Girl problem (rant)

The Bollox

ok, there is this girl who I talked to before on the net and we decided to meet up because we live close to each other, when I saw her she was not a pretty sight but I decided not to be shallow and try to get to know her, but she has a horrible personality too! she is brutally honest! now that might not sound that bad but it is, even the little rhetorical questions that ppl ask to make themselves feel better like "does my ass look big in this?" I mean no-one actually says "hell yeah, Jees girl! loose some weight!" but that is exactly what she would say! (I never asked that question btw!) but I decided I couldn't stand her anymore so I tried to get rid of her, but she is stalking me now! I am not the kinda person who can just turn around and say "**** OFF!" but my threshold is getting closer!

does anyone have any advise?

Sangre

Tell her to **** off.

ferdi

Sangre wrote:

Tell her to **** off.

bingo.

Karl Hungus

Hate to say it, but Sangre is right... be a blunt ****.

Jonny Arson

Sangre wrote:

Tell her to **** off.

Well yeah but don't say that literally as she could be a little screwed up in the head and if you think she's stalking you then basically the best thing you can do is simply ignore her. Whether it be phone calls, text messages, emails, online or if you meet her in person just give her the brush off and after a while she should (hopefully!) get the message.

Sangre

Yes because we all know stalkers do it for the attention or was it to observe from a far?
I can never remember.

The Bollox

Zane from MTV2 wrote:

Well yeah but don't say that literally as she could be a little screwed up in the head and if you think she's stalking you then basically the best thing you can do is simply ignore her. Whether it be phone calls, text messages, emails, online or if you meet her in person just give her the brush off and after a while she should (hopefully!) get the message.

that was the plan, but she didn't take the hint, I mean at one point she E-mailed me and I pissed her off :cool: so she said "**** you" and just to piss her off I said "yeah, you wish!" and she said "yeah, I do" and tried to start up a convo again! *sigh* I dunno

Jonny Arson

Marts wrote:

that was the plan, but she didn't take the hint, I mean at one point she E-mailed me and I pissed her off :cool: so she said "**** you" and just to piss her off I said "yeah, you wish!" and she said "yeah, I do" and tried to start up a convo again! *sigh* I dunno

Just keep on ignoring her. Don't reply to anything she says. I would normally be the one person on this planet who would feel bad about teeling someone to f**k off but she deserves it. Yeah you are in a sticky situation there but whatever you do don't start a confrontation. Some people can be a bit strange in the head.

Bottle_of_Smoke

even the little rhetorical questions that ppl ask to make themselves feel better like "does my ass look big in this?" I mean no-one actually says "hell yeah, Jees girl! loose some weight!" but that is exactly what she would say!

she sounds pretty cool to me

anyway if she's not such a pretty sight why not turn the abuse on her?

Winters

Back 'o the hand will slove your problems.

*nods

Eh, just ignore and block her tbh. Not much else to do if she doesnt take the hints.

Zombrex

Marts wrote:

does anyone have any advise?

Yeah, don't meet people off the internet :rolleyes:

The fact that she is "brutally honest" may mean she has insecurity issues that she compensates for by putting other people down, a bit like getting the first strike in before they say something hurtful to her.

That could also explain why she is being clingy to you, not taking a hint etc. She may be really interested in you now because you showed an interest in her. Best bet would be maybe to act really annoyed at her when she does something rude again, and storm off. Then tell her it isn't working out you too are not "compatable".

But I think you should brace yourself for the fact that she might be hanging around annoying you for a while. Kinda sad really, for her.

Chinafoot

well if shes so brutally honest she cant get too offended if you're that way with her.

you don't know this girl very well, you don't have any obligations to her so just tell her you don't want to see her anymore.

no point in wasting both your time.

BobTheBeat

A good kick up the arse should sort it out. Oh yah,just avoid her also as much as you can.She'll get the message eventually.

Kevin_rc_ie

Did you mention to her that you don't like her?

The Bollox

Kevin_rc_ie wrote:

Did you mention to her that you don't like her?

