Relationship advice

LegacyUser

I've been going out with this girl for 7 months now, I'm in College in Dublin and she's in Cork so we dont get to see each other during the week just at weekends.She loves me and I have thought over the past few months that i really love her too, she's funny intelligent good-looking, everything i look for in a girl. Every Friday nite i go to her place and sat she comes to mine we just watch movies or tv and stuff but in the last few weeks i've gotten really bored of that. I'm begining to have doubts if i really love this girl or what love is exactly. Anyone know of ways to spice up the relationship. I dont want to end the relationship because in a months time we're off to america together for 3 months-crazy i know!

Slightly confused

Dinxminx

Let me get this straight.

You've been together 7 months.
She's intelligent, good-looking and funny.
You hardly ever see her.
When you DO see her you watch TV or a movie..........


Ummm.... please tell me you also have sex? Coz you know, seven months without sex would be a reason for boredom for the majority of guys on this planet...

uberwolf

anonomous wrote:

Anyone know of ways to spice up the relationship. I dont want to end the relationship because in a months time we're off to america together for 3 months-crazy i know!

Slightly confused

the anticipation and planning for your trip should provide the spice IMO. You've been thinking this for 'a few weeks' - a bad DVD or two?

The trip will provide you two a completely different perspective on each other (for better or worse) and inject plenty of spice. Nothing to worry about.

Zombrex

anonomous wrote:

I've been going out with this girl for 7 months now, I'm in College in Dublin and she's in Cork so we dont get to see each other during the week just at weekends.She loves me and I have thought over the past few months that i really love her too, she's funny intelligent good-looking, everything i look for in a girl. Every Friday nite i go to her place and sat she comes to mine we just watch movies or tv and stuff but in the last few weeks i've gotten really bored of that. I'm begining to have doubts if i really love this girl or what love is exactly. Anyone know of ways to spice up the relationship. I dont want to end the relationship because in a months time we're off to america together for 3 months-crazy i know!

Slightly confused

Move in together ... :rolleyes:

Seriously, it sounds like you are finding the distance and short time together hard, which is understandable. Maybe go away for a weekend together, or take a few days off college and have her come up to dublin.

3 months isn't too long away, hang on in there :-) It is after you come back from America and fall back into the same system that you might want to reevalutate the relationship if it ain't working for you

LegacyUser

Thanks guys, think i'm gonna keep going anyway! And yes we do have sex but not that often, could be one of the reasons for my boredom i guess! I called over to see her last night and it was really weird but i'm going out with her tonight and all her friends so i'm gonna tell her what i;m feeling!

Gracie_05

advice wrote:

I called over to see her last night and it was really weird but i'm going out with her tonight and all her friends so i'm gonna tell her what i;m feeling!

I'd think carefully about that, if I were you...
Most relationships go through ups and downs and inbetweens/slight boredom with the status quo. If I were you, I wouldn't say anything tonight(if it's specifically about the boredom thing that you're going to talk about, that is).
just concentrate on enjoying the night out.
Some things are better left unsaid.
Some things, if they are to be said, should be given a lot of thought beforehand, otherwise there's the risk that the words come out all wrong.

LegacyUser

Well back from the night out....slightly wasted so apologies bout that! turns out i had a great time, went out and she didn;t get into the nightclub so we went to the pub, more my scene. We talked and i apoligiesed for being such an idiot over the last while! she looked so good tonight as in the best looking girl out! I realised talking to her that this funny girl was the girl i fell in love with all those months ago and that i'm gonna have a great summer!

Thanks boards for another success story,

ye's are all legends,

anony

WhiteWashMan

yeah, we make relationships between people, we neither know or care about, work....