my girlfriends first time

LegacyUser

my girlfriend is a virgin and has decided she wants to loose her virginity to me, i just want to make sure to make it as comfortable as possible as i've heard it can be very uncomfortable for women. Has anybody any advice?

Victor

Someone posted recently that one important thing is to actually like each other socially, not "I lost my virginity to someone when I was drunk and I can't remember their name".

Sangre

Ok.... great help there Victor.

To the OP try not to aim for the ground on the first thrust. Slow and steady wins the race

kittenkiller

It'd probably help if comfort-wise, if she went on top so she can control the depth & pace.

Gir

Sangre wrote:

Ok.... great help there Victor.

To the OP try not to aim for the ground on the first thrust. Slow and steady wins the race

Leave Victor alone. He tries his best. Poor thing.

OP Take your time. Try getting as comfortable as posible with each other. Try sitting on the bed naked with each other first. Just messing. Exploring. Let her mess with you bits in a scientific way or what ever she feels like. You will both benifit in the long term from this open'ness. You may find this hard to do due to shyness and what have you but you are about to give her one and leave a deposit Possibly even run your tongue over her genitals. so when you take that into account getting nakid with each other and having a giggle is not really that much.

Gir

I just had to show this thread to my Girliefriendie.
She is still laughing an Victors post. Cheers Victor.

Victor

Ummm ...back on topic.

Ruthie ban these people.

TerrorFirmer

kittenkiller wrote:

It'd probably help if comfort-wise, if she went on top so she can control the depth & pace.

Yep. Her on top. Take things real slow. Lots of foreplay first, to make sure she is physically ready. And when I say slow, that means slow as is you only move when she says its okay to go further....dont rush into it, youll end up with the possibility of seriously hurting her.

Once shes used to it, and after a few times, everything will be great. Until then make sure to take it easy.

kittenkiller

Just to put you somewhat at ease though, it's not always painful 1st time round.

I hardly felt a thing (but that's cuz the sh1thead had a tiny member!!!!! )

Kevin_rc_ie

lol. or maybe u had a massive...

The General

1. get her wet
2. get her ready
3. introduce her to you mate johnson
4. let her get aqainted with johnson, oraly
5. bring him to within touching distance of the pink
6. stick it in
7. **** forgot the condom
8. pull johnson out
9. put on condom
10. step 1

kittenkiller

No problems thereafter buddy!

It'll help your girlfriend if you're as relaxed about the whole thing as possible as well (not too relaxed obviously).

Nothing worse than havin to put on a brave face so that someone else won't feel bad about you feeling bad!







(babbling now, bedtime soon......)

Alana

Hmm, but she might feel a lil uneasy on top-ie not knowing what to do exactly, plus the entry side of things might be a bit usual/akward first time, personally id go with the traditional you on top, and then after that go mad on variety...well that's what i prefered the first time, just go slow, take into a/c that it might be rather painful-however this is not the case for all ladies, however I do remember a certain lady friend of mine having difficulty walking the next day...that however might have something to do with her then bf's rampant rabbit style humpingness... ...ah that poor girl..

Anyway if it were me and it were my first time again, I'd still rather the guy on top, it's just a little bit more intimate, and if it's love then it just feels a lil bit more than sex....particularly if you can look into the persons eyes, or even kiss them....plus there is the added bonus of nibbling ears, light tingling touches, and the odd barely audible moan, which not only assures you that shes turned on, but turns u on also.....

You on top-but don't go too deep, unless she says-but don't constantly ask if it's ok...not a turn on at all, sweet and considerate tho. Fool around a bit at first, she might be rather nervous, and it takes girls a good bit longer to get really turned on-maybe not the case for all women, but certainly what I've found among most of my friends.


Also don't expect her to orgasm the first time-I'm not saying that she wont, but...if it's the first time...that just means testing out lots of ways afterwards to see which ones work-and thats the most fun part

Hope this helps!

