Girl kicks me away

LegacyUser

Ok so over the weekend i was in the pub and this dropdead beautifull girl i seen made my heart beat over the limit, but i was too shy to approach her, but as the night progressed we just happened to bump into each other and got talking. I have to be honest i was just touching drunkness and id say she was too but she commented on me being so nice to her and she asking me to be with her and to go out with her sometime, i hav'nt had a girlfriend since last september and felt like this was a good chance to get someone special. So we got knowing each other and bought each other drinks and talked about music what our hobbies etc. Then she asked for my mobile number, i gave it to her and then she gave me hers, so when the night was over she kissed me and said she wanted me to text her.
But the heartstabbing bit is I found out she has being already going out with someone already and still is, so i ignored all the things i heard and decided to text her and ask her if she wants to go out here because ill be there etc. etc.
and ive being getting nothing but excuses of im tired ive got no cred. im sick etc.etc.
So I feel so heart broken because i felt i could of had something here.
I personally feel that i should just forget about it, because i would'nt like to get in the way of someone already going out with someone, but every 5mins i just keep thinking of her.
What do you think i should do. I feel so depressed about it

tinkerbell

You only just met the girl, so how could you feel heartbroken?

You'll just have to move on and meet someone else, I'm afraid. If she keeps thinking up excuses of not to go out with you (plus the fact she already has a boyfriend), then you are flogging a dead horse.

*Page*

its a kick in the a$$ alright but still you only met up with her once take a deep breath and move on to the next girl. sorry it hurts. you really got your hopes up didn't you?

Kell

LoveSick wrote:

What do you think i should do. I feel so depressed about it

Get over it. It's a random girl in a pub somewhere not the love of your life. If you havnt met someone since last September you are not talking to enough women and not getting enough telephone numbers.

What should you do? Talk to as many women as humanly possible,try and stay sober and get as many numbers as possible. Get thick skinned and you wont get as upset as often.

K-

WhiteWashMan

i know how you feel original poster, but you know sometimes, it works out.
after all, angalena jolie is single again, and thats a start. now i just have to wait for her call.

it will happen at some stage, until then, i will stay by my phone and not venture out.

MrJoeSoap

Sorry mate, Jolie is not going to call. She told me.

LegacyUser

dust yourself off, and get on with 5hit.

she sounds like a dick anyway, giving out her number, when she's got a bf.

weemcd

tell her to drop ya a line when she's free and single and get on with your life, she may make contact with you, she may not.

drummer 666

okay...1. why would she say she'd like to go out with you even tho she has a bf already..thatsjust stupid and wrong. and 2. how can ya be heartbroken if you only knowing her a day or so?

anywho, feel better, don't be depressed for the rest of your life just because some girl led ya on...that would be stupid

*adele*

Just forget about her its the only way to help

scribs

First of all....
Take a long look in the mirror.

After 10 mins or so of this stop looking and smack yourself a good hard smack in the face. Then repeat this "I will not take stupid advice of Boards members".

Anywho....The new pain in your life (swollen face) will now take your mind of the pain in your heart.

Now step up and be a man - shrug this emotional crap off - women hate wimps. So being all beyatttccchhhh whipped by a girl you only met briefly will not increase your chances of gettin wit another lizzzzaaaaadddyyyyyyy.

Look on the bright side of things - you have managed to avoid going out with a girl that obviously scores other blokes even when she has a boyfriend - And all she has to be is borderline tipsy.

Looking at how messed up you get when you meet random birds in bars and kiss em once - this could only lead to disaster for your poor little heart.

WhiteWashMan

scribs wrote:

After 10 mins or so of this stop looking and smack yourself a good hard smack in the face. Then repeat this "I will not take stupid advice of Boards members".

i cant help but notice a certain irony in your advice....

however, i do agree that the OP should really get a grip and stop swooing over every chick he meets. it will lead to many miserable and depressed days

Victor

Easy come, easy go.

You got used as a plaything. Sorry, but get used to it.

We can agree that A girlfriend is a product of time
and money right?

Girlfriend = Time * Money

Your girlfriend is a woman!

Girfriend = Woman
Woman = Time * Money

We all know that time is money...

time = money
woman = money * money

woman = (money)^2

We also know that money is the root of all evil,
correct?

money = sqrt(evil)

woman = [sqrt(evil)]^2

Hence,

woman = evil

WOMEN ARE EVIL!!!

billy the squid

look she was drunk, she would have crawled under anything except the titanic that night because of what the drink was doing to her. i wouldnt take it personally to be honest. move on.

