Brother has another biopsy

LegacyUser

Just found out that my brother who is in his mid 30's had another cancer biopsy - he was diagnosed with skin cancer 7 years ago but my dad let slip today that he had another biopsy - I feel that I have totally been kicked in the teeth as our mum is seriously ill also. When my brother was first diagnosed I was totally devistated as there is only the two of us in the family and we have always been very close. I know that it is only skin cancer but I have had two close relatives die from it and two of my close relatives have had pre-cancers. Has anyone else experience of living with skin cancer?

kittenkiller

I don't know what to say as i have never been through something like you're going through now.
I just wanted to let you know that if you wast to talk or anything (as you might do since you posted this thread) there are people & places out there that are willing to listen.


http://www.braycancersupport.ie/

http://www.cancer.ie/

Or pm me if you feel like it.

FranknFurter

I have recently had a second biopsy on a tumor that developed in my throat, i'm 27, and am a wheelchair user as I also have the "luck" of being a very rare person who has both Spina-bifida AND Multiple Sclerosis, not to mention photosensitive epilepsy. lol :rolleyes:

But, despite my usual unshockability when it comes to what my bizarre body is gonna throw at me next, when the first throat biopsy came back as "inconclusive" I was pretty upset. There is a familly history, I currently have a grandmother in the final stages of death from cancer, so bringing the topic up in the familly is somthing I will not be doing, my father also had a pretty major un-operable pituatory tumor and was on serious drugs for it.

So, all I can say, is let him know your there for him, believe me, he probably needs it more than he will admit.

B

LegacyUser

Thanks for your replies - I just got upset yesterday as I thought that he was heading for the all clear, am also upset that he did not tell me in advance - my family is small and he is very much my life.

LegacyUser

The results came back a while ago - he has the op on Wednesday (they were malignant)...trying to be strong, trying...

Memnoch

this is a very trying time for you, and it's hard. Nothing any stranger can say can really be comforting in this kind of situation, but for what it's worth I hope things get better for you and your family.

LegacyUser

Thanks - just a bit irritated that this is happening to my family at the moment - you don't know if it is OK to be upset or if you are being a drama queen about it, the thing is, it hurts. I love and adore my brother - he has always been my best friend and a sort of role model (even if I have deliberatly followed oposing paths to him at times). I don't know how people can not care if a sibling/ parent has cancer - even if it is only skin cancer. Sorry, ranting off... Will be there for him as much as he will let me.

Talliesin

Brotherill wrote:

you don't know if it is OK to be upset or if you are being a drama queen about it, the thing is, it hurts.

Yeah, I'd say this is something you get to allow yourself to be upset about. It's not "only skin cancer", it's ****ING SKIN CANCER!

You probably want to hold it all together for your brother, but I'd say go meet up with a friend, have yourself a bottle of wine or a few cups of coffee a big box of tissues and let rip for a bit.