Rejection

LegacyUser

Goddamn it, dropped my keyboard on the floor and accidently closed down the window. Now I'll have to write my rant again.

I've posted a rant or two here before and I found it therapeutic so I'll do it again. (Also reading over my old aposts makes me realise how much I've changed & how much more i'm enjoying life!)

Last night I was out in a meat-market type club with a few mates and it really typified my situation. I snogged two ladeez early on in the evening which put me in a pretty good mood (obviously). Didn't bother taking their numbers or anything though as it was just a bit of fun. Later on in the evening I got talking to this gorgeous girl, who was single, and surprisingly (considering the type of club I was in), very intelligent. Turns out she's doing the final year of a degree that is very closely related to the degree I finished last year. We got on pretty well, and had a lot in common.

Needless to say, she wasn't interested (the ones I actually like never are).

It's a repeating situation that I'm getting really fucking pissed off with.

Last year I fell really badly for a girl I worked with. She was an archetype of the girls I go for. Blonde, beautiful, extremely intelligent, driven, classy, kind, yadda, yadda, yadda. As per usual she wasn't interested, so I got out of there. I'm almost glad it happened now though, because there's no way i'd be where I am now if it hadn't.

Anyway, when I left I vowed not to let myself get hurt like that again. Unrequited love isn't the most pleasant of feelings to have lingering around for months without reprieve. These days I try to avoid getting attached to anyone unless I know that they like me too but that breeds its own problems. Scoring random wimin in clubs can be a pretty empty experience too.

Oh well, at least alcohol and coke never say no to me! (Nor does dominos.co.uk for that matter, until the bank decides otherwise at least... )

Gordon

Ehhh, right. What's the Personal Issue again?

If it's pure ranting you want I would suggest you subscribe to boards and get a journal.

LegacyUser

Continual rejection

bringitdown

Oh well, at least alcohol and coke never say no to me!

Ya always was a Pepsi man myself, never got into the Coke scene. Theres nothing like a good snort of Pepsi.

TerrorFirmer

As per usual she wasn't interested, so I got out of there.

So just because someone you worked with didn't fancy you, you decided to leave work??

I'm almost glad it happened now though, because there's no way i'd be where I am now if it hadn't.

Thought you said you get continually rejected and that the only things that can't refuse you are alcohol and whatever? So....that leaves you where....?

Unrequited love isn't the most pleasant of feelings to have lingering around for months without reprieve. These days I try to avoid getting attached to anyone unless I know that they like me too but that breeds its own problems

So if no-one is interested in you, how an earth do you have "love" for them? And how do you avoid "getting attached" to someone if they aren't even interested in the first place?

unless I know that they like me too but that breeds its own problems

One minute you complain you cant get anyone that you are interested in to feel the same for you, then you say this?

What exactly is the issue here? I think you need to elaborate more on the problem.... :rolleyes:

Esel

chip wrote:

... Later on in the evening I got talking to this gorgeous girl, ...
Needless to say, she wasn't interested...

Any chance it might have been because you were drunk?

WhiteWashMan

chip wrote:

Goddamn it, dropped my keyboard on the floor and accidently closed down the window. Now I'll have to write my rant again.

I've posted a rant or two here before and I found it therapeutic so I'll do it again. (Also reading over my old aposts makes me realise how much I've changed & how much more i'm enjoying life!)

Last night I was out in a meat-market type club with a few mates and it really typified my situation. I snogged two ladeez early on in the evening which put me in a pretty good mood (obviously). Didn't bother taking their numbers or anything though as it was just a bit of fun. Later on in the evening I got talking to this gorgeous girl, who was single, and surprisingly (considering the type of club I was in), very intelligent. Turns out she's doing the final year of a degree that is very closely related to the degree I finished last year. We got on pretty well, and had a lot in common.

Needless to say, she wasn't interested (the ones I actually like never are).

It's a repeating situation that I'm getting really fucking pissed off with.

Last year I fell really badly for a girl I worked with. She was an archetype of the girls I go for. Blonde, beautiful, extremely intelligent, driven, classy, kind, yadda, yadda, yadda. As per usual she wasn't interested, so I got out of there. I'm almost glad it happened now though, because there's no way i'd be where I am now if it hadn't.

Anyway, when I left I vowed not to let myself get hurt like that again. Unrequited love isn't the most pleasant of feelings to have lingering around for months without reprieve. These days I try to avoid getting attached to anyone unless I know that they like me too but that breeds its own problems. Scoring random wimin in clubs can be a pretty empty experience too.

Oh well, at least alcohol and coke never say no to me! (Nor does dominos.co.uk for that matter, until the bank decides otherwise at least... )

hmmmm, you sound like me when i was in college.

the problem is, youre a slut. you go out and shift a few people, you couldnt care less, but when someone knocks you back, you latch on to them. you actually had to talk to them, because she wouldnt kiss you.
i bet if you talked to the other girls you kissed, you would have found out that they too were intelligent.
just because you kiss someone, doesnt make them stupid. or maybe its just kissing you? i dont know.

anyway, the fact that you feel that the majority of people who go to a 'meat-market' are sub-par on the intelligece stakes kind of gives the game away. you dont really give a monkeys about any of the people youa re with.
why should someone with a bit of common sense, who has probably seen you kissing other girls want anything to do with you?

i mean, if you go about snoggin people, you probably have your attitude up your arse. i know i did. people actually cop onto this you know. besides, just becuase she is in a nightclub or whatever, doesnt mean she wants to be kissed.

if you want to indulge in unfulfilling one night escapades, prepared to be unfulfilled....

perhpas if you invest more time in the people you like, instead of scoring people who you dont give a monkeys about, you might find the end result a bit more fulfilling?

after all, the longer the sales cycle, the better the payoff.

tinkerbell

Everything WWM said.

