is it possible?

marshmallow

is it possible to be in love at 14?

garthv

Of course it is. Since when does age dictate feelings?

Wolf

Yes is is possible you can love at almost any age.

marshmallow

yeah i do love but to be in love ?

*adele*

I think it is but alotof 14 year olds confuse lust with love

Boston

Hmm absolutely, but be warned, the person you are and the person they are well change dratically over the next few years. you may not recognise the person you are in love with a year from now.

Crucifix

Umm, I guess so....but I wouldn't put a lot of stock in at the moment.

WhiteWashMan

sure it is.
im sur eyou love your mum, your dad, any siblings you have.
you may well love the simpsons (who are older than you!!!!)

you can love curry and chips.

do you love another person as married people would love each other?
i doubt it.

i think you just feel flutterings caused by lust and infatuation

but thats good too!

idontknowmyname

I agree its probably lust and infatuation which is something a relationship should have. You're feelings will change over time, you're still young, who you love now may not be who you love next year, same goes for everyone but you're growing up, sure you can be in love at 14 but things change over time

marshmallow

yeah, i'm pretty sure it was just lust i felt strongly one day...

*Page*

the best way to decribe a 14 year olds love is puppy love.. its when you start to understand this emotion towards other people other than family(parents ect)

puppy love can be true love as well but its a very very difficult feeling..

marshmallow

guess so, that's the best conclusion..

it's not my fault i'm an emotional puppy!

*Page*

not at al! its a great feeling though!!

try and always remember it, love should always be appreciated and remembered!!!(even if you hate the person)

Sleepy

Nope, it's all just hormonal. You don't know yourself well enough yet, nevermind anyone else. That said, have fun with it.

BobTheBeat

I would say that it is more possible to be infatuated rather than in love. But yes, I would say its entirely possible!

arbeitsscheuer

Boston wrote:

be warned, the person you are and the person they are well change dratically over the next few years. you may not recognise the person you are in love with a year from now.

Absolutely spot on. A friend of mine has been in a relationship for 4 years with the same girl (since they were 16 and 15 respectively). They were, and as far as I know still are, very much in love - But it has become clear that they have both changed so drastically that it is putting serious strain on the relationship.

Put simply: The person you fall in love with may disappear during the changes that inevitably happen between 13 and 20 years of age, and you may not like (or at least not love) the person who they become.

4Xcut

NO. You are in lust or infatuated. The adolescent uses more a primative part of the brain than an adult to process emotionns and is therefore not able to experience emotions in as complex a way as adults. When you are aroused(both adolescents and adults) the body releases hormones that can cause feelings of "love", these are just chemical imbalances. Real love is much deeper than that. It is a connection that is on a spiritual level and is often mimiced but rarely experienced. That is what makes it what it is, a human emotion, the only human emotion. Happieness, sadness, fear, anger,etc. are all due to chemicals in the body and are primative animal emotions. Love is the only inexplicable and therefore human emotion, it is pure, please don't sully it by confusing it with lust of infatuation.

Punk_ Drummer

*adele* wrote:

I think it is but alotof 14 year olds confuse lust with love

Indeed.

QueenAdreena

NO. You are in lust or infatuated. The adolescent uses more a primative part of the brain than an adult to process emotionns and is therefore not able to experience emotions in as complex a way as adults. When you are aroused(both adolescents and adults) the body releases hormones that can cause feelings of "love", these are just chemical imbalances. Real love is much deeper than that. It is a connection that is on a spiritual level and is often mimiced but rarely experienced. That is what makes it what it is, a human emotion, the only human emotion. Happieness, sadness, fear, anger,etc. are all due to chemicals in the body and are primative animal emotions. Love is the only inexplicable and therefore human emotion, it is pure, please don't sully it by confusing it with lust of infatuation.

If everyone thought that cynically there would be a lot less happiness in the world... and indeed babies! im 15 and ive been with my boyfriend 8 months and im very happy with him... i know people my age who have been going out with people two years and still love them, love is a personal thing, as long as you think your in luv it doesnt matter what any1 else thinks... i guess... its what id like to think anyway... if a believed any diff id be very lonely and sad... *sniff*

smokingman

Not possible I'm afraid.

