up in relationships alot easier than when we are older, and it would be more likely for her to not have a problem with you going out with her sister, if you were a childhood sweetheart rather than a serious adult partner.

My 2c.

WhiteWashMan

if you want to ask her, ask her.
if you dont, then move on.

stop procrastinating. youre only winding yourself up.

Beruthiel

guess who just got banned?

ferdi

Ronnie Ronaldo wrote:

if you feel you love her dont hold back, bust her out of it. maybe her sister will want to join in and the might compare notes over the dinner table and their mother could be impressed with what they are saying and you might get to bust her out of it as well.

Beruthiel wrote:

guess who just got banned?

double lol

Sleepy

That's impressive, I'd just requested he be banned for his comment in the condom thread!

Vexorg

banned and pruned

Beruthiel

um
thanks vexorg
t'was already done ya know