Definitely, if you are out trying to score everyone who'll give you a second glance, the "really hot gorgeous girl" may have seen you do so, and won't be interested. It also sounds like you just don't want to work for it either, if they don't throw themselves at you / serve themselves up on a silver platter to you, you just couldn't be bothered trying.

So as WWM said, why don't you quit the trying to score loads of people at the start of the night, and actually trying to get to know a girl you DO like.

LegacyUser

MobileInfantry wrote:

So just because someone you worked with didn't fancy you, you decided to leave work??

No. I stuck around for a while but eventually I couldn't handle it anymore. I was planning to leave for other reasons for a while anyway, it just gave me incentive.

Thought you said you get continually rejected and that the only things that can't refuse you are alcohol and whatever? So....that leaves you where....?

It leaves me enjoying my job, having an enjoyable, active social life, a good circle of friends. Sans girlfriend is all.

So if no-one is interested in you, how an earth do you have "love" for them? And how do you avoid "getting attached" to someone if they aren't even interested in the first place?

I guess you've never fallen for someone who didnt feel the same way.

WhiteWashMan wrote:

hmmmm, you sound like me when i was in college.

the problem is, youre a slut. you go out and shift a few people, you couldnt care less, but when someone knocks you back, you latch on to them. you actually had to talk to them, because she wouldnt kiss you.
i bet if you talked to the other girls you kissed, you would have found out that they too were intelligent.
just because you kiss someone, doesnt make them stupid. or maybe its just kissing you? i dont know.

I should probably give a bit more information here. First of all, I was in a fair old drought prior to Saturday so I just wanted to get that out of the way. Also I didn't say the two girls I kissed were stupid, and I didn't mean to either (if that's the way it seems).

When I got talking to the girl later on that night, it wasn't in a blatently obvious come-on scenario. I was sitting down chatting to a mate, and at some point she sat down beside me with her mate (not sure when really, I didn't notice her there for a while). I was fairly knackered at that stage and was getting ready to make tracks, and we got chatting. Talked a bit of our <mutual college subject, would rather not say what it is >, she seemed nice. My mate decided he wanted to go, so I asked her for her number. She declined. Fair enough. Disappointing but not particularily surprising.

anyway, the fact that you feel that the majority of people who go to a 'meat-market' are sub-par on the intelligece stakes kind of gives the game away. you dont really give a monkeys about any of the people youa re with.
why should someone with a bit of common sense, who has probably seen you kissing other girls want anything to do with you?

Well, it's pretty unlikely she'd seen me kissing someone else, the capacity of the place was 2500, and everyone was wearing a suit. You may have a point about the type of place though.

i mean, if you go about snoggin people, you probably have your attitude up your arse. i know i did. people actually cop onto this you know. besides, just becuase she is in a nightclub or whatever, doesnt mean she wants to be kissed.

It's pretty rare that I go about snogging girls in a club though, I'm pretty shy. Saturday was a bit of a freak in that respect. Still, i see what you mean.

perhpas if you invest more time in the people you like, instead of scoring people who you dont give a monkeys about, you might find the end result a bit more fulfilling?

after all, the longer the sales cycle, the better the payoff.

What I'm looking for is a relationship. I'm fed up waiting for one though. Snogging randomers is unfulfilling but it does at least keep the self-esteem marginally above rock-bottom. Last time I really 'invested' time in someone, I left my heart on the plane and didn't get it back for 6 months. It's hard to get yourself back up for another disappointment...

Anyway, as fate would have it, an old colleague is going to be staying in town for a few months at some stage later this year, and is also in town for a week now. Bumped into her today and chatted for a while, which was nice. Trying not to get my hopes up again though.

WhiteWashMan

if you are looking for a relationship, and this person is only around for a few months, why would you bother?

i know now what the problem is.
you are like every other person in the world....

you will get a girl, when you get a girl. in the mean time, stop worrying about it. it will happen. just enjoy yourself and meet people. after all, if you sit at home and never go out, how will you meet someone?

and stop mooning after every girl you see.

LegacyUser

WhiteWashMan wrote:

if you are looking for a relationship, and this person is only around for a few months, why would you bother?

Well, because six months is a long time. Who knows what could happen.

you will get a girl, when you get a girl. in the mean time, stop worrying about it. it will happen.

I'm waiting. I have been waiting. It's difficult.

just enjoy yourself and meet people. after all, if you sit at home and never go out, how will you meet someone?

and stop mooning after every girl you see.

Sitting at home definately isn't a problem (debt is getting to be though).

kittenkiller

So chip, what has you on the super defensive anyway?

We all pine after the one(s) who got away for a while & then move on until we realise that the one(s) we did get are pretty damn cool/hot in their own ways & we're better off with someone who's actually bothered taking the time to get to know us!

wwm, damn good advice...
has someone taken over your keyboard while you're off havin a w@nk?

Gordon

kittenkiller wrote:

wwm, damn good advice...
has someone taken over your keyboard while you're off havin a w@nk?

Has a buffoon hacked into your account?