I have, but she just keeps saying **** like "oh come on, lets just try" I did try! I ****ing tried more on that girl than I did on most others ffs! and it wasn't because I like her, its because I pity her. I mean I if started flirting with a girl and she gave me the cold shoulder, I know to back off because I know I'll get no-where!

Kevin_rc_ie

maybe you're just meant to be together. maybe hang out with her a bit more. i've loads of friends i can't stand you get used to it after a while.

GuanYin

Marts wrote:

I have, but she just keeps saying **** like "oh come on, lets just try" I did try! I ****ing tried more on that girl than I did on most others ffs! and it wasn't because I like her, its because I pity her. I mean I if started flirting with a girl and she gave me the cold shoulder, I know to back off because I know I'll get no-where!

There is alot to be said for not having your real name and address when you post something like this.

Now who could the girl be...hmmmm

Pigman II

The internet. The cause of (and solution to) all lifes problems

Marts wrote:

does anyone have any advise?

Compose a startling love letter to a ficticious woman (use the name Kate) and but then 'accidently' email it to Ms.BrutallyHonest. Ten minutes late send another email to Ms.BH telling to ignore that mail as it wasn't for her and that it was just a joke mail you were sending to a work colleage that got sent to the wrong person.

Ms.BrutallyHonest will now understanibly conclude that you're some kind of cyber-two-timer collecting women on the net like an anorak collects Smiths Eps and before you can say '75% of all emails are spam' Ms.BH will promptly dump you.

Congrats, you're a free man again!

solo1

she sounds pretty cool to me

I was going to go with this response too. But if she's not what you want in a girl, then that's the end of that. Just tell her that: she's not what you're looking for in a girlfriend. Right? No?

Victor

Tone it down, folks.

weemcd

move

Winters

Sell her on eBay.

People are always looking for stalkers there.

the_syco

Marts wrote:

when I saw her she was not a pretty sight but I decided not to be shallow and try to get to know her

Does "try to get to know her" mean second date?

Marts wrote:

I ****ing tried more on that girl than I did on most others ffs!

So you tried hard to get to know her. Then that would make this true;

Wicknight wrote:

The fact that she is "brutally honest" may mean she has insecurity issues that she compensates for by putting other people down, a bit like getting the first strike in before they say something hurtful to her.

That could also explain why she is being clingy to you, not taking a hint etc. She may be really interested in you now because you showed an interest in her.

Thus you got a stalker interested in you, as you showed genuine interest in her, and now you can't get rid of her. My advice; let her see you with another woman. That'll get rid of her*.





*Or give you another stalker :rolleyes:

The Bollox

psi wrote:

There is alot to be said for not having your real name and address when you post something like this.

what do you mean? you want me to disclose my real name and address on here? why? I am guessing you know who I am talking about by

psi wrote:

now who could this girl be..... hmmmmm

and so, for whatever reason, have a bone to pick with me

GuanYin

Marts wrote:

what do you mean? you want me to disclose my real name and address on here? why? I am guessing you know who I am talking about by

and so, for whatever reason, have a bone to pick with me

Well my point is that you lose your anonymity when you have your details in your boards profile.

No bone to pick.

The Bollox

psi wrote:

Well my point is that you lose your anonymity when you have your details in your boards profile.

No bone to pick.

well yeah, but if I wanted to be anominous(sp?) I would have logged off for the starter of the thread and also for all my replies

cordelia

Silence speaks volumes. First off, block her phone numbers, internet addresses, instant messaging, etc etc etc etc...

Next, vow that you will never speak to the crazed one again. She will try guilt. She will try badgering you. She will try making you angry. These will all be attempts to engage you. If you respond, she wins because now you have acknowledged her presence on this earth and in your life. That is what she wants. All access must be blocked, plain and simple. Then you're just going to have to ride the storm out. It'll escalate until you think you're going to lose your mind, then it will fade. Odds are she'll find someone else to focus on.

She may have mental problems (well, obviously...) and unless you're ready/able to take them on, you need to step out of the ring and vow to stay out of the ring. Insecure people can play some amazingly devious games in order to stay in control or maintain relationships.
Good luck, I don't envy you...