I assume this is romantic love you're talking about and truth be told, there is no way a 14 year old can comprehend what it means, never mind know they are experiencing it.

Love isn't something frivolous like in a movie or something. It's something that is more than the sum of it's parts. It's not fancying them, wanting to be with them, respecting their opinion, admiring their resolve, wanting to be a better person for them, advising them and having that listened to, feeling a gap in your life without them, laughing your head off with them, being real best friends, putting them before you and knowing right well that they'd do the same for you.....

It's a hell of a lot more besides and is always a two way thing.
People get confused on this a lot. Real love cannot just exist in one person, it's always shared.

Squirrel

smokingman wrote:

Not possible I'm afraid.

I assume this is romantic love you're talking about and truth be told, there is no way a 14 year old can comprehend what it means, never mind know they are experiencing it.

Love isn't something frivolous like in a movie or something. It's something that is more than the sum of it's parts. It's not fancying them, wanting to be with them, respecting their opinion, admiring their resolve, wanting to be a better person for them, advising them and having that listened to, feeling a gap in your life without them, laughing your head off with them, being real best friends, putting them before you and knowing right well that they'd do the same for you.....

It's a hell of a lot more besides and is always a two way thing.
People get confused on this a lot. Real love cannot just exist in one person, it's always shared.

Only the two of them can tell us that they feel all this and more. No-one can say it is or isn't possible because everyone is individual. More commonly it is just lust as has been stated previously but there's always the case that it is love. I'm also wondering if 14 is too young, what is old enough?

Bright Smile

WAIT PPL!!!!
Maybe its that the first love is the MOST YOULL EVER LOVE because any love after that is never fully, fully open or giving as the first time?
maybe the younger you are the more passionate you are, the less you know what the hurt feels like...
its been 6 years since my very first relationship, and yet i still feel i havent loved as openly since...
does it really matter what age people are if they are mature enough to know that they would do anything for their chosen love?

arbeitsscheuer

Bright Smile wrote:

Maybe its that the first love is the MOST YOULL EVER LOVE because any love after that is never fully, fully open or giving as the first time?
maybe the younger you are the more passionate you are, the less you know what the hurt feels like...
its been 6 years since my very first relationship, and yet i still feel i havent loved as openly since...

Concur.
You're less cautious, wary, restrained - You're essentially giving your love with no regard for the eventual (painful) consequences. I also feel I haven't loved as openly since my first relationship, and I think a lot of people would say that...

Berger

No it isn't. Dont be stupid. Go have a tom or something.

is_that_so

SebtheBum wrote:

Concur.
I also feel I haven't loved as openly since my first relationship, and I think a lot of people would say that...

All true, you just love in a different way. The shadow of first love takes a long time to move away. But it eventually does , otherwise you can end up a slave to the past. And romantic as the notion is, in books, life can't be lived that way.

Red Alert

I wish I was 14 again! of course it's possible to be in love when you're 14, more likely to be physical/lust/infatuation but nevertheless it's a great feeling! enjoy it, and maybe she feels like that too

4Xcut

QueenAdreena wrote:

If everyone thought that cynically there would be a lot less happiness in the world... and indeed babies! im 15 and ive been with my boyfriend 8 months and im very happy with him... i know people my age who have been going out with people two years and still love them, love is a personal thing, as long as you think your in luv it doesnt matter what any1 else thinks... i guess... its what id like to think anyway... if a believed any diff id be very lonely and sad... *sniff*

The poin is that its not clynical. Its not chemicals in the body, its something deeper. I'm sure you are very happy with your boyfriend and care about him a great deal but fact of the matter is that at 15 you are too young to know what love is. There's a bifg difference between thinking you are in love and being in love. Would you die , kill, do anything for the other person. Can you think of anything you would not do, if yes then its not love. Do you know everything about them, what there thinking without them telling you, etc.

