Formula for a happy relationship

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Formula for a happy relationship

A German scientist has calculated a formula for a happy relationship where criticism needs to be cancelled out by five compliments.

Dr Hans-Werner Bierhoff, from the social psychology department at the Ruhr University Bochum, claims that couples should ideally compliment their partners five times for each time they criticise them.

He said:"Then people feel good in their relationship. Goodwill increases your potential to be happy."

Professor Bierhoff and his colleague Elke Rohmann conducted tests on thousands of individuals and couples and used the results to write a book called "What makes love strong" that provides advice on how relationships can be made to last.

The book also addresses problems that relationships can face as circumstances change.

He said that unemployment, infidelity or "stressful experiences" like diseases, depression or child birth can upset the balance and lead to a break-up.

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Scarinae

Huh? If you had to compliment them that often just for the sake of it, how fake would that sound? Isn't the whole point of compliments that you actually mean them?

xern

snotty Germans

cordelia

I find that a relationship based on mutual intimidation and emotional blackmail can thrive given the right situation...completely breaking down the self esteem of my partner, thus making them dependant upon me for their feelings of self worth, is also a fabulous way spicing things up... :rolleyes:

Jeysus, don't you just love how much money they probably spent to find out what most people already know...

crazy angel

yea but it sounds like something from the stepford wives! its not natural,
it would be too weird if there wasnt the odd arguement!!!

Scarinae

Imagine trying to have an argument while following those rules...

Her: "You are such a lazy knobhead! You should stop being such a useless wanker, get off your fat ass and do something!"
Him: "you owe me 25 compliments"

mad m

As long as the male is allowed to have numerous partners then there should be bliss within the relationship. *





Could compliment them all*

cordelia

As long as the male is allowed to have numerous partners then there should be bliss within the relationship. *

So long as they're not in the same house, perhaps you could "follow your bliss." However, if all of these relationships are in the same household, well...best of luck, fella, yer gonna need it! Imagine coming home from work to a household of "relationships." We'd never see the fella again: either at the pub or in the back shed.

mad m

cordelia wrote:

As long as the male is allowed to have numerous partners then there should be bliss within the relationship. *

So long as they're not in the same house, perhaps you could "follow your bliss." However, if all of these relationships are in the same household, well...best of luck, fella, yer gonna need it! Imagine coming home from work to a household of "relationships." We'd never see the fella again: either at the pub or in the back shed.

Ofcourse not in same house are you mad! Would visit them during week and have weekends off to recharge batteries.