Tobias Greeshman

You had a good chat with her, had a laugh. You'd like to have gotten with her, she had a bf, really if she would almost cheat on this person, how could you trust her. I mean if the two of you got together, a few drinks and she'd be doing the same with any guy in the pub/club.

Consider it a compliment, you can chat to girls successfully, have a laugh with them. Dont wear your heart on your sleave mate, keep it in your chest where it belongs next time, and you'll be fine.

AngryBadger

my advice would be to send her a cutting text if you're ever in touch with her again. I realise this seems trite and immature,but dammit if it doesn't feel good, and also an eye for an eye....ok I don't really believe that, but definitely lif you happen to be talking to her again let her know you think that's complete BS.

WhiteWashMan

AngryBadger wrote:

, but definitely lif you happen to be talking to her again let her know you think that's complete BS.

yes, and then he wouldnt look like someone standing on their high moral soapbox preaching.
coz that will really turn her on, right?

i mean, its all well and good to be píssed off with her because she had a boyfriend but kisses other guys.
i really think thats pretty much her problem, and im sure in time it will catch up to her. in fact, shes probably posting on boards saying how she cant control herself after two pints and her life is a misery.

however...
but really, getting even and getting abck is just petty and immature, oh just like you said, and if you do that stuff, then you just feel bad about yourself. just move on for gods sake. it was s brief kiss with alcohol. thats all it was. it was a kiss. it wasnt the chatting, it wasnt anything else. it was a kiss, and thats it.
i cant understand all the guys on here that talk to a woman and immediately fall in love with them. jesus, get a grip on life. women talk to people they dont fancy believe it or not.
just because she says hello and asks about your life, does not mean she is looking for a long term commitment, 3 shildren and a volvo inthe driveway.

she may just be out having a beer, having a chat, and mentally thinking about her boyfriend taking her up the arse. no, really, shes talking to you, but she doesnt want you. seriously. no, really. its true!

tinkerbell

WWM - you hit the nail on the head right there!

The OP really needs to get a grip, you can't be heartbroken after talking to a girl for the space of two seconds (unless she's got some kinda spell on you!).

She has a boyfriend, get over it. WWM is right, it is her problem that she's kissing guys that ain't her boyfriend.

One more thing - if you get lovesick like this with every single girl that you ever meet, it comes off as desperation. So chin up, move on with your life, and as someone already said - don't wear your heart on your sleeve.

Victor

AngryBadger wrote:

my advice would be to send her a cutting text if you're ever in touch with her again. I realise this seems trite and immature,but dammit if it doesn't feel good, and also an eye for an eye....ok I don't really believe that, but definitely lif you happen to be talking to her again let her know you think that's complete BS.

Whooooo! Then afterwards he can feel cheap and petty as well as used. :rolleyes:

Sarky

Victor wrote:

Women = Time*Money

I always used Time+Money in this, because Time=Money, as everyone knows. Working it out like that results in Women only being approximately 75% evil.

Still, it's evil enough.

secret_squirrel

You're looking at this in completely the wrong way OP.

Instead of being led on by a dirty yo-yo knickered slut... *

You were such a chat-up machine that you convinced an innocent virginal angel* to almost cheat on her boyfriend with you.

You Da Man.

Now get back out there and give the next girl one from me my san.

What are you a man or a mouse?? (Squeak is not an acceptable answer)


*Poetic License

Victor

I invoke the decorum rule.

Tiffany

"LoveSick"? Wooooah..... if you think that's love, you need more experience.

Zombrex

LoveSick wrote:

ive being getting nothing but excuses of im tired ive got no cred. im sick etc.etc.

Thats because she has a boyfriend I wouldn't take it really personally, or think that she is rejecting you or anything. It is not like you went out with her. This is really nothing to do with you, you are just a bit player in the, probably very crappy, relationship she has with her boyfriend.

Forget about it and move on. Why do you want her in the first place? She didn't treat you very nice, spending the night in the pub with you when she has a boyfreind and then ignoring you afterwards.

I would say you are more attracted to the idea of what she could be like, rather than what she actual is like.

Just because she is very attractive doesn't mean she is automatically a nice person who you would actually want to spend time with. I wouldn't worry about it, we have all been there. It could be worse, if you were a woman under 25 you would have probably spend that last 7 years going after men like this in your "bad boy" phase until you realise the Colin Farrell types of this world (male or female) just shag you, give you herpes and then sleep with your best friend, while you complain to your guy friends (ie me) that you thought he really really liked you and how you can't find a nice guy until the next good looking wanker comes along and it starts all over again ... sigh ...

...... and yes I have issues

Victor

Hmm should make that last one a sticky.

WhiteWashMan

and add some sort of caveat?