Gordon

Berger wrote:

No it isn't. Dont be stupid. Go have a tom or something.

wtf is a tom?

stagolee

Gordon wrote:

wtf is a tom?

i beleive it may be rhyming slang , think of the name of the actor in castaway

i could be wrong though

Le Rack

4Xcut wrote:

NO. You are in lust or infatuated. The adolescent uses more a primative part of the brain than an adult to process emotionns and is therefore not able to experience emotions in as complex a way as adults. When you are aroused(both adolescents and adults) the body releases hormones that can cause feelings of "love", these are just chemical imbalances. Real love is much deeper than that. It is a connection that is on a spiritual level and is often mimiced but rarely experienced. That is what makes it what it is, a human emotion, the only human emotion. Happieness, sadness, fear, anger,etc. are all due to chemicals in the body and are primative animal emotions. Love is the only inexplicable and therefore human emotion, it is pure, please don't sully it by confusing it with lust of infatuation.

it is possible to love at that age. regardless of chemicals and hormones. I was IN love at 13, although i did know him for about 10 maybe nine years prior to realising this. Iv felt strongly for a lot of guys since but have only really loved or been in love 2, granted Im only 17 but I know what love is, 4Xcut, with regards your sig, its true, I would die for a guy that Iv only known for a year but I feel so stringly for him, I know him so well, just everything about him is my all and I would willingly lay down my life for him

Sangre

smokingman wrote:

It's not fancying them, wanting to be with them, respecting their opinion, admiring their resolve, wanting to be a better person for them, advising them and having that listened to, feeling a gap in your life without them, laughing your head off with them, being real best friends, putting them before you and knowing right well that they'd do the same for you.....

So if its not any of those things then what possibly could it be?

4xcut, you are possibly the most romantic cynic in the world. The fact of the matter is you are in love when you are in love, while age has a great bearing on it it is no way definitive....or is it?

'oh boy its my 18th birthday, what do I get?'
'well now you can buy alochol, vote'
'thats pretty good but what else'
'well my child....im giving you the gift of loooove'
'joy!'


Yeah....


On a side matter, young love is a different, solely because it is love free from burdens and responsiblities of everyday life.

stagolee

Sangre wrote:

'oh boy its my 18th birthday, what do I get?'
'well now you can buy alochol, vote'
'thats pretty good but what else'
'well my child....im giving you the gift of loooove'
'joy!'

ahhhh.... thats goooooood sarcasm, yup

DAEDULUS

Red Alert wrote:

I wish I was 14 again! of course it's possible to be in love when you're 14, more likely to be physical/lust/infatuation but nevertheless it's a great feeling! enjoy it, and maybe she feels like that too

marshmellow is a she :P

Zulu

No.

smokingman

Sangre wrote:

So if its not any of those things then what possibly could it be?

If you read the rest of the post head, you'll see it's more than all these.....
..or is there some attention deficit problem you got there

pretty-in-pink

Hmm, Well maybe it's possible. My principal put it best (back in the day....aw the folly of being a school kid....)

Theres two kinds of love.

The "luv" kind, where you're feeling all these intense feelings for the first time, you want to experiment with them, they become your focal point, you'd die for them, It borders on obsession- and a lot of it is due to those wacky wack teenage hormones. Usually one person feels it more, and it can lead to horrible advantage taking. Its often felt as "being whole/complete when you're together". It's a very intense feeling, and it's very real.

The "love" kind, where you still feel like you'd do anything to keep them happy- they wouldn't expect you to do anything you felt truly uncomfortable with. Its about respect, trust, its about talking, and kissing, appreciating the finer things in the person- not just their ass, or legs etc, but the little things- like how they smile when they thik of you/their cat/chocolate, or how they might be quiter around certain people, its where you care so much for the person that you want to shield them from pain- or at least soften the blow. Its give and take, its selfless, and you wouldn't die for them, but rather if they died, you'd live to honour their memory. Its not about them being your other half, or completeing you- but rather they complement you and you draw out both the worst and best in eachother. Its also very intense and very real.

If you don't feel safe enough to fight, or to confront the big things that niggle you- then you're probably not in love. If you feel safe enough to tell them how you feel, to row about it, and to admit your mistakes- then you are probably in love.

IMHO opinon, until your hormones settle down, then its probably not going to be love but it might just be luv. Though this could be different if you're friends and you grow and change together. Luv can grow into love. Until you've had both, you can't really tell the difference. Best of luck anyway to the OP and that 15 year old girl. Its a great feeling, enjoy it while it lasts- but don't be to surprised if you find you don't love them in a years time- you're still growing and changing so its quite normal to grow apart from someone.

Remember that song "you cant hurry love....."