Bottle_of_Smoke

by the way where'd you meet her (chat room\dating site etc)

Only Human

Make her hate you without making it too obviouse that your purposly doing so.

tinkerbell

Well, I think what my brother does when someone annoys him would be good advice here:

If a girl is really annoying my brother, he just tells her straight out to f off! This is what you need to do here. If she can't take the hint, then you need to take a leaf out of her book and be BRUTALLY honest with her. After that, drop all contact. Unless you want a stalker, which I'm sure you don't :rolleyes:

The Bollox

well I bit the bullet, I told her to fook off today, now hopefully she will have taken this hint!, if not I may have to take Tinkerbell's brother's advise, its good advise, cheers to all for the help

nesf

Marts wrote:

well I bit the bullet, I told her to fook off today, now hopefully she will have taken this hint!, if not I may have to take Tinkerbell's brother's advise, its good advise, cheers to all for the help

Stalkers are nasty, had a few mates who had some problems with them. Not a ncie situation, especially if it's a woman being stalked by a guy, that can be a bit on the dangerous side.

Regardless, I hope that she takes the subtle hints that you are planning on dropping, and ****s off.

The Bollox

ok, as it turns out, she didn't take my hint! she keeps ****in' txtin' me! so I decided you have to be firm to be fair, so I told her the truth! and guess what! dispite the fact that she is all high and mightyly with the truth telling, SHE got pissed off at ME for telling her like it is, I mean FFS! she was ike that all the time to me, but now that I give her a taste of her own medicine, she gets really pissed! now MAYBE she will leave me alone, hopefully she will, no txt's so far,but I seriously pity the poor fool who she falls for next!

ps. sorry for dragging this out, I just thought some ppl would find the irny in my statement today rather comical

johnnyc

post a pic of her!!lol

Beruthiel

johnnyc wrote:

post a pic of her!!lol

read the charter of this forum johnny
next time it's a ban
B

tinkerbell

Like I said before - just tell her to f-off! And keep telling her so until it sinks into her thick skull! Let us know how it goes

galwaydude

excellent advice tinkerbell
By the way what age is the this girl, sounds very immature too.

The Bollox

galwaydude wrote:

By the way what age is the this girl, sounds very immature too.

18, I think, not sure, she goes to my college (I left out a lot of details about the situation, they are un-important, they just emphasise the catch-22 situation I was in)

Scruff

send her a link to this thread and say "look. i hate you so much i started a thread about how to get rid of you"


Of course then she could just create a profile and p.m. stalk you too....or start her own thread about being rejected by you.
that would be funny.
hehe.
he.

galwaydude

scruff u have a warped mind
if shes 18 she will get over it, proberly her first male relationship if you can call it that. Hope you dont get more texts/calls. If she does call ignore at all costs, she will keep coming back for more until she gets the message.Good luck.

johnnyc

sorry about posting a pic ? you could make her your slave

WhiteWashMan

ask her if she wants to indulge insome porn action.

if she goes away, weyhey!
if shes up for s bit of porn, winner

its a perfect win win situation.

unless....
has she got a sister?

GuanYin

Scruff wrote:

send her a link to this thread and say "look. i hate you so much i started a thread about how to get rid of you"


Of course then she could just create a profile and p.m. stalk you too....or start her own thread about being rejected by you.
that would be funny.
hehe.
he.

Well it wouldn't be the first time the subject of a thread has come on to post their side of the story (Which usually differs greatly from the original posters version).

I have an emergency bag of popcorn here for such occurances.

The Bollox

WhiteWashMan wrote:

if shes up for s bit of porn, winner

no no no! beastality porn maybe, but not the norm ****, she's like a fookin' bus!
this'll be a lesson to all: DO NOT get into internet dating! it only ends in tears!

tinkerbell

So Marts, tell us! Has she gotten the message yet?

The Bollox

I think so, she still gets the same bus as myself, but today, I saw her out of the corner of my eye and turned away completly, I don't wanna risk eye contact, but no more txt's and no more E-mails, HURRAY!