TerrorFirmer

The General wrote:

1. get her wet
2. get her ready
3. introduce her to you mate johnson
4. let her get aqainted with johnson, oraly
5. bring him to within touching distance of the pink
6. stick it in
7. **** forgot the condom
8. pull johnson out
9. put on condom
10. step 1

Nice pornstar talk, I can almost tell you either get none or very little.... :rolleyes:

On a serious level, what garbage.

(but that's cuz the sh1thead had a tiny member!!!!! )

Lol....bitterness, eh? Girls always seem to do that.....

Anyway, OP, best of luck.

athena 2000

The General wrote:

1. get her wet
2. get her ready
3. introduce her to you mate johnson
4. let her get aqainted with johnson, oraly
5. bring him to within touching distance of the pink
6. stick it in
7. **** forgot the condom
8. pull johnson out
9. put on condom
10. step 1

Oh wow. Finally, the syllabus to the Joy of Sex 101!

OP, remember that Dr. Ruth Westheimer says have safer sex and also use birth control - both of you.
Otherwise it could be Babies and other Hazards of Sex 101.

click for extra credit

WhiteWashMan

Victor wrote:

Ummm ...back on topic.

Ruthie ban these people.

are you a moderator on the PI forum or not?

what is your role here victor?

D

like the above posts, take it slow and lots of foreplay, make her come a couple of times with your fingers and tongue first. Missionary would probably not be the best best but a lot of people seem more comfortable with it. Her on top would deffinatly be a big help though.

Sleepy

This is something I actually feel strongly enough about that I've refused to sleep with some girls on one night stands because I've always felt your first time should be with someone more special than a random girl/bloke you've only met that night. I'm sure there's people out there that'd give me a hard time for that, I just consider it to be the right thing and probably want to try and help other's learn from my mistakes...

Most girls seem to prefer missionary for their first time as it's the most intimate and it's easiest to communicate when you're face to face. Like the others have said, plenty of foreplay first. It'd be best if you can ensure you've got the place to yourselves for an extended period of time so you can both relax without worrying about someone barging in on ye. Depending on your alcohol tolerances, if sharing a bottle of wine just relaxes you both rather than getting ye drunk, it can be a good idea to take the edge off her nerves with a glass or two.

Don't try for porn-star sex, just go for nice tender love-making. The girls I've known who had unpleasant first times tended to be the one's who either hadn't told their boyfriends that they were virgins or just had guys who were so thick as to go at them like a jackhammer with no consideration for what the girl was feeling herself.

Given that you're concerned enough to post here and ask for some advice on the matter, I think your girlfriend's in safe hands and shouldn't be one of those unlucky ones who ends up finding their first time an ordeal rather than a pleasurable experience.

Dr. Loon

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

lol. or maybe u had a massive...

Ha ha. Like a clowns pocket? Or throwin' a sausage down O' Connell street.

*Page*

kittenkiller wrote:

Just to put you somewhat at ease though, it's not always painful 1st time round.

I hardly felt a thing (but that's cuz the sh1thead had a tiny member!!!!! )

If she's had penatration of other forms(fingers, ect.) it wont be at all bad!
best is her on top try not to push up(some men have this reaction to thrust upward when the girls on top)
slowly slowly.

it should be great fun and always wear a condom!(buy some lube if you want to besure theres enough moisture)

Hobart

Take Victors advice. If you have any doubts about liking her, or liking her in the future, under no circumstances should you shag her. It has happened to me on a number of occasions and I have always held back.

LegacyUser

Go rent the film 'kids', and dont do what 'telly' does :P

The General

MobileInfantry wrote:

Nice pornstar talk, I can almost tell you either get none or very little.... :rolleyes:

Getting more than you are mate, and id put a lot of money on that

TerrorFirmer

How much money? I have a girlfriend that I see everyday....work it out.

And thats beside the point - your original post was totally stupid and smacked a little of something a 14 year old would write.

Walter_Sobcek

Comfortable eh!

Don't do it in the back of an Opel Corsa is my only advice.

Oh, and if you're going to tell all your mates about it make sure she doesn't find out. That lacks a bit of class.

Scarinae

Just don't go straight into it! Make sure you have lots of foreplay first to relax her and get her reasy for it. If you've done other stuff together already then this should be fine. I think missionary is the best bet in terms of position